Our first threeway and some things I learned

[hippieinwv]

First, apologies if this is the wrong forum for this. It was MFF threesome, I thought this forum came the closest. I don't post here very often, so you'll pardon the somewhat lengthy ramblings of a lurker

Second, I have two goals with this thread...one, to tell others of the things we learned from this experience. This went SO WELL for us I want to encourage others who otherwise might not otherwise to further explore their sexuality. Two, just to talk about it...I have no one else I can tell or no other forums I visit and if I don't talk about this at least some I am going to explode.

The basic situation was me, my wife, and my ex-girlfriend-turned-best-friend. This was something we had been discussing for awhile that we finally made come to fruition. The friend is bisexual and just as open-minded sexually as I am, so she was the perfect candidate to consider for this.

The most important piece of advice I can give is to be 100% certain that everyone involved is totally comfortable with everything that's going to happen. Draw boundry lines if need be; that is to say, maybe oral, but no penetration, things like that. Fortunately my wife was cool with the whole nine yards, but in our initial discussions that was an issue. For us after-sex cuddles was also cleared beforehand just to make sure to keep akwardness to a minimum. The important thing here is to remove, ahead of time, and possibility of things going wrong. I'm sure jealousy or anything that would lead to fighting or squabbling is even more uncomfortable when everyone is naked and trying to screw.

For our "break the ice" maneuver I made a silly CD of sex songs, each more outrageous than the last. This kept us chatting and giggling for a little while as we all got comfortable. I kicked things off myself, going over and making out with the wife a little before going and doing the same to the friend...stripping both tops at the same time, of course.

We had gone to a sex shop and bought some of those party dice, which was also a lot of fun. It was a great way to go from hanging out to nakedness; roll an action with a body part that's covered and some clothes are just gonna HAVE to come off.

And from there we just moved right into the sex. Seeing my wife with another woman was unbelievable; I've always been into the amateur pictures and the like (Hence my love for Lit) but alas, my gorramn camera battery died 4 pictures in. Still, I captured a few things that will help relive those memories. I have one, the last that I took, of both my gals naked with my friend nibbling on my wife's ear that kind of summed the whole thing up for me. Just so damned hot.

So we coupled in pretty much every combination possible. Me giving it to the friend while the wife got some oral, the wife riding me while the friend was on my face, just about any you could think of. That last was probably my favorite as the wife isn't into anal play, but the friend is...one of the hotter moments of the encounter came for me when I slid my pinky knuckle-deep into my friend's ass. She ground down on my face and called my name and made me play with her tits...all the while the wife was taking care of business on the other end of me. It was just incredible.

Two days later my back and legs still hurt. That being another thing I learned I didn't take into consideration beforehand: two horny women are a lot of work, even if they're also working on getting each other off.

So there's the ranting, now the advice. As I said before, make sure everyone is comfortable with everything going in. I am lucky in that the wife accepts my friendship with my ex, I know that's not an option for everyone.

Emotion is always a huge factor in sex. The wife fully acknowledges and understands I love my friend, but am IN love with my wife. In a marriage or relationship situation where you are bringing a third person in, the two of you that are a couple need to make sure that there are no lines being crossed that will hurt feelings.

Definitely have an ice breaker as we did. It made things so much more fun and comfortable when we had a fun kinda silly way to get naked, but in a way that was still hot and sexy. Something to help unwind wouldn't be a bad idea; drinks, reefer (if you're into that kind of thing), stuff along those lines.

I'd also suggest have something planned for AFTER the sex, unless you're doing a spend-the-night kind of routine. This friend sadly we have to go and pick up, so we went for an afternoon thing. After we all cooled off and got dressed, we headed out for dinner then back to our apartment for a movie. Spending so much time together made sure we were all comfortable and cool with everything that went down.

So it was a lot of fun. For those of you who have maybe entertained the idea I just want to be the guy to come forward and say yeah, it can happen, and it can work great. This experience, if anything, has only served to bring my wife and I closer together. it's an experience I can't wait to repeat. The wife clearly wants that to be further away than I am, but that leads to the last bit of advice I can offer: understand and compromise. When I first proposed the threeway to the wife, she suggested it be oral-only first, then later on go all the way. Though she later changed her mind, I was perfectly willing to work with those conditions. This can be a delicate situation. Patience and understanding go a long way towards making sure you are successful.

So if you stuck through this novel of a post, thanks for sticking with...I'll be hanging about trying to comment throughout the day at work here,things are very very slow if anyone has any comments or questions or anything, heh. also, forgive any typing errors. To use Literotica during the day at work I use a remote control of my home computer system thing, and I don't always see the typos to fix them

 

[Snowman5933]

First, I'm not opposed to threesomes, as I've had several of the MFM variety, and you certainly point out all the positive, happy memories that you took away from the experience. I just think its a very complex situation thats not right for everyone and should be considered, and then re-considered, before actually engaging in this kind of activity.

Here are just a few topics (in no particular order) that should be openly discussed between all parties involved before engaging in a threesome:

1. Past sexual history.
2. Birth control, and the reality that it can fail.
3. STD's.
4. Boundries.
5. Jelousy and resentment.

These are just the beginning of a series of very serious discussions that should take place before anything occurs. In fantasy the idea is very appealing, but what if in reality the whole thing goes south. Are you prepared to end your relationship? Not all fantasies are meant to be played out in real life by all couples, so really think it over, and over, and over.

Snowman

 

[dav555]

Congrats, glad you got to live out the fantasy. Saw her pic on the other profile, very cute and sexy. Any chance 1 of those 4 pictures will make it here? or my message box?

 

[PredatorSmile]

As long as you were safe and had fun, its all good. Had such an encounter (MMF-bi) a while ago with my husband and another man. It was fun for all involved. Still smile when remembering it.

 

[BiDrew42]

My first MMF threeway took place when I was 16 years old with my best friend Jeff and his cousin Linda. Jeff and I were at his house and thought we were home alone for the weekend when his parents and sisters were out of town. We spent all night Friday and all day Saturday pleasuring each other, and Lynn walked in on us when Jeff was fucking me in the ass while I was bent over the pool table.

Jeff and I thought Linda was going to out us, and we were both terrified. Luckily, Linda was madly in love with me at the time and she was willing to keep our secret if I agreed to go steady with her. In order to keep my relationship with Jeff quiet I was more than willing to agree. After we finalized that agreement, Jeff and I convinced Linda to join us, and she agreed after awhile.

She wouldn't have sex with Jeff that first time, but she did suck his cock. The three of us had several threesomes after that, and she eventually did have sex with Jeff. She was two years older than Jeff and I and had some sexual experience, so she taught us a lot. She was also the first female I ever knew who loved to see two guys pleasuring each other.

We had many good times together over the next several months, but after she went away to college we didn't see her very often. She eventually ended up with a boyfriend her age and I never saw her after that. It was great while it lasted though.

Drew

 

[NaughtyEyes]

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I'm so glad you posted this! Thank you so much! I'm really interested in the threesome situation but unfortunatly have hit some roadblocks I'm glad you had a great experience though, lol I'm pretty jealous.

I wish that my bf and I had a friend that would be open to such but sadly we dont, how would you have gone about finding someone had your friend not been available? Or was the idea only an option because you were able to do it with someone you already knew and trusted? When you initially discussed this with your wife you had the friend in mind or no?

You made it sord of clear that your wife had doubts at first, what changed her mind? All the things that snowman brought up still linger in the back of my mind. What was your converstation with her afterwards, anything she regrets or would change? You made it seem like she was less than excited to try again.


Lol its late and I'm sure I have other things I meant to say but I can't seem to remember any of them atm! Wondering if you are open to a PM sometime?

I didn't mean to ruin the mood in this great thread, hope I didn't! I'm super glad you had fun and I'm even more excited now than ever!

 

[Anomily]

I'm always so glad to hear when threesomes go well, it gives me hope. The first threesome I was involved in was absolutely amazing, but in the end, it was probably a bad plan. It was ffm, with me, my best friend, and her boyfriend. The friend and I had some history and there had always been an attraction between us. Her boyfriend knew this and was okay with it. One night, we had been drinking and to make a long story short, a threesome happened. I later learned that the two of them had discussed it a lot and decided it was something they really wanted to try and they knew I'd be up for it.

The problems came later. My friend really liked it and wanted it to be a regular thing and also to expand to include other guys, not just girls. Her boyfriend wasn't too keen on this and didn't want it to happen again at all because he felt like he had cheated on her with me even though she had no problems and the idea of including other guys made him feel inadequate. In the end, this difference of opinion played a leading role in the end of their relationship. Maybe it was for the best that they figured out that they were after different things, but it was still sad and sometimes I still feel a little responsible.

I guess the point of this is if you are one of the parties that's in a preexisting relationship and you're thinking of trying threesomes or moresomes, try to really imagine your boy/girlfriend with another person. If it bothers you even a little, you might want to rethink it because you can't undo it. For better or worse, those memories are there for keeps.

I'm not anti-threesome though, not by a long shot. I think they're a lot of fun and I definitely hope there are more of them in my future. My first experience and its aftermath just made me very aware of the possible consequences if any person involved has doubts.