Opinions on: Open Relationships

[Erik001]

My girlfriend and I have been together for 8 years now, the past 3 of which we've been 'open' (for those who don't know, that means we basically have given each other permission to sleep with or even date other people). It's worked out pretty well for us, really. We're closer than ever, but have the freedom to experiment sexually with who we want, and even explore deeper feelings with those others if such a thing might come about.

So I started wondering if this was odd, or if it was more common than I had thought it was. What are your opinions on open relationships? Are any of you engaged in one? Sound out and let me hear what you think.

 

[ickle_stace]

My girlfriend and I have been together for 8 years now, the past 3 of which we've been 'open' (for those who don't know, that means we basically have given each other permission to sleep with or even date other people). It's worked out pretty well for us, really. We're closer than ever, but have the freedom to experiment sexually with who we want, and even explore deeper feelings with those others if such a thing might come about.

So I started wondering if this was odd, or if it was more common than I had thought it was. What are your opinions on open relationships? Are any of you engaged in one? Sound out and let me hear what you think.

it wouldn't be for me. I don't like the idea of sleepin with someone when in between times they're off screwing other people.

But who am i to talk, im weird anyway, im not like other people in sexual respect. Everyone is more open than me

 

[horndog201]

I have to agree with ickle_stace, but to each their own. If it works for you, then go for it. But like I've said in other threads, I have problems trusting people on that kind of level, so that wouldn't work well for me.

 

[babydoll2u]

it wouldn't be for me. I don't like the idea of sleepin with someone when in between times they're off screwing other people.

But who am i to talk, im weird anyway, im not like other people in sexual respect. Everyone is more open than me

no you're not weird... an open relationship is not for me in any way, shape or form. If I'm going to be in a relationship it's going to be exclusive, or not at all. I don't share well... lol... and I don't want to be wondering and/or worrying about who or what my man is screwing, what he's going to bring home to me, etc.

And exploring deeper feelings with other people? C'mon Erik... it sounds like your relationship with your g/f is one of convenience, not commitment... If y'all don't have anyone to screw, you still have someone to come home to, is basically what it amounts to, from what you've posted here.

 

[Sweet_Madness]

Open relationships

I don't think I would mind one, if it were with the right person. After all, the best friends are...'friends with benefits'.

 

[ickle_stace]

no you're not weird... an open relationship is not for me in any way, shape or form. If I'm going to be in a relationship it's going to be exclusive, or not at all. I don't share well... lol... and I don't want to be wondering and/or worrying about who or what my man is screwing, what he's going to bring home to me, etc.

And exploring deeper feelings with other people? C'mon Erik... it sounds like your relationship with your g/f is one of convenience, not commitment... If y'all don't have anyone to screw, you still have someone to come home to, is basically what it amounts to, from what you've posted here.

thanks i just always feel like im weird, cos i don't really have friends with benefits for the same reason's either, so i feel weird quite often lol

 

[Callawantsit]

I don't think I would mind one, if it were with the right person. After all, the best friends are...'friends with benefits'.

Agree 100 percent! It takes 2 very secure people to make this work and when it does, it's awesome.

 

[Eilan]

My husband and I have had a handful of threesomes, but an open relationship isn't for us because we've decided that one of us won't play without the other.

If you can make it work, more power to you. Who are any of us to judge?

 

[babydoll2u]

thanks i just always feel like im weird, cos i don't really have friends with benefits for the same reason's either, so i feel weird quite often lol

ah now fuckbuddies is a whole 'nuther story......

 

[ickle_stace]

ah now fuckbuddies is a whole 'nuther story......

I can't stand the thought of fucking someone and in between times of me fucking them they're with someone else. Cos if i had a fuck buddy he'd be the only one until i found a proper relationship to be in, well or he did

told you i was weird *sigh*

 

[ChocolateHarlot]

My husband and I have had a handful of threesomes, but an open relationship isn't for us because we've decided that one of us won't play without the other.

If you can make it work, more power to you. Who are any of us to judge?

Same with me and my husband.

However we do know someone that has a husband, a boyfriend that she swings with AND a girlfriend. And they all know about each other. Now THATS an open relationship lol

 

[Erik001]

Wow, people replied!

no you're not weird... an open relationship is not for me in any way, shape or form. If I'm going to be in a relationship it's going to be exclusive, or not at all. I don't share well... lol... and I don't want to be wondering and/or worrying about who or what my man is screwing, what he's going to bring home to me, etc.

And exploring deeper feelings with other people? C'mon Erik... it sounds like your relationship with your g/f is one of convenience, not commitment... If y'all don't have anyone to screw, you still have someone to come home to, is basically what it amounts to, from what you've posted here.

I guess I can see how it might seem that way to someone looking at it from the outside, but it's not. I love her very dearly, and no matter who I'm messing around with or seeing, she always comes first. We fully intend to marry when we're both ready for it, and for whatever reason, it just works for us. Which isn't to say we don't have rough periods, though amusingly enough our fights are never about this. Most of our friends say we argue like an old married couple already, the sort of little bickering you only see after people have been together for awhile. So, I guess what I'm saying is that if you want to view it like that, you can, but that's not how it is. What we do with others or who else we date has never changed how we feel about one another, nor will it. And in my opinion, the fact that we can do the things we do and still feel that solidly about our relationship and each other has to say something, ne?