partner issues

[windlancer]

I was wondering what I can do to keep my boyfriend hard during sex. Lately he seems to have been having an issue withit.

 

[AttentionWhore]

Ask him.

As difficult as it may be, talk to him about what may be on his mind. Try not to do this at a time when sex is on the table. Maybe it's something at work, in the family, who knows. I'm assuming he's fairly young and this is a new occurance.

Hope that helps.

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[Lust Engine]

I toatally agree with Orchid here. Check with the owner of the equipment here; ask your man in so many words as to why. But try to do it in a non-threatening way. Try to be sensitive about the issue; you don't want to immasculate him any more. He's probably already not proud of his efforts already. Ask to see what you can do to help but it lies with him to work things through.

Patience & LOTS of communication will do wonders for him and you.

Good luck.

 

[SpookyStar]

Life style could also make a diference. Alcohol is a big cause as is sleep depravation and stress. He may also be anxious to get an erection to please you, hence more pressure on himself.
I'd go with the 'talk 2 him' tack. It's always the best way to find out what is going on.

 

[SexyChele]

There is a lot missing from your post. His age? Stress in his life? Illness or lack of being physically okay? Is this a new development, or has it been going on for quite some time? All sorts of factors could play into this.

I agree with the majority here - talk to him, but remember this is a sensitive issue for him. Be gentle. Be kind. Be understanding.

Good luck!

 

[Etoile]

Definitely talk to him. I wouldn't worry about it being "your fault," either - there's a chance he's just not interested in you anymore, but more likely it's a physical or psychological issue. Do it in a non-threatening way, though, in private of course. There's no shame in asking a doctor for Viagra, too, if it comes to that. It will improve both of your sex lives if the issue is addressed.

 

[Lust Engine]

Definitely talk to him. I wouldn't worry about it being "your fault," either - there's a chance he's just not interested in you anymore, but more likely it's a physical or psychological issue. Do it in a non-threatening way, though, in private of course. There's no shame in asking a doctor for Viagra, too, if it comes to that. It will improve both of your sex lives if the issue is addressed.

I'm so not a believer in fault being doled out. With issues like this in a committed relationship, it's a shared responsibility. Part of that responsibility of being committed is the commitment to communicate openly & freely.

Again, good luck.

 

[Amfig]

Definitely talk to him. I wouldn't worry about it being "your fault," either - there's a chance he's just not interested in you anymore, but more likely it's a physical or psychological issue. Do it in a non-threatening way, though, in private of course. There's no shame in asking a doctor for Viagra, too, if it comes to that. It will improve both of your sex lives if the issue is addressed.

Before I asked my doc about Viagra, I'd at least give a try to a simple leather cockring. Use search on cock rings. Several threads here.

 

[Lust Engine]

Before I asked my doc about Viagra, I'd at least give a try to a simple leather cockring. Use search on cock rings. Several threads here.

I'd probably desribe to the doctor the condition and let him diagnose the situation. I wouldn't go in there expecting them to dispense anything. It could even be an entirely different ailment that's causing this problem.

But admittedly any non-medical & safe techniques shouldn't be discarded either.

Good luck.

 

[windlancer]

Everything is going amazing now... we've talked and things couldn't be better. Thanks to all who replied. You're the best!!!!!

 

[Noor]

Everything is going amazing now... we've talked and things couldn't be better. Thanks to all who replied. You're the best!!!!!

Glad to hear it! Talking always seems to help.

Noor