over-sensitive pussy

[wolf2002]

I need some advice, fellow Litters... my wife and I have a good sex life but there is one thing she hasn't been able to give me. I love cunnilungus, I want to lick her, to drink her juices, to have her cum with his head between her thighs. But she won't let me. It is really frustrating...

She says she is just too over-sensitive for my tongue. After a couple of seconds she says she is about to cum and demands me to fuck her... I have tried to be really careful and not to go directly for the sensitive spots but it just won't work... it is strange, because when I use my fingers she can hold out for a long time...

What can you tell me about this type of over-sensitivity? Is it a common physical problem or is it something between the ears? Are there any solutions?

 

[scoperella]

Is it possible she just isn't really comfortable with you being down there, seeing her so up-close? You said you try to be careful and avoid the really sensitive spots, but even when you do she says she's about to cum and demands to be fucked ... is there a reason she won't allow you to finish her with your mouth when she's so close anyway?

As for actually being over-sensitive, I don't know much about that. Unless you were being really aggressive and rough, but it doesn't sound like that's the case.

 

[MR.GGG]

Mental block. If she doesn't go thru the roof when you are working your fingers down there but she can't stand your tongue...mental block! Fershure?

Talk to her. She probably grew up thinking her twat was filthy dirty and disgusting. It IS but tell her her mouth is actually way dirtier as far as hosting legions of deadly bacteria. That should fix up your relationship.

kidding

Talk to her. Tell her how she tastes, feels..how turned on YOU are doing that to her. As per several other posts in here...if that doesn't work, tie her down and do it anyway. As long as you actually make her CUM she'll smack HERself for not letting anybody do it to her sooner.

 

[Ms_Lilith]

I'm the same way as she is. I can be fingered for AGES, and I'm able to control when I have an orgasm. But when honey goes down on me, it just sends me to the stars, and I cum rather quickly.

However. I agree with what everyone else said.. it is a mental block. Even though I do orgasm very quickly from oral, I love to cum in my honey's mouth, and I am able to cum multiple times, so I don't let that get in the way. I would rather my honey stayed down there for HOURS, than for him to get me started that way, and then fuck me. He's excellent in bed, but nothing does it like a good tongue.

So, like everyone else mentioned, talk to her. I believe it is something in her mind.. maybe it is an insecurity that you're seeing her so close. Maybe it's that she's afraid she's inconveniencing you by asking you, or letting you go down on her. An ex of mine used to hate giving oral (just a general hate, it wasn't me), so I never asked for it, and I never expected to get it for more than 5 minutes. I didn't want to make him feel bad that I wanted something that he hated.

 

[wolf2002]

Thank you all for the feedback. I guess you are right, it must be a mental thing... I probably knew that already, but needed an experts opinion...

She lets me watch her pussy from closeby so it's not that...

Mr.GGG, what you suggested is probably the case. She thinks her cum is dirty. She used to wash herself with all these scary vaginal soaps until I told her this was not really necessary, that it can even harm the biological balance in her vagina... so there was some slight progress already.

But I just can't seem to convince her that I like her cum, I crave it... I would love to be in the position that Vixenshe just described so colourful...

Again, thanks a lot for the help. I guess it's back to the bedroom for me...

 

[huskie]

Try applying more pressure with your tonge when you do go down on her. Touching her lightly may just be tickleing her.

 

[eastTNbbw]

over sensitive pussy

I wasn't as comfortable about receiving oral until I was very comfortable giving it. Maybe that's her problem too. You didn't mention how she felt about giving head.

I'm with the other women though, oral is great...both giving and receiving. And it's fun to continue learning and practicing.

 

[Puppi]

It's looks like you've gotten a lot of good advice so far...

As others have said here, TALK TO HER!! The key to any good relationship is communication! Find out if she holds fears that some here have suggested.

Another thing I was wondering was... Is she "afraid" she'll only cum once so she wants you in her for that? Many people (yes, men too) feel they can only cum once a "session" so they want it "perfect" when they do. Though any orgasm is wonderful, some fear they'll "waste" it if it's not given to them a certain way.

Again, talk to her. See if she's "worried she'll waste her one orgasm". See if she's embarrassed by having your face so close to her pussy. If you're not touching her clit with your tongue, and it takes her "a while" to cum when being fingered, then it sounds like she's "fibbing" some when it comes to her sensitivity.

I think communication is the best advice any of us can give here. Good luck.


~Puppi

 

[ApplesMcgee]

maybe...

Have you tried tying her up and taking here through the experience. Having her lay here while you handle your business with your tongue?

It's a neat idea. It can be fun. It might also help your problem. Make sure she agrees to being tied up first though

PowrDragn

 

[wolf2002]

Sorry to react so late. Thanks again for all the great advice.

What I can say is that the tongue pressure isn't really the problem (tried it all) and neither is she afraid to give me a blow job... but indeed, it seems to be a psychological problem... and that makes ropes for this purpose not seem like a good idea..

It is true, we don;t always communicate well about sex... I might have made some progress though... I just blackmailed her: at the climax of our lovemaking I refused to go on till she promised to let me lick her to an orgasm. I am planning to cash that promise soon...

I'll keep you informed. Thanks again.

 

[dreamer]

My suggestion would be to talk to her. OUTSIDE of the bedroom. Discuss this as you would any other part of your relationship and desire to share intimacy.

As for an opinion beyond that I have to mention one thing. Different actions...tongue, fingers, penetration, toys, lube, no lube...etc, etc, ad infinitum...they ALL feel different. Maybe this is just one of those things that is 'too much' for her. Maybe focusing on another area while going down on her would be more comfortable to her. I know I can tolerate...and enjoy, things done with a hand (much more pressure/friction) that would be WAY overwhelming with a mouth and tongue.

Talk to her. See this as an opportunity to learn more about each other, and share something intimate with each other. If it leads to you both getting what you want then great. If not then you at least have shared part of yourselves in the process of discovering what is and what is not enjoyable.

Best of luck.

 

[lilpriss]

Oral sex used to be too much for me too. My mind would wander around, I'd start to feel all self conscious and would make him stop. I thought it must smell and taste just awful... Then I found out that he REALLY did like to do it. As much (ironically) as I enjoy giving head! What a concept.

I used to feel like oral sex was gross... when I was younger... Always made me think of dogs that stick there noses in your crotch. And that was soo nasty to me... Yes, weird, but it was something I couldn't get out of my head.

Anyway, I read alot, and it didn't take long to realize that there's a whole lot more to it than a warm, flat, wet tongue, licking. And after the first time I let myself go with it, <ahem> well, let's just say, I am not averse to it anymore.

 

[Guest]

Jest stay down there and eat her let her have that orgasem one right after the other then fuck her and finish her off.

 

[ApplesMcgee]

maybe...

Just temp her to go a little further each time.

I wouldn't force the issue though. Don't force and orgasm through. When it comes to sex, if some one says stop you stop.

No means no.

PowrDragn

 

[Anna6]

one more thing...



Be sure to try using one or two fingers inside her at the same time you are eating her. You probably have tried that..but I know it sure does work for ME! Makes all the difference in the world... Mmmmmm!! And since she obviously enjoys having your penis inside her, maybe it is the added stimulation of something IN her pussy that will make a difference (we can hope?!) I went for years, not knowing how much better it could be when a guy would use his fingers on my G-spot while licking me, but once I had it done, OH MY...!! Lots of patience and talking, both very important, but I think she is a lucky girl to have someone who wants to please her so much in this way, and who really really enjoys it. Personally, I find it very erotic knowing how much most men LOVE eating pussy --but then I know how much I'm turned on by giving head...... OMG! Few things in life are better than pleasing someone you love in this way and letting them know how much you love doing it!!

 

[mb4574]

Love the tongue

Anna6, I believe your almost ready for that shower I promised you. A little cleaning and droping of the soap, oh and of course licking you clean when I come up. Then off to a warm bed and some more loving. A little cream and some strawberries ought to do the trick. A little lick of the cream (use real cream guys) and then taste of the strawberry, share it with your love, please. Guys, my wife didn't like it either until I showed her how much pleasure it gives to her and that the taste wasn't as bad as she thought. Give the above a try and see if she doesn't get the idea.

 

[Anna6]

Showering w/ YOU, MB....



OMG, Mb...yes, I have been ready for that luscious shower you've told me all about, and you can drop that soap and pick it up as often as you like-- I'll even help you drop it..

Maybe we need to let these people know that we know each other.. and enjoy sharing fantasies a lot, huh? And that i have full intentions of 'kidnapping' you one day soon, so we CAN eat those delicious strawberries, Luv. AND No, we dont want any 'half and half' stuff do we? Only real cream and real lips, not icons online, Honey. And then we can see how sensitive a pussy can really BE... if you are game, that is....

Hmmm... maybe i should 'ask' the wife about your technique(s)?
...NAH, not a good idea... I'll stick w/ this tongue for NOW.