Personality Types/Occupations - Fetish or Not?

[RetroFan]

One negative comment I got on one of my stories was to 'write about anything but SPOILED ROTTEN BITCHES'. I think that Literotica might not be the right website for this reader, as 99.95% of the stories are about spoiled rotten bitches, even the gay male and non-human stories and science fiction stories set millions of years in the future.

Jokes aside, I really enjoying writing stories about spoiled young women, and in fact am writing one at the moment. But would you class an enjoyment of reading and writing stories about spoiled girls a fetish or not? If somebody else enjoyed writing and reading about nerdy gamer girls above other topics, would this be a fetish?

It's similar with occupations. If a Literotica author wrote stories that always involved the police - for example a girl sleeping her way out of a traffic offence charge with a young male officer, a male and female detective having a one night stand when travelling to another city to collect an absconded criminal, or a cougar female sergeant seducing a rookie male constable - would this be a fetish?

What are your thoughts? Would you class writing or reading about certain personality types or occupations a fetish? Or is fetishes only for certain sex acts or physical features that turn people on, such as foot and fat fetishes, among many others?

 

[oggbashan]

Just ignore the comment and write whatever you want to. I do.

 

[Jada59]

Do you have a link to the story?

 

[RetroFan]

Just ignore the comment and write whatever you want to. I do.

It wasn't the comment that bothered me, I laughed and found it amusing and have had far worse, including a request that I commit suicide (which of course I did not oblige).

My query was more about whether really enjoying writing about particular personality types and occupations - in my case spoiled girls - would be a fetish or not.

 

[Jada59]

It wasn't the comment that bothered me, I laughed and found it amusing and have had far worse, including a request that I commit suicide (which of course I did not oblige).

My query was more about whether really enjoying writing about particular personality types and occupations - in my case spoiled girls - would be a fetish or not.

Maybe a fixation. A fetish is something you need to get turned on.

 

[UsuallyPresent]

Given where the comment was posted, I had to laugh. Someone complaining about fetishes? HERE? ROFL!!! What exactly did they think this site is, anyways?

That being said, as Jada commented, if you get sexually turned on because you write about 'spoiled rotten bitches', it's a fetish - enjoy knowing one of your turn ons!

IMO, all sexual beings have 'em within moments of becoming sexually active. By 'active' I don't necessarily mean fucking, but curious and enticed by some portion of their and/or others' sexuality. *shrug*

 

[lovecraft68]

Anything, and I mean anything can be a fetish, and if that's what you're writing you'll get an audience with the same taste, but also get trolls because trolls gotta troll.

I like the professional woman who comes across as frigid and uptight and downright bitchy in work, then goes home, dresses slutty and hits the bars looking to get her brains fucked out and going at it like a porn star.

Fetish? Sure,why not.

 

[KeithD]

Just ignore the comment and write whatever you want to. I do.

Bingo.

My protagonist more often than not is a male prostitute who enjoys his work.

 

[TarnishedPenny]

I wouldn’t worry about labels. Especially as UsuallyPresent notes, labels assigned by anonymous critics on what is, after all, a porn site.

Not being able to function sexually unless your partner is (picking something at random) is a plump blonde might be a fetish; having a fondness for plump blondes (or stories featuring them) is not.

 

[RejectReality]

I think Fetish is one of those words that's strayed significantly enough from its base definition to have a different meaning. The "necessary" part no longer really applies. Fetish and Kink more or less mean the same thing in broader culture.

So it depends upon if you're adhering strictly to the definition, or the common use.

 

[lovecraft68]

I think Fetish is one of those words that's strayed significantly enough from its base definition to have a different meaning. The "necessary" part no longer really applies. Fetish and Kink more or less mean the same thing in broader culture.

So it depends upon if you're adhering strictly to the definition, or the common use.

I think you're thinking more of fetishism.

Fetish is something that usually refers to something seen as not necessarily sexual, but it does it for some people. Feet being the most common example.

So feet provide some sexual stimulation...

Where it becomes fetishism is when a person(generally men are far more susceptible to this) cannot obtain arousal unless the fetish is involved.

Example, a man loved to fondle his wife's ass before and during sex, he became so obsessed with it that he could no longer get hard unless he touched it and they could only have sex doggy style.

That was an actual case study referenced in a sexual psychology course.

I'm a fountain of disjointed and often useless information

 

[NoJo]

I write exclusively dominant females, (spoiled brats being a subcategory). That's not a fetish, it's part of my sexuality. Some of my characters exercise (or abuse) their power by exploiting male fetishes, usually in the prosaic and practical quest for money and security. They often have professions which make for situations where they are in control - e.g. company CEO, hypnotherapist, teacher, policewoman, jail-warden etc - all of which is of course stock fare in porn.

Fetishes/kinks are something else - the distinguishing feature is something that was not intended or evolved to be sexual is perceived in this way, like feet, balloons, -- and perhaps pain and constraint.

 

[NoJo]

Example, a man loved to fondle his wife's ass before and during sex, he became so obsessed with it that he could no longer get hard unless he touched it and they could only have sex doggy style.

Not only that, but he broke the tenth commandment.

In that case, I have a cunnilingus fetish.

 

[ElectricBlue]

Not being able to function sexually unless your partner is (picking something at random) is a plump blonde might be a fetish; having a fondness for plump blondes (or stories featuring them) is not.

That's the key distinction for me, when separating fetish from kink. Fetish is 'must have', kink is 'like to have.' I reckon .

 

[RetroFan]

I write exclusively dominant females, (spoiled brats being a subcategory). That's not a fetish, it's part of my sexuality. Some of my characters exercise (or abuse) their power by exploiting male fetishes, usually in the prosaic and practical quest for money and security. They often have professions which make for situations where they are in control - e.g. company CEO, hypnotherapist, teacher, policewoman, jail-warden etc - all of which is of course stock fare in porn.

Fetishes/kinks are something else - the distinguishing feature is something that was not intended or evolved to be sexual is perceived in this way, like feet, balloons, -- and perhaps pain and constraint.

I too often write about dominant female characters, although not exclusively some of my female characters are nice as can be. And a couple of my female characters have been spoiled but not nasty with it. Many of the other female characters I write about are not spoiled, but they are not nice people.

Like Allison, my lead character from 'The PTA Queen Bee & the Teen Rebel' is dominant over her husband (who is too wrapped up in his own weird obsessions to pay his wife much attention), bullies other parents on the PTA and in her job as a real estate broker, cheats and misleads property buyers without a grain of conscience. Breanna from my fetish series 'Trailer Trash Teen Hates Rules' along with her sidekick Isabella are also not spoiled, but they are a nasty pair of sociopaths who enjoy committing many crimes and playing twisted pranks on people. Dakota and her mother Jodie from 'Body Swap With Sister's Boyfriend' are likewise bitches without being spoiled, and Jo from 'The Starlet Seduces the Stagehand' did not grow up spoiled - she spent her formative years in abject poverty in rural Oregon - but after finding fame in 1930s Hollywood her ego got out of control and made her into a total diva and one of the biggest bitches to ever set foot on a film set.

It is so much fun writing about nasty female characters, because you can get away with so much more with them than equivalent male characters. For example, in my first ever Literotica story 'Shy Steve Meets Sexy Stacy' Stacy is a bitchy college girl who constantly bosses around, humiliates and puts down her younger brother, but she is still sexy. A male character acting the same way would just be a jerk, and not sexy or interesting at all.

 

[lovecraft68]

I write exclusively dominant females, (spoiled brats being a subcategory). That's not a fetish, it's part of my sexuality. Some of my characters exercise (or abuse) their power by exploiting male fetishes, usually in the prosaic and practical quest for money and security. They often have professions which make for situations where they are in control - e.g. company CEO, hypnotherapist, teacher, policewoman, jail-warden etc - all of which is of course stock fare in porn.

Fetishes/kinks are something else - the distinguishing feature is something that was not intended or evolved to be sexual is perceived in this way, like feet, balloons, -- and perhaps pain and constraint.

You hear about that new thing going around? There's a name for it that always eludes me, but its women online who demand men give hem money and buy them things and for no return. No nude vids, not pics, nothing...the guys I believe they call paypigs.

And guys will do this...the woman will say "I need $30 to get my nails done, pay me now you worthless POS and they do it.

I've tried to convince my wife it could be a good part time job, but she says she can't be that mean.

Damn goody goody

 

[GroverLang]

You hear about that new thing going around? There's a name for it that always eludes me, but its women online who demand men give hem money and buy them things and for no return. No nude vids, not pics, nothing...the guys I believe they call paypigs.

And guys will do this...the woman will say "I need $30 to get my nails done, pay me now you worthless POS and they do it.

I've tried to convince my wife it could be a good part time job, but she says she can't be that mean.

Damn goody goody

I believe the term you are looking for is FINDOM (financial domination) and is a strange phenomenon but one I can understand.

I used to visit professional mistresses, not now because I’m getting too old to bother, and remember an occasion when I attended a “group domination party” at the invitation of two ladies I’d had sessions with, at no charge to myself but obviously the other gentleman had to pay.

I’m not submissive I just enjoyed playing the part and after my first session with these two ladies, when we were enjoying coffee and cake, we were having a chat and that was when they asked if I’d like to attend as their guest and act the part of a master which was good fun.

It was run by the ladies in the home of a transvestite friend who catered for men who wanted to be dominated by a transvestite. Nice guy, not gay, but who just enjoyed dressing in female clothing.

The “party” was a real eye opener. I would not have believed some of the things the men, who really were as submissive as ones you read about in some stories, were prepared to do and in front of others. Prior to the “party” the ladies had told me the men got satisfaction very differently from myself but I hadn’t realised to what extent. They really were totally submissive and, without hesitation or embarrassment, did whatever they were instructed to do no matter what the task.

It still sticks in my mind although it was many years ago and, when my memory occasionally goes back to relive the times with the ladies, it comes to mind and it’s still hard to believe what I saw.

 

[lovecraft68]

I believe the term you are looking for is FINDOM (financial domination) and is a strange phenomenon but one I can understand.

I used to visit professional mistresses, not now because I’m getting too old to bother, and remember an occasion when I attended a “group domination party” at the invitation of two ladies I’d had sessions with, at no charge to myself but obviously the other gentleman had to pay.

I’m not submissive I just enjoyed playing the part and after my first session with these two ladies, when we were enjoying coffee and cake, we were having a chat and that was when they asked if I’d like to attend as their guest and act the part of a master which was good fun.

It was run by the ladies in the home of a transvestite friend who catered for men who wanted to be dominated by a transvestite. Nice guy, not gay, but who just enjoyed dressing in female clothing.

The “party” was a real eye opener. I would not have believed some of the things the men, who really were as submissive as ones you read about in some stories, were prepared to do and in front of others. Prior to the “party” the ladies had told me the men got satisfaction very differently from myself but I hadn’t realised to what extent. They really were totally submissive and, without hesitation or embarrassment, did whatever they were instructed to do no matter what the task.

It still sticks in my mind although it was many years ago and, when my memory occasionally goes back to relive the times with the ladies, it comes to mind and it’s still hard to believe what I saw.

But at least that as still in person, which gave them something out of it because the women were present. The Findom(yes, that's what I was looking for) is nothing in return, often not even a picture, so its really bizarre. I would imagine one could be treated like crap for free (especially seeing this is nothing sexual about this that I've seen.)

I wonder if these guys send bank info and money to those Nigerian prince e-mails?

 

[SimonDoom]

That's the key distinction for me, when separating fetish from kink. Fetish is 'must have', kink is 'like to have.' I reckon .

I think this hits close to the mark.

The Merriam-Webster's definition of "fetish" is:

Definition of fetish
1a: an object (such as a small stone carving of an animal) believed to have magical power to protect or aid its owner broadly : a material object regarded with superstitious or extravagant trust or reverence
b: an object of irrational reverence or obsessive devotion : PREPOSSESSION
c: an object or bodily part whose real or fantasied presence is psychologically necessary for sexual gratification and that is an object of fixation to the extent that it may interfere with complete sexual expression

A kink can be a fetish, but it isn't necessarily a fetish. If I like reading stories about hucows, that's a kink, not a fetish. But if the only way I can get sexual gratification is by having a woman dress up as a cow and read a hucow story to me while I'm dressed like a farmer, I probably have a fetish.

I think anything can be a sexual fetish, but there's an extra element of obsessiveness, devotion, object-deflection, and need that is needed to turn it from a kink into a fetish.

 

[GroverLang]

But at least that as still in person, which gave them something out of it because the women were present.

All the men at the “party” (they were held every 2/3 months) got what they wanted and all of them did whatever they were told to do willingly. One or both of the mistresses were fully aware of which activity/activities gave each man pleasure and they catered for it.

The men were all different in every aspect. The event was a fixed fee for a three hour duration but after an hour, although I had found it interesting, I had to leave. I’m not that much of a voyeur. But the occasion gave me an insight into some of the reasons clients visit a mistress.

One guy had a smoking fetish catered for by the transvestite and the younger mistress. The older mistress, who I been seeing on a one-to-one basis, doesn’t smoke.

One smartly dressed businessman turned up with his female clothes and wig in a hold-all. He stood about three feet away from me having his two inch thin penis sucked by a nice old gentleman. They were both getting satisfaction, without hurting anyone, and neither felt embarrassed or humiliated even with people watching.

All the men there were just part of a group of several men enjoying things not understood by the general public.

 

[RetroFan]

I think this hits close to the mark.

The Merriam-Webster's definition of "fetish" is:

Definition of fetish
1a: an object (such as a small stone carving of an animal) believed to have magical power to protect or aid its owner broadly : a material object regarded with superstitious or extravagant trust or reverence
b: an object of irrational reverence or obsessive devotion : PREPOSSESSION
c: an object or bodily part whose real or fantasied presence is psychologically necessary for sexual gratification and that is an object of fixation to the extent that it may interfere with complete sexual expression

A kink can be a fetish, but it isn't necessarily a fetish. If I like reading stories about hucows, that's a kink, not a fetish. But if the only way I can get sexual gratification is by having a woman dress up as a cow and read a hucow story to me while I'm dressed like a farmer, I probably have a fetish.

I think anything can be a sexual fetish, but there's an extra element of obsessiveness, devotion, object-deflection, and need that is needed to turn it from a kink into a fetish.

I love your hucow example, that's really funny, I keep seeing the image of that in my mind.

I'm not sure what type of stories you mainly write, but if you like to write funny stories you should include it in one of your works. For example, a wife wonders what her philandering husband has been getting up to, and it turns out he is frequenting a brothel where he dresses up as a farmer and one of the girls dressed as a cow reads erotic fiction about hucows to him.

 

[jaF0]

I like the professional woman who comes across as frigid and uptight and downright bitchy in work, then goes home, dresses slutty and hits the bars looking to get her brains fucked out and going at it like a porn star.

Fetish? Sure,why not.

If I do a character like that, she usually dresses somewhere in between for the office. Heels a bit too high, skirts a bit too short, tops a bit too tight ....

 

[NoJo]

You hear about that new thing going around? There's a name for it that always eludes me, but its women online who demand men give hem money and buy them things and for no return. No nude vids, not pics, nothing...the guys I believe they call paypigs.

And guys will do this...the woman will say "I need $30 to get my nails done, pay me now you worthless POS and they do it.

I've tried to convince my wife it could be a good part time job, but she says she can't be that mean.

Damn goody goody

My wife refuses to take all my money and ruin me, even though I keep begging her to, the heartless bitch.