Ostomate Sex

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https://www.ostomy.org/what-is-an-ostomy/

(an ostomate is the person with the ostomy, not their mate)

this might be in the fantasy category, as far as I can tell, coming up on 4 years with my ostomy.
I have encountered a couple of ostomates on Fetlife who have sex (but are not near me), so it must happen.

I wonder what it would be like...
(I get the added fun of prostate removal and a non-functional penis)

If you write a story, please let me read it. It might cheer me up. But don't count on it.

 

[NewOldGuy77]

I follow several disability advocates on Insta. They often post pictures of Osto-women in various hot fashions to improve inclusion of the disabled under the umbrella of desire, if that makes sense. Haven’t seen any dudes, but I’ll look into it.

 

[Carnevil9]

This has the makings of a David Cronenberg movie all over it!

 

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This has the makings of a David Cronenberg movie all over it!

But those never end well!

 

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I follow several disability advocates on Insta. They often post pictures of Osto-women in various hot fashions to improve inclusion of the disabled under the umbrella of desire, if that makes sense. Haven’t seen any dudes, but I’ll look into it.

thus suggesting that osto-women are sexy, but the males are inferior...

 

[NewOldGuy77]

thus suggesting that osto-women are sexy, but the males are inferior...

No, far from it, it just means I follow women. I did a search on Insta and it popped up a bunch of Osto-dudes, including some bodybuilders. You are represented...

 

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No, far from it, it just means I follow women. I did a search on Insta and it popped up a bunch of Osto-dudes, including some bodybuilders. You are represented...

definitely no body builder here. But thanks.

 

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still hoping someone might take the idea and run with writing a story for this small but desperate audience. Maybe:
~the ostomy nurse turns out to love her job more than expected
~ to preserve the integrity of the ostomy, the wearer gets a home care worker to assist him with bathing. She insists that a proper bath require a close inspection of his penis to make sure it is not growing any fungus in the folds of skin...
~ the tentacle monster finds the bag a turn on because of the wet ingredients inside...

 

[NewOldGuy77]

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inspirational. Now I just needs to find a mate... yeah...
still hoping for someone to write me a story that makes me feel less like a geek...

 

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Fetlife has 100+ members of Ostomate groups, so I might not be an audience of one if somebody wrote this...
(please do not suggest I write it myself, my whole point here is that I need external validation of the concept that ostomates might actually find a sexual partner, beyond the fancy propaganda vrocgures they pass out when they heip you open and change your life forever. I also believe there are ostomates climbing mountains, but how likely is that?)

 

[Carnevil9]

I doubt that anyone who isn't living the life of an ostomate could cobble together a credible story about being such a person. It will probably take an insider to craft a story that will ring true. Or at the very least, a collaboration with someone who is living the life.

 

[NewOldGuy77]

I doubt that anyone who isn't living the life of an ostomate could cobble together a credible story about being such a person. It will probably take an insider to craft a story that will ring true. Or at the very least, a collaboration with someone who is living the life.

Agreed. Because of this thread, I've done some reading about intimacy with IBD and ostomies, but it would need someone who's lived the life to make sure it was authentic.

 

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Agreed. Because of this thread, I've done some reading about intimacy with IBD and ostomies, but it would need someone who's lived the life to make sure it was authentic.

can't help with the intimacy parts. As far as I know it iis science fiction. I can't even get laid by a tentacle monster (I'm pretty sure there is one living under my basemernt stairs)

 

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My ostomy nurse suggests that I would have fewer leaks at night if I did not roll over and squish the bag when it is partially full.

she declined to help me find a bedmate to kick me when I roll in my sleep.

I think it might make an interesting story to write about the responses to an online ad something like "Bed Mate wanted for impotent 60+ male with mild cerebral palsy and unstable ostomy- main duties will be to kick him if he rolls over. Room and Board, lots of tonguing and kinky play optional bonuses."

 

[Carnevil9]

My ostomy nurse suggests that I would have fewer leaks at night if I did not roll over and squish the bag when it is partially full.

she declined to help me find a bedmate to kick me when I roll in my sleep.

I think it might make an interesting story to write about the responses to an online ad something like "Bed Mate wanted for impotent 60+ male with mild cerebral palsy and unstable ostomy- main duties will be to kick him if he rolls over. Room and Board, lots of tonguing and kinky play optional bonuses."

That doesn't sound like the most interesting job offer. But then again, rich people suffer indignities of the flesh just as much as middle classers. How about a story of a wealthy ostomate who needs a bed mate for exactly such purposes, and offers very high wages. He might have many candidates lining up, and selects the most comely of them. She is at first disgusted and only performs her duties for the extravagant pay, but eventually realizes that her employer is a wonderful and loving person, and comes to love him deeply (and physically).

But as an aside, I have to ask, why can't a rigid container be placed around the bag so that it can't be squished when rolled upon? That seems like it should solve the problem.

 

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That doesn't sound like the most interesting job offer. But then again, rich people suffer indignities of the flesh just as much as middle classers. How about a story of a wealthy ostomate who needs a bed mate for exactly such purposes, and offers very high wages. He might have many candidates lining up, and selects the most comely of them. She is at first disgusted and only performs her duties for the extravagant pay, but eventually realizes that her employer is a wonderful and loving person, and comes to love him deeply (and physically).

But as an aside, I have to ask, why can't a rigid container be placed around the bag so that it can't be squished when rolled upon? That seems like it should solve the problem.

It is not the actual bag so much as the glued on barrier that gets squished the wrong way, and that flexs with the belly. In theory. Then a gap is created when the glue fails... that is where it leaks usually.

 

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That doesn't sound like the most interesting job offer. But then again, rich people suffer indignities of the flesh just as much as middle classers. How about a story of a wealthy ostomate who needs a bed mate for exactly such purposes, and offers very high wages. He might have many candidates lining up, and selects the most comely of them. She is at first disgusted and only performs her duties for the extravagant pay, but eventually realizes that her employer is a wonderful and loving person, and comes to love him deeply (and physically).

But as an aside, I have to ask, why can't a rigid container be placed around the bag so that it can't be squished when rolled upon? That seems like it should solve the problem.

I thought it might attract a domme....