Oral sex

[kings]

My wife will not give me oral sex. She likes it when i go down on her but she won't do it for me. I thinks she sees it as a turn-off because she watched the xxx movies where they have cum shots.
we only been married for 11 months. Is this normal for some woman? How do I go about letting her experiment and try it.

 

[Monazwx]

Start slow

You're not giving me much to go on, but it sounds life your wife may think that it's dirty not only from xxx movies. Has she ever done it before in past relationships? How was she raised? Some women don't like to give BJ's cause they think it's wrong, but if she likes when you give her oral, then I don't think that's the problem.

First, tell her that you won't cum in her face (if she's only really freaking about the videos). Ask her to try it just once, maybe just licking it and sucking on it a little rather than a full-on BJ. Maybe some flavouring would help her get used to your member and don't pressure her to swallow (I hate when guys do that!). Always, let her know when something feels good, cause us girls need encouragement!

Hopefully, once should be enough and she won't be able to wait til you get your pants down from now on.

 

[MissTaken]

Talk to her, and as Mona is suggesting, let her take her time, explore and become comfortable with it.

If she has had one bad experience giving head, it can take some time before doing it again. For some, when it goes from "giving" a blow job to being "face fucked", there is apprehension and distaste.

But, just talk, give her time, room for learning and comfort.

You also might find a film that isn't a hard core xxx in which the deed is done lovingly and with compassion.

 

[NoRegrets]

It's tough not knowing what has transpired but I would
stop talking and just give her lots and lots of oral sex.
Drive her crazy with better experiences than she ever
thought possible. (There's lots of struff to try on this board)

If this didn't solve the problem, then I would take the
excellent previous suggestions. I would hope any
conversations will be more productive after backing
off and letting her enjoy this type play herself.

Good luck

 

[SexySlut2]

I agree with Mona, reasure her that you wont cum and just kind of ease her into it. I personally can't imagine a woman not liking it! That is my absolute favorite thing to do!

 

[weathered2]

Been there. The ladies above are correct, approach this slowly over a period of time and with a lot of assurance that nothing will be forced. A book on all sorts of sexual things that you can do to each other, that just happens to give advice on this also, might help put it in perspective. Also, playing together in a shower before you engage in it might help her with her impression of cleanliness. Maybe jerk off in the shower so she can see the lads in action and kind of get adjusted to what happens. And let her know in plenty of time to get out of "harm's way".

 

[huskie]

Sucking the guys cock With no intention of makeing him cum??
Thats one reason that it doesn't bother me that my wife doesn't suck my cock any more. She does not do it as will as she used to because she doesn't want me to cum.......
Whats the point in doing it? If I new that my wife was not going to cum when I eat her pussy I would be less apt to want to eat her pussy.
j.m.o.

huskie

 

[Nefarious]

Maybe you could try leading by example

Just a suggestion, but have you ever given her face after cumming in her pussy? Show her that you're not asking her to do anything that you wouldn't do yourself. Kiss her with your lips covered with your combined juices and a lot of potential excuses melt away.

 

[goddess]

YESSSS!!!! This is very normal. You will have to be patient, like you have never been patient before. It took years for me to like to do it. And still I only do it when I really know how much he will appreciate it since it took me so long to initiate this type of forplay. Probably playing in the shower or tub will help but don't pressure her. She has to be ready in her own time.

 

[goddess]

Been there. The ladies above are correct, approach this slowly over a period of time and with a lot of assurance that nothing will be forced.

The best advise in the world here. And I bet weathered has survived the storms at sea to get his rewards for his patience.

 

[marksgirl]

I'm much like goddess, it took me years before I learned and then loved to suck cock. It's a art, one learned, just like painting a beautiful picture, only this is on a cock. Just never make anyone swallow if they don't want to, I love to suck, not swallw (sorry guys, it's gross).

 

[Ms_Lilith]

Now I just want to mention a little something about cock-sucking without making the guy cum.

First, I am an avid lover of giving oral and I love to swallow, but sometimes, I just like to suck for the sake of sucking, and not ruin the hardon, because I know that better things will come (no pun intended) if I don't make him cum.

Part of Sexual Magic is building up to orgasm a few times, and then letting yourself down slowly, and then building up again and letting yourself down and building up again, and letting yourself down again, and then finally, when you do orgasm, you focus all of that energy into something, a wish, desire, etc, and the delayed orgasms will all crash together, making the orgasm better.

So, not all people who suck for the sake of sucking are bad people.. sometimes, they know what they're doing more than the person being sucked does.

 

[Ms_Lilith]

Kama Sutra site with info on Tantra and Magic

http://www.tantra.org/kamasutr.htm

Just a useful site that I found one day.. info on male internal ejaculation, VERY useful hints on oral and handjobs, etc.

 

[Guest]

RE: oral sex

 

[MR.GGG]

I think you have to tackle this on several fronts. # 1 is communication. Talk to her, find out what she finds unacceptable. Did some jerk shove his dick down her throat when she was dating? Did she get grosssedout at what she's been told is a demeaning act of having a guy squirt all over her face? Is it a religious thing? Cultural? Find that out first. Don't make it like an interrogation just tell her you want to help her enjoy oral sex as much as you do.

# 2 Keep it clean clean clean. Oral sex in the shower or the bath is perfect for anybody who is a bit squeamish about odours, bacteria...whatever physical hangups she might have. Get nice smelling soaps and oils and play a lot.

# 3 A slightly older woman with more experience introduced me to oral sex and used chocolate syrup. There are all kinds of flavoured goop that you can buy at sex shops. Pick a flavour you know she likes and ask her to clean it off while you do her - 69 position is perfect for this. I think keeping her turned on BIG TIME while she is learning and trying to do you is super important.

# 4 If she's terrified of you cuming in her mouth offer to wear a condom. I know. Most guys will think that's idiotic but to get her over that possible hangup you should offer. She can let loose knowing that she ain't gonna get a mouthful that she just isn't ready for.

Take it slow...and yes do her often and well but don't let her think that one sided love making is acceptable in the long run. If she's getting it she should work with you to overcome whatever hangups she has.

Good luck. I hope some of this advice works.

Have you tried the GSpot tickle. Make her cum 10 or 15 times and then nothing the next night until she takes a nibble. If compassiona dn patience doesn't work - try blackmail.

jk.....