DDBustyBrit
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So I think I am at this point or about to be and am looking for advice from those who may have already dealt with this.
It is something I have thrown out there in a few heated and calm discussions in the recent past. The reaction has not been more than 'a look'.
I don't need the advice to try counseling, I've done it, I pushed for it and he went along with it for 6 months but that's about all he did and he did not enjoy it.
I don't need a divorce, we are actually completely happy in every other way and I cannot imagine not being in this otherwise great life.
He is just not at all fussed about sex, has no sex drive and would probably live without it if he could. He is also 10 years older than me (60's), so it's not going to improve. There is no physical issue, he finds me attractive and loves me, he is just not sexual as a person.
I am in my prime in my 50's, healthy, super fit, confident, and desire is more than ever. I have told him I am otherwise perfectly content and love him, but I cannot and will not live sexless for the next 30 years. His reaction has been silence, no comment and that look!
Our last heated discussion was over a month ago, and I was as plain as I could be, and apart from a tiny bit more affection (which is nice) I have seen no change or effort. I spent Friday night floating around the house in stockings and hot VS underwear, literally no reaction at all! I walked through the kitchen naked last night, that got me a slap on the butt, but nothing more. And if I am completely honest, even though I have a great looking fit hubby, I have lost all desire for him because we live like friends.
So I think it's safe to say, it's time to face facts. But I'd like to do it in the best possible way, without inflicting too much hurt, or creating anger between us.
Have you dealt with this?
If so how did you do it?
Have you made it work?
If so how?
I am not looking for "try harder" comments, or get him to a Dr, or there's a pill for that.
I am also not looking to get hit on and my pm's are closed, the 3rd person slot is already taken thanks.
But I really could do with some personal experience advice and wisdom.....
It is something I have thrown out there in a few heated and calm discussions in the recent past. The reaction has not been more than 'a look'.
I don't need the advice to try counseling, I've done it, I pushed for it and he went along with it for 6 months but that's about all he did and he did not enjoy it.
I don't need a divorce, we are actually completely happy in every other way and I cannot imagine not being in this otherwise great life.
He is just not at all fussed about sex, has no sex drive and would probably live without it if he could. He is also 10 years older than me (60's), so it's not going to improve. There is no physical issue, he finds me attractive and loves me, he is just not sexual as a person.
I am in my prime in my 50's, healthy, super fit, confident, and desire is more than ever. I have told him I am otherwise perfectly content and love him, but I cannot and will not live sexless for the next 30 years. His reaction has been silence, no comment and that look!
Our last heated discussion was over a month ago, and I was as plain as I could be, and apart from a tiny bit more affection (which is nice) I have seen no change or effort. I spent Friday night floating around the house in stockings and hot VS underwear, literally no reaction at all! I walked through the kitchen naked last night, that got me a slap on the butt, but nothing more. And if I am completely honest, even though I have a great looking fit hubby, I have lost all desire for him because we live like friends.
So I think it's safe to say, it's time to face facts. But I'd like to do it in the best possible way, without inflicting too much hurt, or creating anger between us.
Have you dealt with this?
If so how did you do it?
Have you made it work?
If so how?
I am not looking for "try harder" comments, or get him to a Dr, or there's a pill for that.
I am also not looking to get hit on and my pm's are closed, the 3rd person slot is already taken thanks.
But I really could do with some personal experience advice and wisdom.....

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