Pain or pleasure???

[OnlyInTheMind]

I'm really confused. Whenever I have sex with a woman she tends to whimper out with these yelps or moans that sound like pain even though shes showing signs of pleasure.

For example, where doing the missionary position and she makes these noises as I slip in and out.

What is it really? Is it pain? Is it pleasure and thats how it comes out? Or is it both??

 

[Weird Harold]

What is it really? Is it pain? Is it pleasure and thats how it comes out? Or is it both??

She is the only one that knows what she's feeling -- why not ask her, instead of a bunch of faceless strangers that don't know either of you?

 

[Meat Whistler]

Re: Re: Pain or pleasure???

She is the only one that knows what she's feeling -- why not ask her, instead of a bunch of faceless strangers that don't know either of you?

Agreed. However, if she comes back for more, whether pain, pleasure, or both, she obviously enjoys it. Or, she's just a desperate slut and you're cheap.

 

[Guest]

She's fakin and if you can't tell the difference.........read Cosmo or Nancy Friday lol!!!!!!!

 

[wicked woman]

Originally posted by OnlyInTheMind
I'm really confused. Whenever I have sex with a woman she tends to whimper out with these yelps or moans that sound like pain even though shes showing signs of pleasure.

For example, where doing the missionary position and she makes these noises as I slip in and out.

What is it really? Is it pain? Is it pleasure and thats how it comes out? Or is it both??

Women often whimper, moan and groan during sex...been known to do it on occasion myself ...usually that's a good sign...but I agree...ask her...although I would like to think if you were hurting her she would have told you.

 

[OnlyInTheMind]

Yeah, the first three posts where not very helpful....


I agree that if it hurt women would usually say something. Its just that if you actually LISTEN the sounds women make during sex its pretty ackward. All you can do is keep going on and hope shes not hurting!

 

[Blastasbird]

I am sure that if it was hurting then she would tell you I know I would. I would follow everyone elses advise if I were you and ask her if it hurts during sex or if she is enjoying it.

 

[DuckLover]

Asking her is definitely the way to go. I wouldn't necessarily assume that if it was uncomfortable, that she would tell you. Depending on her experience level, she may believe that it's supposed to hurt or be uncomfortable. (Most women are told that sex hurts the first few times you have it.) She may also be embarassed or feel inadequate if it hurts. And/or she could be sacrificing herself (enduring pain) in order to please you.

Again, the best answer is that magic 3-letter word: ASK

 

[Vixandra]

Ask her- offer to help find a possition that's better for her if it does hurt. Or try more foreplay.
Personally- I make a wide range of noices from whimpers, groans and little begging noises to screams muffled into pillows or my lover's shoulder depending on what's going on. Some of us are like that- oddly vocal. Others make no noise at all.

 

[Jaybird3]

I am far more vocal than verbal and I make all kinds of noises. But I don't do that if I am in pain.

 

[CelticFrog]

In all honesty, asking would probably be the most likely course. Lots of people have mentioned it.

Here is MY opinion why:
With a previous SO, pleasure would come but before I could even have an orgasm, pain would follow. Without specifics, he was a very yucky person who didn't really give a rat's ass about another person, much less their sexual pleasure. I usually ended up making the same noises either way, and until I learned how to just flat out say "OUCH" he wouldn't notice. Once I did say "OUCH" was another story, but we won't get into that here.

Point is, her pleasure vs. pain noises could be so similar you might not be able to tell the difference.

Other thing to note, however...
If you took a picture of me during sex, my face can contort into all sorts of pained expressions. Doesn't mean I'm not enjoying myself, it's just that a grimace sometimes is easier to manage than some serene smile. I can be straining to get someplace he's not letting me attain for a few more minutes... (meany ) but that doesn't mean I don't like it.

You know how athletes can have that horrible look on their face but still love what they're doing? You're being a sexual athlete.

Ang

 

[Wickid Cherry Pie]

She's fakin and if you can't tell the difference.........read Cosmo or Nancy Friday lol!!!!!!!

Tee-hee, TBB!
Back to the question at hand, often what moans, whimpers, etc. come out during sex are unplanned and unrehearsed. I highly doubt that they are yelps of pain. Do you not find a "loud" woman arousing? Everyone I've been with finds it a plus.

 

[crazybbwgirl]

I'm pretty sure anybody who overheard me having sex would be slightly confused as to whether it was pleasure or pain. At least til they heard the "oh god yes baby, oh god yes baby" part!?!!

 

[mrs.jeepman6]

...and for me sometimes the pleasure is in the pain

 

[SexyChele]

When she cries out, "Get off of me, dammnit, it hurts!" Well, then you know you crossed that pleasure/pain line.

Seriously, most people engaging in sex sound as if they are in intense pain. If doubt? Ask.

 

[webber1998]

If she never comes back, you'll know that it was pain.


Common sense man... ask her !!!!!

 

[N8Dreams]

If your cock is not oversized, her whimpers shows always pleasure, be ensured.

 

[lil ozzie sub]

I'm very vocal when I'm having sex. I sometimes have to bite into my partners shoulder to muffle the moans and screams.

We had a photo session with a third party photographer and the shots show both of us looking like we are in pain. I can tell you now it was NOT pain we were feeling!

Have you ever thought about what you look/sound like while you are fucking?

You may not realise it but you probably look and sound like you are in pain as well. It's all part of letting go and letting your body do what it wants.