Personal Ads
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I don't have any personal ads at the moment. I like to think in "real-time" for the time being and interact from there. However, there was a time in my life that I put so much energy and passion into the "digital" and allowed that to be a lead, but like the moon wane and waxing, I have changed my stance. I am sure you know me from past times of engagement, and I think exposing yourself in an ad is the beginning, but it's not the an thesis of it all -- just an introduction to what may be on the other end of the coin.
I have had many hit-n-misses with personal ads. Some have become very good friends, lovers to fill the time needed to connect or exhaust a lingering vice, and others fall into their crooked connections.
Sometimes I just want to run away from this hunk of plastic and chips and catch the most positive feedback (for what it may be) as I breathe and walk around the town. A simple wink or a casual gaze and I know that "we" are in a tango, but maybe we will finish the dance or there will be another partner to grace the floors (or bed) with…
To be on the shortness, personal ads have reaped some positive rewards and tender connections, but that is my experience. Again, it's all relative and it's about accepting or taking, but "never" holding back.
I have had many hit-n-misses with personal ads. Some have become very good friends, lovers to fill the time needed to connect or exhaust a lingering vice, and others fall into their crooked connections.
Sometimes I just want to run away from this hunk of plastic and chips and catch the most positive feedback (for what it may be) as I breathe and walk around the town. A simple wink or a casual gaze and I know that "we" are in a tango, but maybe we will finish the dance or there will be another partner to grace the floors (or bed) with…
To be on the shortness, personal ads have reaped some positive rewards and tender connections, but that is my experience. Again, it's all relative and it's about accepting or taking, but "never" holding back.
Have personal ads at 4 different places. No, Lit is not one of them - I come here to play. Of the 4, one has been a dismal failure and am thinking of pulling it completely. The other 3 have all offered some interesting people.
One thing about personal ads is that I try to meet the person as soon as possible after they initially respond to an ad. Only in person can one truly tell what a person is like.
I don't rely on them soley, however. I think that, just like a lot of other networking tools, they have their place and time.
One thing about personal ads is that I try to meet the person as soon as possible after they initially respond to an ad. Only in person can one truly tell what a person is like.
I don't rely on them soley, however. I think that, just like a lot of other networking tools, they have their place and time.
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SexyChele said:
SexyChele, as you know and I do, the flesh is not always the absolute truth, but the beginning…
However, I agree, I do come here to play and allow my "real life" as the true playground, but I have made some engaging and heart felt connections online - as rare as they can or may be.
spankableBelle
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This is my 100th post...woohoo! for me...<giggles>
i have never placed a personal ad. i have seriously thought about it and have been encouraged by a few online friends to do so. i haven't...i don't know what i would say. i have the different chat or message programs (icq, msn, yahoo, etc...) and always fill in the profile section and perhaps i use that as some sort of personal ad....hmmm, the response isn't great, maybe i need to change a few things around...lol...
i work for a singles line and listen to people's personal ads everyday. The majority are looking for the same thing, saying the same thing, and are often terribly disappointed. i know for myself, there have only been a handful of ads over the last couple of years that i would have even given a second thought to were i listening as a means of finding someone. It's been an interesting experience, listening to men and women of all ages seeking and offering perfection...the playboy centerfold, the playgirl centerfold, financial security, walks in the park, honesty. Bland. Boring.
It would take uniqueness, creativity, curiousness to spark my interest and i think my own fear of placing a personal ad is that i would only fall into the bland and boring category myself and get lost...Then again, i do have a grand imagination...<giggles>
Anyway, my two cents worth...~smile~
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i have never placed a personal ad. i have seriously thought about it and have been encouraged by a few online friends to do so. i haven't...i don't know what i would say. i have the different chat or message programs (icq, msn, yahoo, etc...) and always fill in the profile section and perhaps i use that as some sort of personal ad....hmmm, the response isn't great, maybe i need to change a few things around...lol...
i work for a singles line and listen to people's personal ads everyday. The majority are looking for the same thing, saying the same thing, and are often terribly disappointed. i know for myself, there have only been a handful of ads over the last couple of years that i would have even given a second thought to were i listening as a means of finding someone. It's been an interesting experience, listening to men and women of all ages seeking and offering perfection...the playboy centerfold, the playgirl centerfold, financial security, walks in the park, honesty. Bland. Boring.
It would take uniqueness, creativity, curiousness to spark my interest and i think my own fear of placing a personal ad is that i would only fall into the bland and boring category myself and get lost...Then again, i do have a grand imagination...<giggles>
Anyway, my two cents worth...~smile~
belle
http://www.literotica.com/stories/memberpage.php?uid=72711
MissTaken
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OTV??????
MUAH. I have been missing you, dear friend of old.
Personal ads have also made some nice connections for me, but to date, not great luck. I place them for a week or two and pull them down. I tire of the "shopping aspect."
Here, I placed a tongue in cheek personal ad a few months ago which was prompty moved to the playground! (As it should be. It ended up being a playful thread.)
Naded? Yes. I find that just by posting regularly at lit, I come into contact with a lot of great and wonderful people.
A response to a personal ad can never compare to the "look" or special "hello" of someone who takes an interest real time.
To bad there aren't more single men in this area. Sincerely, there is very little opportunity for healthy social interaction here. (I dont' do bars.)
Anyway, going to get my coffee before I ramble you all into the ground with boredom!!!!!
MUAH. I have been missing you, dear friend of old.
Personal ads have also made some nice connections for me, but to date, not great luck. I place them for a week or two and pull them down. I tire of the "shopping aspect."
Here, I placed a tongue in cheek personal ad a few months ago which was prompty moved to the playground! (As it should be. It ended up being a playful thread.)
Naded? Yes. I find that just by posting regularly at lit, I come into contact with a lot of great and wonderful people.
A response to a personal ad can never compare to the "look" or special "hello" of someone who takes an interest real time.
To bad there aren't more single men in this area. Sincerely, there is very little opportunity for healthy social interaction here. (I dont' do bars.)
Anyway, going to get my coffee before I ramble you all into the ground with boredom!!!!!
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MissTaken
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Re: Hi Misstaken
I have done some.
Unfortunately, my current and favorite thread lies waiting as my partner and I have incredibly busy summers.
The Haunting of Canterville.....maybe I will dig it up today and see if cgraven can move it with me.
If you have a good idea,. let me know.
Stylez said:Hello MissTaken
Just wondering do u do any sexual role playing on here?
Stylez
I have done some.
Unfortunately, my current and favorite thread lies waiting as my partner and I have incredibly busy summers.
The Haunting of Canterville.....maybe I will dig it up today and see if cgraven can move it with me.
If you have a good idea,. let me know.
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The personals....
After my second marraige hit a reef 12 years ago, I tried the personals for the first time. I was also doing some bar scene then, too. I never ran an ad, I answered them. They were in a local free weekly, and, then it required a lot of letter writing - longhand. It amazed me how few responses came in, I suppose because there usually seem to be many more men than women looking....
I did have a one-year fling w/ one of the most bizarre women I have ever met - it was like hell on earth with her - but I was in a strange time of my life myself, and I know I was no picnic....
I ran a few ads of my own after that, and got some responses - I found more response in the winter rather than the summer. I did find my last LTR through my last ad - we were together nearly five years, and it has been over for five years....
I do have an ad on two other websites - I haven't gotten a response of any import from either. I haven't run a print ad for 10 years. I do not have an ad on Lit, and I probably won't run one. I did get turned on to Lit by a woman I chatted with answering her ad on another site - so that worked out well....
I don't meet women often during the course of my days, and I work in a male-dominated field (I won't date female co-workers or customers as a matter of policy - mine). I gave up the bar thing years ago. I have met a few women in R/L, but no one I have hit it off with.
I am a different single person today - I'm not needing someone to complete me, but as an accent....and I am just fine unaccented. No g/f is better than a bad g/f....
I have made a female friend on Lit. I have no idea where it may lead - we'll see when the time comes. I do have several female friends in R/L - friends only - and I can do that successfully w/ women today.
I think the personals can work great, whether in print or on the web, but that they are only as good as the emotional stability of the parties involved. I would advise against getting one's expectations too high.
Hope this will help someone. Happy hunting, and good luck!!!
After my second marraige hit a reef 12 years ago, I tried the personals for the first time. I was also doing some bar scene then, too. I never ran an ad, I answered them. They were in a local free weekly, and, then it required a lot of letter writing - longhand. It amazed me how few responses came in, I suppose because there usually seem to be many more men than women looking....
I did have a one-year fling w/ one of the most bizarre women I have ever met - it was like hell on earth with her - but I was in a strange time of my life myself, and I know I was no picnic....
I ran a few ads of my own after that, and got some responses - I found more response in the winter rather than the summer. I did find my last LTR through my last ad - we were together nearly five years, and it has been over for five years....
I do have an ad on two other websites - I haven't gotten a response of any import from either. I haven't run a print ad for 10 years. I do not have an ad on Lit, and I probably won't run one. I did get turned on to Lit by a woman I chatted with answering her ad on another site - so that worked out well....
I don't meet women often during the course of my days, and I work in a male-dominated field (I won't date female co-workers or customers as a matter of policy - mine). I gave up the bar thing years ago. I have met a few women in R/L, but no one I have hit it off with.
I am a different single person today - I'm not needing someone to complete me, but as an accent....and I am just fine unaccented. No g/f is better than a bad g/f....
I have made a female friend on Lit. I have no idea where it may lead - we'll see when the time comes. I do have several female friends in R/L - friends only - and I can do that successfully w/ women today.
I think the personals can work great, whether in print or on the web, but that they are only as good as the emotional stability of the parties involved. I would advise against getting one's expectations too high.
Hope this will help someone. Happy hunting, and good luck!!!
