People who are continually late....

[Merelan]

Is it a genetic thing? Or breeding? inconsideration?

I mean, someone who is always and forever late. Not always by alot. But there are days I swear he purposefully runs late as that is what I have come to expect. And, in truth, it is. So use to him forgetting things, or showing up late that I even plan for it.

Have had the you are inconsiderate lecture with him, the "you must show respect for others". He always seems sorry, and tries better, but within a few weeks he is back to running so close to time, or late it makes me nuts.
Okay, I admit it. I like to be early. Take my time getting ready, arrive a bit ahead of time to suss out the place and relax a bit.

And yes, his whole family is that way. So I guess it is both genetic, and breeding, and I am stuck with it.

Lucky I have Lit to hang out at while I wait.

 

[MissTaken]

Some people are habitually late and expect others to be understanding all the time.

For me, I HATE waiting... that watching the clock shit, looking out the window, wondering if he will make it, worrying about having to drive fast to get where we are going.....

I really, really hate it.

 

[OUTSIDER]

Late once or twice and I'm not bothered but be late over and over again and you'll soon not be seeing me any more

 

[unclej]

absolutely my biggest pet peave...i hate it, consider it to be the height of rudeness and have a hard time letting it pass...

a couple of lifetimes ago i was vice president of personnel for a fairly large co. in dallas...in the seven years i was employed there 6 out of the 8 people i fired were fired for consitent tardiness...

 

[lobito]

Being late is something I deal with everytime I visit my family in C. A.

More so with my Father and his family, but I noticed these past 3 weeks with other family members too. It's the old hurry up and wait thing with them. You'd think I'd learn by now, but I haven't.

They also like spur of teh moment things though. Just last week on vacation, we were outside the house in the yard, and the next thing I know we're all packed in teh car, leaving for a late lunch. Me with NO money, wallet or anything in my pockets, and my slippers on, and no chance to change the situation.

 

[Hamletmaschine]

This is a major source of misunderstanding between people. "Late" vs. "on time" aren't so simple to mark on a clock as some people would like them to be. Like any other element of communication, the coding of time (or "chronemics," as it's called) is culturally and historically variable, with plenty of room left for individual interpretations as well.

If you're planning to be with people who are continually late, by your clock, why don't you just plan to arrive "late" yourself? Or if you want to meet someone at, say, 3:00, and they always arrive 20-30 minutes late, tell 'em you'll meet 'em at 2:30.

 

[lavender]

 

[Rambling Rose]

I am always running 5 minutes late. I don't mean too, really I don't. OUTSIDER, come back!

 

[kotori]

Some people just are. I know someone who is so consistantly late, that even her mother tells her to be somewhere a half-hour early, so she'll only be a little late.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

I am ALWAYS late!! Usually up to a half-hour. I really do NOT understand the reason. I just procrastinate all the time, so I'm usually rushing around at the last minute to get to an appointment. (Thinking hard, the only time I'm early is when I need to make a flight!)

In my case, it doesn't appear to be genetic. In fact my mom is always a half-hour early!! (Mmmmm maybe it's a subconscience reaction to that!)

 

[VanB]

I'm really anal about being punctual but I was always taught to be 15 minutes late for a drinks party and on time for dinner.

However, I have noticed recently the trend for people to be up to 2 hours late for drinks parties and an hour late for dinner.

This, personally, I find totally inconsiderate

 

[Jewelz]

I can not stand being late nor people who are habitually late! Im usually insanely early! lol

 

[Spinaroonie]

My parents are late by nature.

My brother and I are late by nature.

I know where I got it from.

But so far I've been working hard to get to class on time and I'm doing really well

 

[Wizard]

I always thought I was fucked up in the head........I HAVE got to be early everywhere I go.......It don't matter I work about 2 mintues from my house and have to be early.....for real 2 mintues....about 15 houses away and one stop sign on the way home but none on the way in and a whole left turn...(right on the way home.

Dr appointments even though they make us wait.

School stuff....I don't matter at least 15 min. early.......I have to do it....never know what could happen along the way to make you late....


I have a friend that is excatly as you speak of.......Late for my son's comfermation....we go out to dinner late again.....

I tell him the wrong time when I can so he will be there on time....If it starts at 5:00 I tell him it starts at 4:30 then he MIGHT be there by 5:00

Pisses me off too.....................

 

[Jewelz]

Ok that is wicked weird!!.....dayum double posting.....(and it shows up 2 posts later?) fukked!

 

[alexandraaah]

Time means something different in every part of the world.

My father is habitually late; to the point that it is pathological. That's why I decided to go to graduate school and diagnose him with acute narcissism. He feels the need to make people wait; he is just that fucking special.

Actually, he's gotten better, but as kids I can't count the amount of planes we missed on account of him fucking around with some mindless details.

It really does (can, to be fair) have an air of grandiosity to it. Some late people will think, "ah..everything will still go on even without me there." others might think, "nothing will happen until I arrive! Ha ha!" Others just might not think at all.

Just a glimpse into my distorted psyche. Bye now.

 

[Mellon Collie]

It really depends on the circumstances for me, I have no problem with being late for class or something similar to that but if I have an appointment or I am meeting someone I am almost consistently early. And not just for a few a minutes either, I'm talking like a half hour early.

My mom on the other hand, she's chronically late for any and every thing. It drives me crazy.

 

[April]

I'm chronically late. Always.

Everyone who knows me well knows this. I can't and won't change. So if you can't handle it, bugger off.

My sister's the same way. My mother resorted to telling her the wrong time to be somewhere just to get her there on time. It worked, too.

 

[sabbathstorm]

My best friend is one of those habitually late people but it's never really bothered me. I joke with her and tell her she has her own time zone, 30 minutes behind everyone else

 

[Svedish_Chef]

I'm always late, to almost everything. People ask me: "Are you going to really be here at 10:00 or is that on lavy-time?"

I know MANY people like that.

The worst is the three hour diffference tween on time and otherwise

 

[patient1]

Some people aren't that realistic when it comes to planning.

Some people are. Of course the good planners amongst us can make good use of our time whenever & wherever we can find or make it. Some people carry reading material. I carry writing material. It's better to be occupied than stressed. I used to say " I don't spend a third of my life sleeping, I spend a third of it waiting for other people!"

 

[alexandraaah]

I used to say " I don't spend a third of my life sleeping, I spend a third of it waiting for other people!"

Hence, your name?

 

[patient1]

Hence, your name?

very clever.

Now that you mention it, that probably caused me to develop the character quality...I never really thought about it before.

 

[bored1]

My former wife was, is, and will forever be late. I find habitual abusers rude and inconsiderate, In my mind I see it as a form of control.

 

[alexandraaah]

very clever.

Now that you mention it, that probably caused me to develop the character quality...I never really thought about it before.

You mean to tell me that it's entirely random that your name is patient1 and your av is a guy hanging from a clock?

You never really thought about it? Wow, you are a great <gimme all your money> target for that <gimme all your money> what do they call it? Subliminal <gimme all your money> something or other?