Personal Life Changing Events of 2004, a reflection

Woodmiester

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With just a few days left before the new year I find myself looking back over the last 12 months and thinking that for once some events took place that did indeed change my life, my outlook on life and how I plan or better yet hope to continue to life my life.

Since at times some share things be it a song, poems, thoughts and desires, thought maybe some might wish to leave some things that took place this past year that changed you also. Not just minor things which can add up to a large change but something with meat, a major life altering kinda thing. I would guess if anyone wishes to share they could do it in a single post or come back as you remember them. Some of it might be sad or happy, doesn't matter. With that said here goes mine.

Started 2004 with my mother in a nursing home, then back and forth and a slow yet steadt decline till her death in May.
Along those same lines the wife which was terminal with a PBS, having an ongoing cough that finally put her in the hospital 6 days after my mother died, and then she died exactly 30 days after my mother.
Thinking that after dealing with it all that at my age life was going to run a level road with any hope of being happy gone, finding I was very wrong as someone entered into it and showed me that love can be real, caring can be real and hope is just that, hope. Feeling those feelings we have in youth come back alive and knowing it's not lust but true love and falling in love.
Doing those things that maybe in th epast you hated or even refused to do, that now you want to do them, enjoying them and looking forward to doing whatever comes ahead just to see the smile on their face.
Realizing that a parents hate towards the spouse can and does ruin and tant a childs mind, yet seeing and learning that all hope isn't lost if your willing and able to see things through, and stick with your child and remind them they are wanted and loved, even when they screw up over and over.
Watching my son keep a smile on his face and show support for others when another kid might have cried, made a comment of a scene and being so damn proud of him I could burst for holding it inside and even telling me later it was okay when I know his heart was broken.
Living in a house and seeing it becoming a home once again.
 
All I can say is it's been one hell of a year....more changes for me than I ever expected to happen...reflecting back...all necessary changes....and I feel great!!!!!!
 
I fell in love HARD... and lost it hard... that is what life is... taking the risk... cowards don't feel a broken heart, but they'll never know what it means to truely feel love...

I never thought I would fall deeply in love with another person... the last time was with a woman who's in Boston. She filled my soul, helped open my eyes... I felt like a PERSON with her, warm, passionate, and whole. Things blew-up, and I didn't know if I would ever feel that IT in my heart again... that feeling that you could share EVERYTHING in your heart and soul and not feel like they're looking at you like an alien...

And then I found her here, writing on a thread... reading her opinions and going 'Holy shit... who is she?!?!??!?!!!' I pm'ed her quickly... I had to talk with her... she was articulate, funny, warm, intelligent... we IM'ed a few times, and we both opened up to each other... a whirl-wind like nothing else I felt since... well, since Boston... and after just talking for a few nights... I said the 'l' word... I was falling in love with her...

It was an explosion... all the warm, mushy stuff you do when you're a couple; hours an dhours on the phone, mushy e-mails, passioante text-messages... all the while, sharing EVERYTHING... not being afraid of who I was, what I wanted, just feeling FREE...

And like relationships that are so hot and pasisonate and explosive... it went out so fast... one minute talking all day long... then nothing... growing apart, the need for space.... everything crashing down....

But in the midst of all of this... just one thought... one piece of hope... IT HAPPENED... after feeling alone... it happened... lightening in a bottle... to feel so much, to feel so close... to touch a soul...

I was raised Buddhist, and one of the things I remember from my Mom's funeral is the addage 'Life is suffering'...and that pissed me off to no end. Is that IT, we go through life so we can get our asses kicked and beaten and hopefully DIE so the pain ends?

... that wasn't the point of 'Life is suffering'.... things hurt, we feel so much pain, because THAT IS THE ONLY WAY TO TRUELY LIVE AND SAY YOU TRIED... each mooment of pain is the price you pay for reaching farther, for trying for that one someTHING that will reach your soul...

It is not easy to fight and try and hope... and there are time when we crash and burn and it feels like something ripped your sould apart... BUT... the only way to truely feel somtehing that special, is to take that risk... to live with the fact that 'life is suffering'...

It's easy NOT to suffer... you find a little corner, and never leave, never grow, find a safe place away from the storm, cold, pain, and everything... and if you do that, you'll never see what's out side... you'll never see what's down that path... yeah, you can also get hit by a bus... but there's also the equally good chance you'll find something well worth the trip...

I sit here, trying to understand what's happened in the last few months... how much things have changed, how much further there is to go... all I know is I found magic for the first time in a while... yes, it hurts to see it go... but IT WAS THERE... and only by risking again can I capture it again... so I pack my bag, grab my cloack and hat... and walking out the door and into the storm again... yeah, could get hit by lightening... but maybe not...
 
The last year....2004. Good grief, remembering the '60's & '70's and not imagining the millenium. A time that shaped my beliefs.

The year started with "Love"...and a longing to come back home.
Very public, a LDR. I had no patience. My solitude and greiving was over and I expected things to be the same for her. It wasn't, but we were engaged anyway. *I'm persistant*

It didn't last. I knew it in my heart before it happened. Ripped my soul to pieces, almost killed me. Nobody's fault. It just wasn't meant to be. I was lonely and searching for the "one" to share my life with.

I had pushed aside someone who loved me unconditionaly, for selfish reasons. I didn't give her the chance to explain the circumstances of her life. Luckily, she stayed with me. Our connection had withstood the test of fire. A lot of self-reflection, opening up my soul....her the same, and here we are again.

Another LDR...She trusts me and I will not betray that trust. Even given the go ahead. Pray that 2005 does see us TOGETHER.
 
69forever said:
The last year....2004. Good grief, remembering the '60's & '70's and not imagining the millenium. A time that shaped my beliefs.

The year started with "Love"...and a longing to come back home.
Very public, a LDR. I had no patience. My solitude and greiving was over and I expected things to be the same for her. It wasn't, but we were engaged anyway. *I'm persistant*

It didn't last. I knew it in my heart before it happened. Ripped my soul to pieces, almost killed me. Nobody's fault. It just wasn't meant to be. I was lonely and searching for the "one" to share my life with.

I had pushed aside someone who loved me unconditionaly, for selfish reasons. I didn't give her the chance to explain the circumstances of her life. Luckily, she stayed with me. Our connection had withstood the test of fire. A lot of self-reflection, opening up my soul....her the same, and here we are again.

Another LDR...She trusts me and I will not betray that trust. Even given the go ahead. Pray that 2005 does see us TOGETHER.

Sending you good vibes for 2005. :rose:
 
The year I began posting on Lit...

The year I found myself again...

The year I allowed my heart to open again..

The year I discovered I wasn't quite dead yet.

The year I made some mistakes..

The year I made a few friends, and met some very special ladies...

A pretty damn good year actually......
 
Darkknight2010 said:

thanks for the bump and keep hope DK, never count things out because of one or even a few glitches .... if I had done that and given up I would have missed what has and is now the best thing in my life
 
I didn't go through any personal life altering experiences this year, but my grandmother spent a brief time in the hospital which kind of puts things in perspective in regards to not taking loved ones for granted.
 
2004
what a year!

Like many of the posters on this thread,I met someone here at LIT too! However,my adventure started many years ago here!
I met her first at LIT chat,and then together we ventured into her writing poems and stories about us. Then,after meeting some friends from Australia on chat, they told us of the boards,which we didnt know existed.
Then, after sharing everything for over 6 months, I had to meet her. Even after people warned me about internet relationships!
Even after people warned me about lies people tell over the internet!Even after people thought I would be found bound nude and gaged and robbed of everything,since she lived in manhattan.Even though people never thought our green acres relationship would work,her from nyc,me from nebraska.
I flew into nyc,and then flew into her arms!It was like we knew each other so totally after sharing so much online.I got to know
her and her friends and I also got to know I could never continue in life without her. However,after one short week,I had to depart
and return to my life.
We knew we couldnt live apart but what could we do? we both had serious lack of$$$$$$. That led to what would happen next.
We finally realized 2 could live together cheaper than apart.
She then showed her true love,her devotion to our relationship
by giving up her whole life,her family ,friends,the only city where
she had spent and experienced her life in,to move to nebraska to be with me.
Really,after she moved here,we didnt live in nebraska,we lived in heaven!.After two years of bliss,I decided to take a chance.
This is what happened this year 2004. As dick clark rung in the new year,as the ball hit the bottom in time square,as the first minute of 2004 began, i gave her a glass of champagne,got on my knees and said

Will you marry me?

She said(after drenching me with her champagne)

http://lep694.gsfc.nasa.gov/lepedu/yes.gif

For the rest of the year Ive been humming the song!

I finally found someone

Yeah
Mmm

I finally found someone, who knocks me off my feet
I finally found the one who makes me feel complete
It started over coffee, we started out as friends
It’s funny how from simple things, the best things begin

This time is different (la, la, la, la)
It’s all because of you (la, la, la, la)
It’s better than it’s ever been
Cuz we can talk it through
My favorite line was can I call you sometime?
It’s all you had to say
To take my breath away

This is it
Oh, I finally found someone
Someone to share my life
I finally found the one to be with every night
Cause whatever I do
It’s just got to be you
My life has just begun, I finally found someone

Ooh, someone
I finally found someone
Ooh…

Did I keep you waiting (I didn’t mind)
I apologize (baby, that’s fine)
I would wait forever
Just to know you were mine
Ya know, I love your hair
(are you sure it looks right? )
I love what you wear
(isn’t it too tight)
You’re exceptional
I can’t wait for the rest of my life

Oh, this is it
Oh, I finally found someone
Someone to share my life
I finally found the one to be with every night
Cause whatever I do
It’s just got to be you
(oh, yeah)
My life has just begun
I finally found someone
And whatever I do
It’s just got to be you
Ooh, my life has just begun…
I finally found someone
 
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Omaha don'tcha just luv it when you prove others wrong?

Just maybe, kinda in a way I might have said something along those same words just the other night on Christmas Eve, but that will have to wait to be said at a later time

;)

Oh yea, we met on the net as well, did I mention that? lol
 
catching up on posts!

Woodmiester said:
Omaha don'tcha just luv it when you prove others wrong?

Just maybe, kinda in a way I might have said something along those same words just the other night on Christmas Eve, but that will have to wait to be said at a later time

;)

Oh yea, we met on the net as well, did I mention that? lol

Wishing you as wonderful an experience in your relationship as Oman and I have found with ours! A belated Happy New Year!:rose:
 
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