Orgasm Denial....

[Daddyslilpet]

This is something that I've been very curious about (gotta watch out for a curious critter...lol).

I think that a lot of people practice orgasm denial. Not to brag, but Master doesn't seem to like to deny me orgasms. In fact, sometimes I have to beg to be allowed to stop. Not that I'm complaining mind you, I just wonder what others think about it. How does it work?

Dom/me's - Do you enjoy orgasm denial for your sub? (I know silly question )

sub's - How do you feel when told no you can't cum? Does it make it all the more intense when you are finally allowed release?

Just thought I'd throw this out there for some discussion.

Please forgive me if this has been discussed before, I tried a search of the library, but didn't see anything.

dixi

 

[catalina_francisco]

Master loves the power rush it gives him to give me orgasms, so the only permanent denial is when he orders me to masturbate at which point I am not to cum unless he is there and gives permission, or on those occasions when we are not together and he grants me the release in advance.

In our play together, he may at times deny my orgasm for a small amount of time, which does often intensify the eventual release. I also am only permitted to orgasm once per session without asking, and after that I am expected to ask each time, and count them. Like yourself, I often have to beg him to stop giving me orgasms, but that is another sort of fun altogether.

Catalina

 

[s'lara]

<snip>sub's - How do you feel when told no you can't cum? Does it make it all the more intense when you are finally allowed release?<snip>

Tortuous pleasure. Yes, it was that much more intense when finally allowed to release. The denial also tests your self control in a big way ... the staving off of something that feels so good and the frustration at being denied ... what a predicament.

The major thing was the rush of gratefulness that coincided with the release - incredibly heady. A thousand "Thank You Masters" just didn't seem to be enough.

lara

 

[Croctden]

Dom/me's - Do you enjoy orgasm denial for your sub? (I know silly question )

It's fun, but just a control issue. Feel the power! To get a woman really going and then stop...

Sometimes they panic and ask what is wrong

 

[Daddyslilpet]

Master loves the power rush it gives him to give me orgasms, so the only permanent denial is when he orders me to masturbate at which point I am not to cum unless he is there and gives permission, or on those occasions when we are not together and he grants me the release in advance.

In our play together, he may at times deny my orgasm for a small amount of time, which does often intensify the eventual release. I also am only permitted to orgasm once per session without asking, and after that I am expected to ask each time, and count them. Like yourself, I often have to beg him to stop giving me orgasms, but that is another sort of fun altogether.

Catalina

Yes that is another sort of fun, I'll be the first to agree.

Thank you Catalina for your candid response. I have another question for you... Do you find it difficult to remember the count? I know I do. LOL.

 

[Daddyslilpet]

Re: Re: Orgasm Denial....

Tortuous pleasure. Yes, it was that much more intense when finally allowed to release. The denial also tests your self control in a big way ... the staving off of something that feels so good and the frustration at being denied ... what a predicament.

The major thing was the rush of gratefulness that coincided with the release - incredibly heady. A thousand "Thank You Masters" just didn't seem to be enough.

lara

I really like the way you described that lara. I agree I think it would test your self control mightly. I must say I'm not sure I could stop myself just short of cumming, but then I'd love to experiment to find out for sure.

 

[Daddyslilpet]

Re: Re: Orgasm Denial....

It's fun, but just a control issue. Feel the power! To get a woman really going and then stop...

Sometimes they panic and ask what is wrong

Ah yes I'm sure the "power" behind having that control over Your sub is a very nice thing indeed.

Pretty sure I'd panic as well.

 

[D's mariposa]

I'm never allowed to come with him without asking. I always have to ask, and yes, it creates a big rush of relief and lust and gratitude. He's never restricted me when I masturbate without him. Probly because I dont do it very often.

 

[deezire1900]

I like to be denied, but need to find a master who is good at it....still searching.

 

[cellis]

Himself seems to derive a great deal of pleasure from my orgasms... especially since I have learned to have them other places than flat on my back...

Denial is not something that we practise... but it does have it's possibilities....

 

[AngelicAssassin]

But of course, control of such a basic reptilian brain function makes my day. Holding her at the point of release, backing her down, then ratcheting her back up again always makes me burn brighter.

Two corollaries exist in orgasm denial as well.

If the sub in question happens to enjoy multiple orgasms, or can rapidly recover and repeat, hold her off for a long time, say to the point she starts crawling up the wall. Let her get close, so close, she can almost feel the neurons fire, then back her off again.

Now you have two options.

1) When she begins to show frustration, bring her up gradually, so slowly she will get that "satan from hell" voice if you back her down again, then overwhelm her with pleasure. Ever watch a long string of firecrackers go off? http://www.1st-vets.org/forum/images/smiles/icon_razz.gif

2) If she happens to enjoy pain as well, overload her with sharp raps instead of urgent caresses. Something in the human body wires pain and pleasure very close at a particular threshold. If you've ever wondered what a volcano looks like close up, here's your chance. http://www.1st-vets.org/forum/images/smiles/icon_twisted.gif

 

[catalina_francisco]

But of course, control of such a basic reptilian brain function makes my day. Holding her at the point of release, backing her down, then ratcheting her back up again always makes me burn brighter.

Two corollaries exist in orgasm denial as well.

If the sub in question happens to enjoy multiple orgasms, or can rapidly recover and repeat, hold her off for a long time, say to the point she starts crawling up the wall. Let her get close, so close, she can almost feel the neurons fire, then back her off again.

Now you have two options.

1) When she begins to show frustration, bring her up gradually, so slowly she will get that "satan from hell" voice if you back her down again, then overwhelm her with pleasure. Ever watch a long string of firecrackers go off? http://www.1st-vets.org/forum/images/smiles/icon_razz.gif

2) If she happens to enjoy pain as well, overload her with sharp raps instead of urgent caresses. Something in the human body wires pain and pleasure very close at a particular threshold. If you've ever wondered what a volcano looks like close up, here's your chance. http://www.1st-vets.org/forum/images/smiles/icon_twisted.gif

Mmmmmm...shades of last night......think I will go back to bed and recover a bit more.

Catalina

 

[Daddyslilpet]

Great discussion everyone.... Thank you.

And OMG AngelicAssassin....... That sounds really good to me! Thank you!

 

[Daddyslilpet]

I like to be denied, but need to find a master who is good at it....still searching.

I hope you don't mind but I'd like to ask you a question about this. Why do you like to be denied? And good luck on the search.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Dom/me's - Do you enjoy orgasm denial for your sub? (I know silly question )

Not silly.

I have posted about this before, and I have also said that the dynamic between a male sub and Domme is very different indeed.

The males subs I have do not consider orgasm at all. they have their hopes but they do not assume that they will get one.

Why? Because they know it is not up to them. And they let it rest. They are there for a purpose, and that is to serve.

As for controlling orgasm, it is MY right to do so because their cock is My property, just as the rest of them is.

So as for what I like, I like My subs to obey. Period.

What do I like? I like obedience. Enuff said.

 

[cellis]

I hope you don't mind but I'd like to ask you a question about this. Why do you like to be denied? And good luck on the search.

In a psychological sense, there is something about being denied... you know if I am told not to do something that just makes it more attractive to me and wants to make me do it more... so if I am told not to masturbate or not to have an orgasm... for me anyway... it just builds my level of anticipation and anxiety and makes me want to do it.

I won't do it until I am given permission... but it will be on my mind all the time... I will hyper-excited... There is also the fact that I could do it and He would never know, but I won't because that is part of what I like about the whole thing... knowing I could go ahead and do it... but not doing it until He says it is okay.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Orgasm Denial and males

I am sure we all know how disinterested men become after they cum. They lose the sharpness and attention when they get what they want.

Orgasm denial is important if you want a sub to focuse exclusively on you. Needy male subs serve better, they pay better attention, and they are much more sharp in their obedience. They are motivated.

 

[cellis]

Re: Orgasm Denial and males

I am sure we all know how disinterested men become after they cum. They lose the sharpness and attention when they get what they want.

Orgasm denial is important if you want a sub to focuse exclusively on you. Needy male subs serve better, they pay better attention, and they are much more sharp in their obedience. They are motivated.

LOL so are needy female subs!

 

[Daddyslilpet]

Re: Re: Orgasm Denial and males

LOL so are needy female subs!

Why yes they are.

Thank you for your input on this subject.

 

[Mr. Bootie]

Yes, I love to deny her orgams.

I love to hear her beg and plead, Then I delight in telling her no. I know that although she would like to orgasm. She delights in me delaying it. One of the reasons I like to start and stop is to intensify the orgasm. The build up is part of the process. For when I do allow her to cum, she cums and cums and cums and...

 

[Daddyslilpet]

Eb - I can see how orgasm control would keep your male subs focused on their tasks. Thank you for sharing.

cellis - thank you. I understand the whole feeling of not doing something because he wants it that way. Yes it would be easy enough to do something without his knowledge, and I think it takes a lot of self control to keep it from happening without permission.

Mr Bootie - Sounds very nice. Thank you for sharing that.

 

[SierraMoon]

My Sir loves to deny me orgasms. My question is.... If they continually deny you orgasms, and the sexual frustration keeps building... how do they expect you to not be horny all the time??

i find myself thinking about sex all the time now, as i am not allowed to play without him present, or his permission. When i do get to talk to him on the phone (we are in an LDR), and he teases me to the brink of orgasm, then denies me... It just makes me want that orgasm all the more...

 

[Daddyslilpet]

My Sir loves to deny me orgasms. My question is.... If they continually deny you orgasms, and the sexual frustration keeps building... how do they expect you to not be horny all the time??

i find myself thinking about sex all the time now, as i am not allowed to play without him present, or his permission. When i do get to talk to him on the phone (we are in an LDR), and he teases me to the brink of orgasm, then denies me... It just makes me want that orgasm all the more...

That's exactly the questions I've had on my mind. So it seems to me that the sexual tensions would continue to build almost to the point of being torture.

Hmmmm maybe I should rethink my wish for this.

 

[SierraMoon]

That's exactly the questions I've had on my mind. So it seems to me that the sexual tensions would continue to build almost to the point of being torture.

Hmmmm maybe I should rethink my wish for this.

i'll tell you what dixi... the denial, the frustration and the unbelievable horniness are all worth the orgasm you will have when you are finally allowed it....

 

[Mr. Bootie]

Exactly!! But this is a sweet torture.

That's exactly the questions I've had on my mind. So it seems to me that the sexual tensions would continue to build almost to the point of being torture.

Hmmmm maybe I should rethink my wish for this.

You know what they say Dixi. " Be careful what you wish for, You just may get it." ( Or in your case. Might not get it. )