mskittykatt
Really Experienced
- Joined
- Dec 15, 2001
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- 292
My words are probably the closest most people will ever get, to seeing my deepest self. The place where my feelings, beliefs, passion, intentions and dreams come from. Here at least part of the time we are trying to express things that the body can express without the chance that it would be misunderstood. This is no small task. There are threads addressing erotica, form, writing styles, why we write. I?d like to bring those together for a moment, and add something to it.
Human interaction.
This is where most of the tension comes from. There are many, many things, that we don?t know about each other. Did you lose a loved one, or a friend in 9-11? Did you just lose a baby or break up with your partner? Did the baby keep you up all night, are you fighting with your best friend? Did you just get married, get a new job or move to a new place? Are you struggling with your spirituality in a rapidly changing world? Are you in love, do you hate your neighbor? Was this just a day where you woke up and wished you had a dog to kick?
Many of these things will never come to light on these boards, to many find them to personal to share, or sometimes to read. These things are happening to us behind the scenes and since they are never shared they can?t be acknowledged, or considered.
Perhaps last week my feedback on your writing could have been very helpful, but today your dog died and the kids are asking questions you can?t answer about doggy heaven and learning about death as it relates to them for the first time. Does this affect how you see what I write? Yes, at least I hope so. Did I know that? No, I?m not Ms. Cleo.
So how do we broach these gaps when so many aren?t willing to get that personal with each other, or the general public as a whole?
When I first started reading, and posting to what was the story and poetry feedback board I saw small groups of people, and it felt like I would always be on the outside looking in. I stayed around for awhile anyway and began to see what was happening here, that it is just like any other place. People will come together when, and where, and with whom they feel safe.
The main concern then is how to ask for, and receive feedback from other people outside your comfort zone, and on the other hand how to offer the truth in ways which are respectful without losing the honesty.
I think this is a process just as writing is. Respect isn?t just a feeling, it has actions associated with it, that can cushion even the harshest of words. Speaking what we feel, clearly, honestly and with respect.
The main argument over this, is addressing the writing, not the writer. And in the growth of the writer and writing as a whole, instead of individuals.
The fact remains, we are all individuals, and on some level, that is expressed in our writing. That level changes as we change, and in a group of professional writers, things may be different. But we aren?t professional, and we all deserve to be treated with care. We also deserve to hear the truth when we ask for feedback. It is a balance between the two, each getting their own time in the spotlight . that is what i'm working towards anyway.
Human interaction.
This is where most of the tension comes from. There are many, many things, that we don?t know about each other. Did you lose a loved one, or a friend in 9-11? Did you just lose a baby or break up with your partner? Did the baby keep you up all night, are you fighting with your best friend? Did you just get married, get a new job or move to a new place? Are you struggling with your spirituality in a rapidly changing world? Are you in love, do you hate your neighbor? Was this just a day where you woke up and wished you had a dog to kick?
Many of these things will never come to light on these boards, to many find them to personal to share, or sometimes to read. These things are happening to us behind the scenes and since they are never shared they can?t be acknowledged, or considered.
Perhaps last week my feedback on your writing could have been very helpful, but today your dog died and the kids are asking questions you can?t answer about doggy heaven and learning about death as it relates to them for the first time. Does this affect how you see what I write? Yes, at least I hope so. Did I know that? No, I?m not Ms. Cleo.
So how do we broach these gaps when so many aren?t willing to get that personal with each other, or the general public as a whole?
When I first started reading, and posting to what was the story and poetry feedback board I saw small groups of people, and it felt like I would always be on the outside looking in. I stayed around for awhile anyway and began to see what was happening here, that it is just like any other place. People will come together when, and where, and with whom they feel safe.
The main concern then is how to ask for, and receive feedback from other people outside your comfort zone, and on the other hand how to offer the truth in ways which are respectful without losing the honesty.
I think this is a process just as writing is. Respect isn?t just a feeling, it has actions associated with it, that can cushion even the harshest of words. Speaking what we feel, clearly, honestly and with respect.
The main argument over this, is addressing the writing, not the writer. And in the growth of the writer and writing as a whole, instead of individuals.
The fact remains, we are all individuals, and on some level, that is expressed in our writing. That level changes as we change, and in a group of professional writers, things may be different. But we aren?t professional, and we all deserve to be treated with care. We also deserve to hear the truth when we ask for feedback. It is a balance between the two, each getting their own time in the spotlight . that is what i'm working towards anyway.
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One of the things the novice has to learn is not to put your raw feelings on display. When you read a novel, do you assume it's the author's life?
