Personal preferences

[artistgonewyld]

Everyone has an image in their mind of what a mate should look like--or what we like our partners to look like overall.

Some guys like short girls--some guys like tall girls.

Some girls like hairy men and some like hairless.

Do you like big breasts, big butts, long legs, or vice versa?

Do you like tall muscular men, short skinny men?

Dark hair, blonde hair, red hair.

Tell me what your ideal partner (or partners) would look like from top to bottom.

I love Blondes and brunettes, but I prefer light brown hair, about shoulder length, maybe a few inches longer. I am definitely a breast man, but I like fairly tall girls. I'm 6'1 so I like girls that are able to kiss me without me bending over. LOL. 5'5 to 5'9 is very good. 32 C to 36DD breasts are great. Asses aren't really my thing, but I do like the white-chick ass. A little round but not over round. That Marilyn Monroe or Kate Winslet type of ass is great. I like muscular or roundish thighs. I am not into chicken legs. She must have hazel or blue eyes and big full lips. She should have a nice V-shaped bush that has the edges trimmed slightly, or at least a little bit of hair. I am big into chins, actually. I love a girl that has a pronounced chin. (don't know why) An ideal weight would be between 140 to 160. (somewhere in that range). She must have a pretty modern style but not like Paris Hilton. I hate pretentious girls. A girl that will go without a bra pretty often is very sexy. A girl that'll sleep neked is very sexy. They should dress somewhat slutty but not disgusting. (Paris Hilton) They should be a little wild but very loyal. They should be very-very smart and love to talk and babble about anything. O, and this is big for me, I love a girl that will drink a beer with me. I refuse to date girls that won't drink beer. That's just me.

Oh, and they must love to dance but not be very good at it. LOL. I am a bad dancer, but I love to dance and someone similar is awesome.

I'd love to hear everyone's ideal partner. Don't be afraid to be specific. I probably forgot some things too... So add on if you want.

 

[monique1971]

Tell me what your ideal partner (or partners) would look like from top to bottom.

I love Blondes and brunettes, but I prefer light brown hair, about shoulder length, maybe a few inches longer. I am definitely a breast man, but I like fairly tall girls. I'm 6'1 so I like girls that are able to kiss me without me bending over. LOL. 5'5 to 5'9 is very good. 32 C to 36DD breasts are great. Asses aren't really my thing, but I do like the white-chick ass. A little round but not over round. That Marilyn Monroe or Kate Winslet type of ass is great. I like muscular or roundish thighs. I am not into chicken legs. She must have hazel or blue eyes and big full lips. She should have a nice V-shaped bush that has the edges trimmed slightly, or at least a little bit of hair. I am big into chins, actually. I love a girl that has a pronounced chin. (don't know why) An ideal weight would be between 140 to 160. (somewhere in that range). She must have a pretty modern style but not like Paris Hilton. I hate pretentious girls. A girl that will go without a bra pretty often is very sexy. A girl that'll sleep neked is very sexy. They should dress somewhat slutty but not disgusting. (Paris Hilton) They should be a little wild but very loyal. They should be very-very smart and love to talk and babble about anything. O, and this is big for me, I love a girl that will drink a beer with me. I refuse to date girls that won't drink beer. That's just me.

Oh, and they must love to dance but not be very good at it. LOL. I am a bad dancer, but I love to dance and someone similar is awesome.

I'd love to hear everyone's ideal partner. Don't be afraid to be specific. I probably forgot some things too... So add on if you want.

I live in the real world. So putting together my Identikit Ideal Guy seems like a pointless exercise to me. I'm never going to meet him anyway, so why bother?

Are you hoping that this Dream Girl will be reading Lit right now, and that she'll instantly PM you to say, "Hey, you're describing ME"? Or does it just excite you to write about her even though you realize you'll probably never find her?

<shrug> Everyone needs a hobby, so if fantasizing about That One Perfect Grrrl is yours, right on, but I've got better ways to spend my time.*


*Not withstanding the insane amount of time I spend on Lit.

 

[ShinigamiSama]

I'd be pretty screwed to even see a girl that resembles my ideal

grey eyes and red hair are really hard to come by and are usually mutual exclusive

 

[Byakuya]

I'm only 5'7" so I like women who are a bit shorter than me. I think my ideal height for a woman is 5'1".. although my wife is 5'8" so it isn't really that big a deal.. I like athletic women too.. I'm not talking about the skin & bones anorexic look, I mean I want a woman who is in good shape.. someone who could go biking with me and keep up.. breast size doesn't matter much to me.. I've seen attractive breasts from A through E, so that isn't much of an issue for me.. it's hard to pick my ideal weight for a woman because a lot of it depends on where she carries her weight.. large hips can be a turnon, but a large stomach is a turnoff.. looks aside, I want a woman who is faithful, fun to hang out with, a lady in public, and a whore in the bedroom..

 

[Lorali82]

My ideal man is obviously going to be someone who I connect with on a mental level, physicality aside. And in all honesty I find this to be far more important than appearance. That said, there aren't many things of a superficial nature that would prevent me from dating someone, but I tend to find my eyes following guys who are shorter in stature, dark of complexion, slightly wiry and bespectacled.

 

[koalabear]

Intelligence and a sense of humor top my list You can be the most beautiful lady in the world, but if you cannot communicate and make me laugh, bye.

 

[monique1971]

Intelligence and a sense of humor top my list You can be the most beautiful lady in the world, but if you cannot communicate and make me laugh, bye.

Color me cynical, but when I read this kind of statement, I can't help but smile wryly. While not accusing you of outright falsehood, I'd submit that artistgonewyld's detailed blueprint specifying eye color, pubic hair shape, etc., is a much more honest answer than yours. Do you really mean to say that when you picture your ideal woman you only imagine an abstracted intellect/sense of humor? Somehow I doubt it.

 

[artistgonewyld]

I live in the real world. So putting together my Identikit Ideal Guy seems like a pointless exercise to me. I'm never going to meet him anyway, so why bother?

Are you hoping that this Dream Girl will be reading Lit right now, and that she'll instantly PM you to say, "Hey, you're describing ME"? Or does it just excite you to write about her even though you realize you'll probably never find her?

<shrug> Everyone needs a hobby, so if fantasizing about That One Perfect Grrrl is yours, right on, but I've got better ways to spend my time.*


*Not withstanding the insane amount of time I spend on Lit.

I'm surprised by you, Monique. I've not known you to be such an individual that would write something like this. There are some I would expect this from, but I wouldn't have thought about you doing it. So, like I would tell anyone else, if you don't like the concept, why even reply? I just don't get it.

This site is about fantasy...simply put. I wanted to try to put a thread out there where people would open up their thoughts and possibly express themselves. HOW IS THAT BAD?

Does my description bother you? Is yes, too bad. If no, then what is the point.

I have no aspirations of meeting any dream girl here. I was simply trying to state how people have preferences and I thought they might like to express them. So, I started it off..

I like you, monique, but that surprised me. You start off by saying you live in the real world and then finish by adding how much time you spend on this site (not the real world). A slight contradiction.

As for everyone else, please feel free to describe and express your thoughts and desires openly. This isn't a nazi board.

 

[koalabear]

Color me cynical, but when I read this kind of statement, I can't help but smile wryly. While not accusing you of outright falsehood, I'd submit that artistgonewyld's detailed blueprint specifying eye color, pubic hair shape, etc., is a much more honest answer than yours. Do you really mean to say that when you picture your ideal woman you only imagine an abstracted intellect/sense of humor? Somehow I doubt it.

That's one bet you would lose. But I do have much more experience than you. Spend your life looking for a certain hair color or this or that, and that is what you will have. A life spent looking and not finding...

 

[TALL_MAN]

Don't kull nothing 18 to 80 blind...crippled....or crazy i say

 

[Noor]

eyes that can twinkle, a mind that can makes me think and laugh, someone I can happily talk with for hours, a voice that feels good on my ears and he must smell right.

 

[Lorali82]

Don't kull nothing 8 to 80 blind...crippled....or crazy i say

You might want to insert a 1 in front of one of those numbers...

 

[ShinigamiSama]

You might want to insert a 1 in front of one of those numbers...

8 to 180?
iuno thats getting pretty old hun...

 

[Lorali82]

8 to 180?
iuno thats getting pretty old hun...

Hardy har har.

 

[Lorali82]

Color me cynical, but when I read this kind of statement, I can't help but smile wryly. While not accusing you of outright falsehood, I'd submit that artistgonewyld's detailed blueprint specifying eye color, pubic hair shape, etc., is a much more honest answer than yours. Do you really mean to say that when you picture your ideal woman you only imagine an abstracted intellect/sense of humor? Somehow I doubt it.

While I obviously can't speak for koalabear, what I got from his post was that he isn't necessarily denying that we all have certain physical attributes we prefer over others. However, if he can't connect with a woman on an intellectual and emotional level, this pretty much negates whatever positives she has in the looks department.

Yeah, there are certain guys I'm more physically attracted to than others because they happen to look a certain way. But if a guy who fits my ideal physical mold turns out to be a complete idiot or jerk then I walk. On the other hand, I've found myself becoming attracted to some men only after getting to know them (i.e., there was no initial physical attraction). For some of us it's more about the mind fuck than the literal fuck.

 

[monique1971]

Warning: Long Post

While I obviously can't speak for koalabear, what I got from his post was that he isn't necessarily denying that we all have certain physical attributes we prefer over others. However, if he can't connect with a woman on an intellectual and emotional level, this pretty much negates whatever positives she has in the looks department.

Yeah, there are certain guys I'm more physically attracted to than others because they happen to look a certain way. But if a guy who fits my ideal physical mold turns out to be a complete idiot or jerk then I walk. On the other hand, I've found myself becoming attracted to some men only after getting to know them (i.e., there was no initial physical attraction). For some of us it's more about the mind fuck than the literal fuck.

Fair enough; that certainly makes sense.

I'll admit I'm cynical. I do think that many people, male and female, claim that intelligence and sense of humor are the most attractive thing because they're worried about being perceived as superficial if they admitted that what they really go for is a particular look, or even simply a person who's more conventionally attractive. It probably wasn't fair of me to pick on koalabear specifically, but in its brevity, his post seemed to suggest to me that what he looks for first in a woman is intelligence, and honestly I simply can't believe that's true, not because I think poorly of him as an individual -- I certainly don't, and I hardly know him -- but because I don't think anyone looks first for intelligence.

If that were so, I'd be the most-pursued women on the planet.

I'm surprised by you, Monique. I've not known you to be such an individual that would write something like this. There are some I would expect this from, but I wouldn't have thought about you doing it. So, like I would tell anyone else, if you don't like the concept, why even reply? I just don't get it.

I suppose by "such an individual" you mean that you thought I was nicer than my post. I'm still a kind person; I simply happen to disagree with you about this. As for my reasons for replying, I'd ask, why not reply? It might have led to an interesting debate. I didn't say that you should be banned, or the thread deleted; I didn't call anyone names. Why are my reasons for thinking that fantasizing about the perfect mate is a waste of time any less valid than your reasons for wanting to do so?

This site is about fantasy...simply put. I wanted to try to put a thread out there where people would open up their thoughts and possibly express themselves. HOW IS THAT BAD?

My personal opinion is that writing out one's description of a perfect mate is "pointless," but I don't think I said anything to indicate that I thought that no one should post. Naturally, other people will feel differently from myself about your query, and they're entitled to their opinion too. I think you are making me out to be way more judgmental than I really am. That said, it's true enough that I wrote my post in a somewhat flippant, tongue-in-cheek way, and sometimes that kind of tone can come across differently on these boards than originally intended.

Does my description bother you? Is yes, too bad. If no, then what is the point.

Does it bother me? Well, insofar as I'm an egomaniac who thinks that I myself am the Ideal of every man, sure. I am SO not your dream girl! But seriously: No, the specifics of your description didn't bother me; why should they? I think elsewhere I even said your post was "honest," which I think it is.

I like you, monique, but that surprised me. You start off by saying you live in the real world and then finish by adding how much time you spend on this site (not the real world). A slight contradiction.

Yes, I am aware of the contradiction. That was an attempt at humor, obviously lost on you. I tried to signal that by decreasing the font size, to indicate a sort of sotto voce quality to my last statement, an aside, a marginal remark, a wink at the reader, something of that sort.

As for everyone else, please feel free to describe and express your thoughts and desires openly. This isn't a nazi board.

Good heavens, you aren't implying that I'm a Nazi, are you? That would be kind of a downer, not to mention wildly inaccurate.

 

[bluebell]

"Why can't a woman be more like a man?" -H. Higgins

I appreciate where both Artist and Monique are coming from. It is fun to let your mind dive into a pool of fantasy...it's like Build-A-Bear or something (that probably sounds much worse than I mean it to, sorry).

I think a lot of people know that they're going to have to take "compromises" in the ideal mate department, because if they don't then they're alone in the cold.
As stupid as this sounds, we're a potluck people. We all bring something different to the table, and some of that stuff, while not worked into our profile for an ideal mate, can be pretty damn awesome. The surprises of getting to know someone are not necessarily traits, physical or otherwise, that we could have planned on.
So yeah, for real life, we definitely can't have Make-Your-Own-Mate, but for the purposes of fantasy, I think Artist has a really fun idea.

I also completely understand where Monique is coming from because it's difficult not to feel cynical if your cynicism has not been disproved in real life. I've had issues with that as well. Sometimes it's troubling to feel like you're the one making all the concessions to the world.

Guys are incredibly visual. Sometimes their motives are sex-related, and sometimes they just want to know what people look like. Since women generally don't approach the world like that, it can be hard to accept and take that in. It starts to make you feel bad if you don't make a conscious effort to not take it as an insult, and I really don't believe they mean it to be that way.

In fact, as visual as men are, I firmly believe that confidence is still just as much of an attraction as looks, shallow fools notwithstanding. It doesn't make them evil, it just makes them different from us.

 

[monique1971]

I also completely understand where Monique is coming from because it's difficult not to feel cynical if your cynicism has not been disproved in real life. I've had issues with that as well. Sometimes it's troubling to feel like you're the one making all the concessions to the world.

Guys are incredibly visual. Sometimes their motives are sex-related, and sometimes they just want to know what people look like. Since women generally don't approach the world like that, it can be hard to accept and take that in. It starts to make you feel bad if you don't make a conscious effort to not take it as an insult, and I really don't believe they mean it to be that way.

Let me be entirely clear: I am not saying that people, male or female, should look beyond the physical. That's like saying that people should be able to fly. I mean, it certainly would be useful, but it's never going to happen. There's no point in getting all fussed about people's gravitation towards the physically attractive; it's a fact of life.

That said, obviously an enduring relationship is built on more than physical attraction, but I don't think anyone's questioning that.

I'll go be quiet now. I seem to be making enemies right and left today both on the GB and here, and despite appearances I don't really want to hijack artistsgonewyld's thread. Anyone who wishes to discuss further, PM me.

 

[koalabear]

yawwwwwwwnnnnnnnn

 

[Lorali82]

yawwwwwwwnnnnnnnn

Are we boring you?

 

[koalabear]

Are we boring you?

Just the cynical types......

 

[artistgonewyld]

Just the cynical types......

Now that's funny.

C'mon people. Let's hear what you dream about, what you want, what you masterbate too, what you long for, and what you never can have but like to think about anyways.

 

[sereneone4u]

Hmmmm....I do not really have a physical type...other than I prefer a man to be taller than me. I have been attracted to lean, athletic, average, teddy bear men. As long as they are not to the extreme either way, I like them all, same with eye and hair color. Personality traits are where my preferences lie. I like a man that is intelligent, good sense of humor, fun, thoughtful and kind, real, responsible, patient, sense of adventure, open, and honest.

 

[ShinigamiSama]

Now that's funny.

C'mon people. Let's hear what you dream about, what you want, what you masterbate too, what you long for, and what you never can have but like to think about anyways.

fine I'll bite and give you my ideal that I don't even think exists :\

5"4'-5"8'
28-38 C-CC
red hair, grey / light green eyes
almond shaped face
big bright eyes
trim, hyper and sensual
naughty but in a discrete way
and happy for who she is

 

[Ekserb]

None of the physical stuff really matters. The only important thing is that she is smart, funny, and is confident in her own skin. What I really like is....... What the...?

Ow! Get the fu ... OOOF! How did you ge...? Get him, Tigger! GET HIM!



What the fuck?!? I don't who that fucker was, but he's gone.

I like a girl with some meat on her. I like powerful thighs and calves, and a nice round ass that tapers up to a skinny little waist. I'm an ass-man, so the breast size means little to me, big or small. Eye color, hair color and length, skin tone - these things are secondary to the ass.



And a shaved pussy.