Pegging

[Guile9190]

I'm a 32 year old man that has not had alot of experience with women. I've only had two girlfriends that got beyond kissing. I lost my virginity at 29. I have tried the other things that bachelors may try. The dolls and the silicone body parts. It was o.k. for a while. Of course I jacked off to sexy magazines and the odd movie. Started with the dancing scene in the cabin scene of Dirty Dancing. I eventually got into learning how good my finger felt in my ass. I turned to making my own dildos out of things I found at home. When I moved out I bought a dildo and had two or three for a while. With my last past girlfriend I went out to a sex shop with her and we bought a feeldoe. I only got one chance to really use it with her before we broke up. My current girlfriend really doesn't know what I am thinking about when I want her to use it on me. I could really use some help on persuading her that pegging a man doesn't mean that I am gay. But she has such a high sex drive I cannot satisfy her with just my own cock. I want her to be able to get off farther than I can take her with the use of this toy. I really think it will get her farther and more satisfied. What can I do?

 

[SweetErika]

My current girlfriend really doesn't know what I am thinking about when I want her to use it on me. I could really use some help on persuading her that pegging a man doesn't mean that I am gay.

Have you told her specifically what you think about when you receive anal play/toys? That it's about pleasure, receiving, intimacy, trust, experiencing a different power dynamic (or whatever it is for you) with the woman you care about, and not about sex with, or an attraction to, other men?

Have you explained that the ass has far more nerve endings than the pussy, and certain types of stimulation just feel damn good?

Have you told her if you were gay, you'd be looking to have sex with another man, not explore anal play with your girlfriend?

But she has such a high sex drive I cannot satisfy her with just my own cock. I want her to be able to get off farther than I can take her with the use of this toy. I really think it will get her farther and more satisfied. What can I do?

Does this have something to do with the Feeldoe, or have you moved on to a different topic?

My confusion primarily lies in the bold sentences. It sounds like you're saying the toy (whatever that is ) can't get her off, but then you say it can. Which is it, and what toy are you talking about? Or are you just using her high sex drive as justification for why she should use your Feeldoe on you? What is the "what can I do" at the end referring to?

 

[Guile9190]

Pegging continued

I was referring in the end to what do with persuading her that the use of the feeldoe on me could get her farther along in orgasms and therefore make her more satisified with having sex. This girlfriend of mine can have me finish in about an hour and want it again in 30 minutes or less again. I just don't get her very often to that final orgasm where she feels like she is satisified. I would like to know if the use of a strap-on (the feeldoe) I own which I enjoy using could help in getting her farther through her endless orgasms to make both of us feel like we have had enough to last a few days where I regain my sexual strength to do it all over again.

 

[lucky_guy_49]

I was referring in the end to what do with persuading her that the use of the feeldoe on me could get her farther along in orgasms and therefore make her more satisified with having sex. ...I would like to know if the use of a strap-on (the feeldoe) I own which I enjoy using could help in getting her farther through her endless orgasms to make both of us feel like we have had enough to last a few days where I regain my sexual strength to do it all over again.

I've had a feeldoe for several years and it's an awesome toy for both my wife and me. I'll put right up front, she hasn't actually pegged me in the sense of her taking charge of the scene and doing me, but we've had some success with her on her back and me straddling her. That works for ME, and excites her a lot, but not to orgasm. The handy part about the feeldoe is that not only is it a great toy for penetrating me, but either end works great on her and she's had multiple orgasms when I use it on her. I can put the short end (the 'pony') in her pussy and then lick, suck, deepthroat and jack off her 'cock'. I can put the long end (the 'horse') in her pussy and then lick her clit until she comes violently. I've used it on her anally while giving her oral. There is something about the shape and firmness that really gets her off, and that's a good thing because I don't last as long as I used to.

So my recommendation is to use it as a toy on her, and as you continue to play together, show her/tell her how you want her to use it on you. My wife is still reluctant to get behind me and pound me the way I want, but she's inserted the whole thing into me manually while I'm on all fours and then swooned over the sight/idea until she was licking and kissing my ass while stroking the feeldoe in and out of me. This is a great toy for taking your time and exploring a lot of things together, and when you're ready to push her over the edge it is more than enough!

 

[subwannabe]

I hate to be blunt but your whole posts screams of, well, inexperience and naivity. I don't have time to address it all but you have been secluded way toooo long, basically learning to think only of yourself. There are exactly one million ways to please a woman, okay, maybe not exactly. Anyway, the bottom line is just because you want to errrrr feel the feeldoe, maybe this doesn't turn her on. You should find ways to please her while at the same time having communication with her about what turns you on while reassuring her you are not gay. You don't need the feeldoe to please her. She doesn't need to feeldoe to please her. Do something to please her without it being something that you necessarily want and the rest will eventually cum.

 

[Guile9190]

I hate to be blunt but your whole posts screams of, well, inexperience and naivity. I don't have time to address it all but you have been secluded way toooo long, basically learning to think only of yourself. There are exactly one million ways to please a woman, okay, maybe not exactly. Anyway, the bottom line is just because you want to errrrr feel the feeldoe, maybe this doesn't turn her on. You should find ways to please her while at the same time having communication with her about what turns you on while reassuring her you are not gay. You don't need the feeldoe to please her. She doesn't need to feeldoe to please her. Do something to please her without it being something that you necessarily want and the rest will eventually cum.

I have no idea but I thought this site was to help people and learn how to explore their sexuality. Your idea is to be a real pain in people's asses and tell them that they are stupid if you want more people on your site try being a little nicer and understanding of them. Just a suggestion

 

[subwannabe]

Sorry you took my post the wrong way. The fact is that the secret to making her feel good is not the feeldoe. If you really want her to have the best orgasms possible, throw the feeldoe in the garbage and concentrate on her desires, not yours. By the way, I'm not saying you shouldn't experience your desires to the fullest, I'm just saying you are going down the wrong road if your goal is to please her.

 

[Chillin215]

If I understood your question correctly (which took me a couple reads to do) you should just ask her if she would use the dildo on you and if she doesn't want to or it doesn't turn her on, then there's nothing more you can do. You can't immediately assume that using toys will satisfy her.