Past Relationships

[sheath]

Some education! I'm sure he loves the homework!!!

What's a guy gotta do for extra credit in the sheath school???

Something so deliciously kinky, it makes me gasp, makes my jaw drop, makes my mouth water...

Can you imagine what the extra credit reward might be?

S.

 

[1.21 jigawatts]

One problem for me...is my gf kept a lot of secrets about her past from me....partly because she didn't know how I'd react, and partly because she just forgot....And it's become hard for me to trust her sometimes...I dunno.. I just, sometimes I get worried about what else she could me hiding, y'know? I believe in total honestly and not hiding anything from each other. And then when every once in a while she'll be like, "oh yeah, this happened" and I'll feel like I cant trust her all over again...what do I do?

 

[Delurker]

What can one do to overcome feelings of envy, insecurity, and a generalized sense of anxiety in regards to his or her past relationships? Ex- husbands and Ex- wives, in specific, would the appropriate subject, I suspect.

Well, bing on the other end, having an ex wife, and My current GF knows. She knows how the relationship ended, and she (I thinK) still has feelings of inadequisy(damn four years of college and I still can't spell), occasionally. Although it's much less now. And I am pretty sure I have found the person I am supposed to spen the rest of my life with. I knwo we talked alot about it. And on the rare occasion that she mentions one of her ex BF's I sometimes get a slight twing of the green eyed monster. But, it is in the past, and it's part of her being now, for our past experiences makes us waht we are.

 

[Lust Engine]

Something so deliciously kinky, it makes me gasp, makes my jaw drop, makes my mouth water...

Can you imagine what the extra credit reward might be?

S.

For those credits I think I'd remain a full time, life long student!

 

[Bandit58]

My lover knew that I'd only had one partner before him, and he's married for the second time and had lots of other partners before me. I don't even think about it......when we're together there's just US. Because we can't be together I've had a couple of other partners since we met, he knows all about it, in fact he encouraged me to go out and have fun if I wanted.

There's no jealousy on either of our parts, he has another older lady he's seeing as well and I've talked to her online and she's become a friend. He has my heart and I have his, but until he can get his life sorted out this is how it has to be......

 

[Tchalla]

I like to know about my girlfriends' past relationships. I really do not get jealous when hearing about what they have done before. It also helps give me a better perspective on their personality.

I had one girlfriend that every one of her exes had cheated on her. She didn't share this info with me so I didn't understand why I was always treated like a suspect. Knowing that little fact up front would have made it easier for me to understand her.

The only girl's past that I did have a problem learning about was one who always had to compare how I did something with how one of her exes did it. That was one that I couldn't take.

 

[Mr.G]

From Ms Pink came : "" I really get off on hearing about my partner's past sexual (and emotional) experiences. I like hearing him tell me the stories, learning what makes him tick, and it's also my way of sharing those times with him even though I wasn't there.

It doesn't make me jealous. He's with me, not with them, they are not a real part of his life anymore. They are simply stories from the past. ""

I couldn't agree more. Except of course that all the gender refs are switched.

Whether it's good or bad it helps to talk. If it's bad then talking and understanding why she may be reluctant to do certain things or why she acts like she does at certain times. If it's a good thing then GAWD..SHARE it. That stuff can get SOOO HOT too.

It also makes the whole jealousy thing out to be the completely useless waste of energy and emotion that it is. There is NOTHING that makes a person out to be more of a complete DORK than getting "jealous" mad / hurt / angry etc etc about something that happened in your life BEFORE they even met you!!

DANGER DANGER - CONTROL FREEEK ALERT !!!!

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[Lust Engine]

If I feel more than the occasional momentary twinge of jealousy I know there is something drastically wrong with the dynamics of that particular relationship and I either work to fix it or figure out how to get out of it before I spiral into a place I really don't want to be.

Getting mad or jealous over someone's previous relationship has to be one of the greatest blunders anyone can make. It's not like we can change it! It's already happened and long gone.

Personally I'd like to think that people will use their previous relationships and build upon that experience to make THIS one better. And like Mr. G said... calling up the good thing about a previous sexual experience can be really hot.

 

[BlueSugar]

I am usually turned on by others past experiences, espically when they turn me on alot, and its something I've wanted to try. The problem comes when they find out I'm just about or more so experienced or knowledgable then they are -hehe oops? -

I've usually found that men have more hangups about past relationships when it comes to experience. ... But not to the relationships themselves.

So in the case of kids and exs wife/husband ... I think the focus should be put on the "now" instead of "then" bec most of the time if there was a wedding it was happy for a time and now it isn't and if it still were it would still be going strong. ::shrugs softly:: The children are the innocent happiness and should never be involved in marital or family difficulties in the way that they should always have contact (well, except i suppose in abusive situations) My father died when I was very young (don't remember him at all) Mom remarried and I had a dad as far as I was concerned.

Now that I'm grown, I've noticed that the first marriage was a horrible horrible thing (I barely know anything about birth father to date) No one talks to him, I have no contact with relatives, I even know i have family nearby, but never met, and could have been in school with my cousins.. and have no clue (he only had sisters... thus losing last name bc of marriage of course) ... its sad, and I want answers, but no one will give me... and I can't say anything bc it'll stur up bad things... even though I was an innocent.
So I guess the moral of this is tell the children if they're young, inform them... we aren't in the conservative times we were in back in the days...

 

[BlueSugar]

... I'm sorry if I brought anyone down heh. Its something I live with, and it emerges around father's day, I'm "all grown up" .. it just well.. "sucks." haha. Focus on my "it turns me on" talk and not the bring down part please... again.. I'm sorry ...

 

[much2much]

Doesent it somehow seem a bit like poking an ex isn't cheating because you've been there before?

 

[DuckLover]

Doesent it somehow seem a bit like poking an ex isn't cheating because you've been there before?

I'm sorry, but I can't determine the thrust of your question. Could you please rephrase it?

 

[much2much]

I'm sorry, but I can't determine the thrust of your question. Could you please rephrase it?

Sorry about that. It seems to me that a lot of people who split up have more fun with each other having the occaisional romp on the sly once they have new partners. For some reason, it doesn't seem like cheating. What do you think?

 

[DevilBoy79]

Sorry about that. It seems to me that a lot of people who split up have more fun with each other having the occaisional romp on the sly once they have new partners. For some reason, it doesn't seem like cheating. What do you think?



it is cheating none the less and wrong