Other ways you serve?

[coinín]

For you subs out there-

what are some of the ways you serve your Master/Mistress that don't involve anything overtly sexual or even sensual?
Things which express to Him/Her that you adore and worship Him/Her and want to serve and please.

For example...

yesterday I fetched His favourite drink and ensured it was chilled and ready for Him when He got back from work. I reconfigured the stereo for Him and recorded His favourite TV show. I cleaned the kitchen... so that when he got in, he could just kick back in in the tidy apartment, have a cold drink and watch TV.
I set up the coffeemaker so that when He got up this morning, there'd be a cup ready for Him. When He returns from class, there will be a nice (and healthy!) lunch prepared for Him.
I won't see Him much tonight, since i have to work early tomorrow, but when I finish work tomorrow I'll bring Him dinner on my way home, and when I get in i'll do all the laundry and clean the bathroom...

basically, I try to ensure that His needs are met and that i'm keeping Him comfortable and happy... and consider that part of serving Him. And I'm always looking for new things that will express to Him how i feel and that i'm glad to be in His service... so feedback on what else people are doing will be helpful. There's always room for additional improvement, right?

 

[catalina_francisco]

IMHO there is always room for improvement, but it has to be based on what suits your particular relationship, not based on what others are doing...it seems a bit like trying to keep up with the Jones's which can lead to burnout real quick and is not so much about seeking to please as seeking to be perfect, an impossibility. My advice in these type questions is always to talk to your Dom/me about what they want/need/ require, not strangers who may have a whole different set of wants/needs. Some Dom/mes also do not like their pyl to decide for them what it is they need and can get quite nasty about it....it took me awhile to understand where that came from but I do now and can see how they can see it as overstepping at times. Communication is the key....ask, and I am sure they will tell you what they want.

Catalina

 

[WriterDom]

Sounds like you have a lucky Master.

 

[coinín]

IMHO there is always room for improvement, but it has to be based on what suits your particular relationship, not based on what others are doing...it seems a bit like trying to keep up with the Jones's which can lead to burnout real quick and is not so much about seeking to please as seeking to be perfect, an impossibility. My advice in these type questions is always to talk to your Dom/me about what they want/need/ require, not strangers who may have a whole different set of wants/needs. Some Dom/mes also do not like their pyl to decide for them what it is they need and can get quite nasty about it....it took me awhile to understand where that came from but I do now and can see how they can see it as overstepping at times. Communication is the key....ask, and I am sure they will tell you what they want.

Catalina

Oh, I quite agree that communication is key... and I do ask him frequently if there's anything I could be doing for him that I'm not. He just doesn't always think of anything that precise moment when I ask... and it's always nice to have surprises and new ideas. He loves it when I do something special and surprise him, something that shows I was thinking of him and wanting to make things nice for him even when he's not there. He made an offhand comment last week about the state of our linen closet- so I went out and purchased organizers and shelving and fixed it on my day off while he was at work. It's not the kind of thing most people would think of as an act of submission, but I want to convey the feeling that anything he should wish is my command.

He's not the kind who gets annoyed if I try something else to please him, if i do something and he turns out not to love it, he'll punish me appropriately but understand my heart was in the right place. Even a mistake can turn out to be kind of fun, if you catch my meaning.

Sounds like you have a lucky Master.

He deserves it. I adore him.

 

[catalina_francisco]

LOL, I get into trouble for not thinking I am doing enough in terms of submission or things to make his life better...as he says, it is because it has become so ingrained into our lives I no longer think about it which makes sense, though now I don't have to drive him 10-15 hours a day, it does seem much less. I do all the things you do, plus a few more such as maintaining the family finances (that has really pleased him as he hates it and he is amazed with what I have done to make the finances seem to increase...lol, just a matter of learning through living below the poverty line with 2 children for years), editing reports for his work, contacting family and friends for him, making appointments, bathing him, massaging, making sure he eats before leaving for work and has vitamins also, coffee making around the clock (don't enjoy that much), laying out his cothes each morning then pouring his coffee to go with the breakfast I have made, packing his laptop so he picks it up on the way out, laying his phone & keys beside it and handing him his jacket and opening and closing the door as he leaves, reminding him of any important meetings he has that day which he can't afford to miss, preparing dinner and setting up his laptop when he gets home...those are the usual daily tasks but nothing outstanding. He has suggested I may be required to begin driving him again once I get a licence for this country...not sure that is good incentive to passing the test.

Catalina

 

[Betticus]

LOL, I get into trouble for not thinking I am doing enough in terms of submission or things to make his life better...as he says, it is because it has become so ingrained into our lives I no longer think about it which makes sense, though now I don't have to drive him 10-15 hours a day, it does seem much less. I do all the things you do, plus a few more such as maintaining the family finances (that has really pleased him as he hates it and he is amazed with what I have done to make the finances seem to increase...lol, just a matter of learning through living below the poverty line with 2 children for years), editing reports for his work, contacting family and friends for him, making appointments, bathing him, massaging, making sure he eats before leaving for work and has vitamins also, coffee making around the clock (don't enjoy that much), laying out his cothes each morning then pouring his coffee to go with the breakfast I have made, packing his laptop so he picks it up on the way out, laying his phone & keys beside it and handing him his jacket and opening and closing the door as he leaves, reminding him of any important meetings he has that day which he can't afford to miss, preparing dinner and setting up his laptop when he gets home...those are the usual daily tasks but nothing outstanding. He has suggested I may be required to begin driving him again once I get a licence for this country...not sure that is good incentive to passing the test.

Catalina

When I was in the Netherlands I rode a bicycle or the bus. Of course I was 12 thru 14 when I was there.

The finances I do completely understand. My ex wife was a stickler for detail and she did an amazing job of managing the finances.

 

[catalina_francisco]

When I was in the Netherlands I rode a bicycle or the bus. Of course I was 12 thru 14 when I was there.

The finances I do completely understand. My ex wife was a stickler for detail and she did an amazing job of managing the finances.

LOL, we have bicycles too but when he has to go to Belgium or drive 100 kms to and from work a bicycle is going to take too long...he used to train it a lot before we got together and he collected the company car and began to learn to drive. Public transport is a lot better organised here than in Oz though, but still time consuming.

Catalina

 

[eastern sun]

Years ago I was a liberated young woman who viewed all forms of housework and domesticity as slave labor unfairly designated to the subjugated woman.

Then I became a wife and mother. And I lived with either a filthy house or a lot of resentment, depending on how much housework I did.

When housework and domesticity became an opportunity for sexual service, however, and I was rewarded with sexual pleasure for doing it, my relationship to my role as wife and mother radically transformed.

Today I'm an imperfect slave, but a much better wife.

 

[Sulk]

Years ago I was a liberated young woman who viewed all forms of housework and domesticity as slave labor unfairly designated to the subjugated woman.

Then I became a wife and mother. And I lived with either a filthy house or a lot of resentment, depending on how much housework I did.

When housework and domesticity became an opportunity for sexual service, however, and I was rewarded with sexual pleasure for doing it, my relationship to my role as wife and mother radically transformed.

Today I'm an imperfect slave, but a much better wife.

lol.. I could say something along those lines.

When R returns from working overseas on a Friday night I am waiting at the airport. His needs are not sexual per se, they are simple; I ensure he slips comfortably back into home life. It's all in the details.

 

[catalina_francisco]

When R returns from working overseas on a Friday night I am waiting at the airport. His needs are not sexual per se, they are simple; I ensure he slips comfortably back into home life. It's all in the details.

LOL, F is the opposite...when I pick him up at the airport I am fortunate (or maybe not ) if I get to the car park without him molesting me publicly and passionately....and that continues throughout the journey home at which point he has only one thing on his mind and it ain't getting comfortable again with home life...that comes much later.

Catalina

 

[JMohegan]

Anything a partner does to maintain or improve her own desirability and compatibility serves me well.

Caring for her own health and physical fitness.... reading books (both ones I have read, and ones I have not)..... keeping up with the news, both locally and around the world.... actively pursuing skills and hobbies that interest her..... taking the time to learn about the skills and hobbies that interest me.... etc.

I do assign tasks and expect service relating to food, chores, and errands - and greatly appreciate a partner's efforts in those areas.

But ultimately, I do not date a woman to be a surrogate housekeeper. I date her because I value her companionship, both in and out of the bedroom.

If she wants to serve me well, she will carefully complete the necessary mundane tasks, and then focus on that which she knows I value most highly.

 

[Netzach]

LOL, I get into trouble for not thinking I am doing enough in terms of submission or things to make his life better...as he says, it is because it has become so ingrained into our lives I no longer think about it which makes sense, though now I don't have to drive him 10-15 hours a day, it does seem much less. I do all the things you do, plus a few more such as maintaining the family finances (that has really pleased him as he hates it and he is amazed with what I have done to make the finances seem to increase...lol, just a matter of learning through living below the poverty line with 2 children for years), editing reports for his work, contacting family and friends for him, making appointments, bathing him, massaging, making sure he eats before leaving for work and has vitamins also, coffee making around the clock (don't enjoy that much), laying out his cothes each morning then pouring his coffee to go with the breakfast I have made, packing his laptop so he picks it up on the way out, laying his phone & keys beside it and handing him his jacket and opening and closing the door as he leaves, reminding him of any important meetings he has that day which he can't afford to miss, preparing dinner and setting up his laptop when he gets home...those are the usual daily tasks but nothing outstanding. He has suggested I may be required to begin driving him again once I get a licence for this country...not sure that is good incentive to passing the test.

Catalina

Er, um, if you won't get in trouble for saying it, I'm wondering if F is a little eh...liable to run out of the house without his phone if it weren't for you...or misplaces his keys periodically. And when I use the world periodically I mean it in the sense of *every effing day*

I'm just idly wondering if I have that in common with anyone.

'Cause some of these jobs sound familiar - M has them.

And M has driven me around like a champ. I am finally getting over my NYC born and bred thing and going for my learners permit this week though.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Er, um, if you won't get in trouble for saying it, I'm wondering if F is a little eh...liable to run out of the house without his phone if it weren't for you...or misplaces his keys periodically. And when I use the world periodically I mean it in the sense of *every effing day*

I'm just idly wondering if I have that in common with anyone.

'Cause some of these jobs sound familiar - M has them.

And M has driven me around like a champ. I am finally getting over my NYC born and bred thing and going for my learners permit this week though.

LOL, yes he does, even when I set them out for him it is not unusual for him to be back at the door in 10 minutes to collect his phone...sheesh, a couple opf weeks ago it happened AFTER I had actually handed it to him. I lovingly call him the absent minded professor because as brilliant and sought after as he is, he does more often than not get muddled and forgetful so easily where the mundane and everyday things come into play. I thought his new car key would solve the losing the car key problem as it is one of those card shaped things bigger than an ATM card, but he has managed to lose it a couple of times by putting a book or something on top of it and then just sliding evrything around to find it, hence it slides with them still perfectly hidden. He does say he would be lost without me to keep track of everything and make sure everything is done and/or arranged on time. I'm sure he would cope though.

Good luck on the driving!! F didn't have a licence when we met...he had a nasty experience as a teenager which he is lucky to have survived and turned him off ever driving a car...and as public transport is a big thing here, lots of people never drive. He decided with some support and encouragement from me to go for it though, and as long as I agreed to break the law by being his first teacher and give him lots of practice while he was learning....now he would be lost without his car. I on the other hand have to go through a full testing here to get a Dutch licence even though I have been driving nearly 30 years without an accident or fine, and through floodwaters, up and down mountains (they don't have them here!!), and some other hairy situations, but I have had more lessons here than I had to get my first ever licence!! They like making money here which my present instructor admitted to me is the reason the previous intructor refused to allow me to go for a test without a few more hundred spent on more lessons, and he feels I really have nothing to worry about, especially as they class an Aussie driving licence as higher than a Dutch one apparently. I just want to get it over with so I can drive again!!

Catalina

 

[Blushing Bottom]

When I cook my speciality dishes I always freeze him a generous portion. We both live alone and know how difficult it is to get motivated enough to make a nice meal for one.

He loves it.

Oh and don't tell anyone but he does the same for me.

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

When I cook my speciality dishes I always freeze him a generous portion. We both live alone and know how difficult it is to get motivated enough to make a nice meal for one.

He loves it.

Oh and don't tell anyone but he does the same for me.

Awww...... that kind of rocks Miss Blushing

 

[Blushing Bottom]

It really rocks Ms Rebecca.

Awww...... that kind of rocks Miss Blushing