Open marriage to no marriage

[eurotripper]

My wife and I had an open marriage for a while, and it was hot and exciting, but it unraveled into effectively no marriage at all. My wife became more interested in the men outside the marriage than in me, which was where I drew the line. I that thought that a little extra-marital sex would spice up our marriage, and for a while it really did, but to work the metaphor, it appeared to me that she was more interested in the spice than the entree. So, she is on a plane across the country "discovering" whatever it is she wants, and I have decided to move on irresective of her latest mood swing. I am 56 but truly look a lot younger, probably late 40's, and I would be happy to send a picture to prove it. I am handsome (this is no place for false modesty) and in good shape. I work out daily in the full gym in my house. I am a self-employed highly educated professional. I am looking for female friends at any level, sexual or limited to platonic is both okay. Of course, dont get me wrong, I have a strong sex drive and know how to make a woman happy in that regard. But it is primarily friendship and companionship that I am looking for. If you just want to talk about your day and what is going on in your life, that is fine; and I would happily respect any limits you might have. I am very fexible in my availability, but I can be discreet as might be necessary. I am intelligent, have a quick wit, a creative mind, and as you hopefully see, I write well. I am looking for women over 35 because they have more life experience and would probably connect better with me. If you are married and have no intention of leaving your husband or of him ever finding out, but just want to talk to a man who will appreciate you for who you are and talk to you about your life and how your day has been, then I am the one for you. Looks and race are unimportant, since I am primarily interested in your mind and your heart, although if you're pretty that's fine too. If you are interested, or mildly intrigued or just a tad bored with your existing male friends and want to see who else is out there PM me. I have yahoo im, which would be a plus, but it you dont, do not let that stop you either.

 

[pariste74656]

"Someone will have to get me pregnant first " (before I'd get married again).--Captain Benjamin Franklin (Hawkeye) Pierce, answering a quesion on M*A*S*H

 

[somberReality]

Sounds like your marriage is dead. Been there, done that. Trust me, you're better off moving on and being by yourself for a bit. Otherwise whoever you get with is gonna be a rebounder.

 

[xfindingmex06]

Yeah my ex left me, so i went for a virgin. Boy he was a jerk.

 

[HAPPY DAYS]

Open marriage is the wrong way

Wife and I also spiced up our sex life by participating in some soft and hard swinging. We also had a number of MFM and FMF relations which were great. Open marriage in our opinion leads to failure because it is too individual and generally only spices up one party's sex life.

After being married for more than 35 years we still have great encounters and together love every minute of it.

Sorry about your bad luck.

 

[eurotripper]

thank you for the replies

i appreciate the feedback; the wounds are still fresh

 

[Flaouterakh]

Message to others...

Perhaps this guy needs some TLC......

 

[hmnfl74]

My advice would be to finish things with your wife first and end that chapter of your life.

It sounds as though you feel she has cheated on you so you will now cheat on her as if to pay her back from wronging you.

Before entering into a new relationship, it would be best to determine what happened to your current relationship with your wife. Where did things go wrong? How can you avoid this situation in the future?

My wife and I have done some swinging in the past. However, neither one of us will do so without the other present. We fulfill each others needs. The swinging to spice things up becomes just that.

Your relationship with your spouse/significant other should be first and foremost. Once either person looks for emotional support and/or intimacy (not neccessarily sexual intimacy) outside your relationship there becomes a problem that needs to be addressed as quickly as possible.

Hopefully it is not too late to save your relationship but, if it is, first close this chapter in your life before starting another.