parsing types of bdsm

[Phoenix Stone]

So far I see the basics as: dom/me sub or switch

Then: pain; humiliation; bondage; d/s

(One may want only one of these, or a mix.)

With pain, one basic category is whether you prefer physical, mental, both or neither.

I see consent/non as a subcategory of d/s. And master/slave as a parallel subcategory, as willingness is primary, and it always brings up questions around one have consented before and whether or not one can still consent after.

Then other levels are whether the dom enjoys eliciting subs reaction or finds it irrelevant. On the other side are subs who find it difficult to express their needs, or appreciation or give voice to pain, who find this challenging, and those who feel this is part of serving and are comfortable with it.

Next there is whether being serviced, or doing unto, is the preference. (Either can be domly or subbish. There are dom who prefer to lie back and be served, and those who'd rather do. Same with subs.)

What have I left out that is primary to bdsm? (I've purposely left out categories like, say, scat or exhibitionism, because I see them as separate unrelated categories.) Care to share where you stand? (Or does asking that part belong in the Cafe?)

 

[AngelicAssassin]

What have I left out that is primary to bdsm? ... Care to share where you stand?

Here's my nickel because i'm too lazy to carry two coins.

Control

 

[lrisheyes]

Re: Re: parsing types of bdsm

Here's my nickel because i'm too lazy to carry two coins.

Control

~just smiles~

 

[Pure]

Hi Phoenix,

If you're interested in the topic, some historical sense is important. Also not to define things too narrowly.

This is a shameless plug for the SMACK thread

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=222209

Also the topopolis thread looked at many nonconventional 'takes' on SM practices as well as odd practices, from a mainstream pov.

J.

 

[Phoenix Stone]

Re: Re: parsing types of bdsm

Control

oops. THE basic.

bit of a faux pas there. And the one that is my most important one. Freudian slip?

 

[Mr Blonde]

What about Daddy/child (and all variants)?

How about training?

 

[Quint]

Then other levels are whether the dom enjoys eliciting subs reaction or finds it irrelevant. On the other side are subs who find it difficult to express their needs, or appreciation or give voice to pain, who find this challenging, and those who feel this is part of serving and are comfortable with it.

A subset of this are the dominants who get off on getting their submissive off, broken down further into the "it is my priority to bring unimaginable heights of pleasure to my precious pet" and the "hey, I like watching her face when she comes but there's lots of other pretty expressions I'd rather see," coupled with the reciprocal submissive drives.

I think ritual is an important facet, as most people are strongly in favor of or strongly disinterested with. This probably fits into the service; there can be random, arbitrary service as well as carefully planned and executed rituals.