OOC sounding off

[landiek]

I am not sure how to address this thought but I thought I would try

How many other people have problems about their character being manipulated into a behavior that they themselves haven't drawn out in the guist of their story?

For instant.. I find it agravating that one of my writing partners has instigated an action of my character to counter with his.. Not asking my advice or if this is acceptable.

I am on the verge of just dropping the story altogether to avoid more hurt feelings.. mainly mine.

I would really like some advice on this matter.. landi

 

[fukensploogin]

you should be up front about it immediately. otherwise, he'll get the idea that it's ok to do that again in the future. and pretty soon he's playing both parts.

hopefully i've never done such a thing to you. i totally understand why you're frustrated.

 

[landiek]

I sent a Pm and am waiting for a reply but I know that it's hard to write that way back and forth.

It really bothered me that when it happened before he blamed me for having to edit his post

I don't think we've wrote together before have we?

 

[redhairstacey4u]

I am not sure how to address this thought but I thought I would try

How many other people have problems about their character being manipulated into a behavior that they themselves haven't drawn out in the guist of their story?

For instant.. I find it agravating that one of my writing partners has instigated an action of my character to counter with his.. Not asking my advice or if this is acceptable.

I am on the verge of just dropping the story altogether to avoid more hurt feelings.. mainly mine.

I would really like some advice on this matter.. landi

Yeah...that's a big role-playing no-no. Definitely a pet peeve of mine. I usually tell writing partners that in advance. Another peeve of mine are writers who don't understand the concept of pacing and laying out a scene before jumping right into sex...or who don't know how to describe characters. "Two more big men come in and start fucking you too" doesn't do anything for me...

 

[landiek]

What works best if that doesn't help any?

 

[redhairstacey4u]

What works best if that doesn't help any?

I generally give one or two warnings and if that doesn't suffice I leave the thread. Of course, it depends on how blatant the offense is, and whether I think the writing partner is genuinely trying to improve. I don't want to be a bitch about it but on the other hand...

 

[fukensploogin]

sometimes it's good to remember that everything here is, you know, voluntary in nature. if it's frustrating you, it's not turning you on.

sometimes a neutral outside observer can help figure things out. pm me a link and i'll lurk on it for a bit.

 

[landiek]

Sent off..

I mean it is one thing when you give your partner the okay on certain parts but there are some I get downright hurt

 

[MelancholyBaby]

The best advice I can give is that writing here should be enjoyable.

If you're not finding it that way you may want to reconsider writing with this person. It is *your* story too and if you often find yourself in situations that you have little control over and instead of a collaborative attitude you are met with blame that would be, in my opinion, reason enough to tell this person that your styles just don't mesh well.

Hope things work out for you.

 

[landiek]

For those that are wondering I am referring to this story Young Chap Looking for a Baby Sitter

I am finding it harder and harder to write and since there is the problem of writing for my own character I feel that I am really not needed.

I appreciate all the advice given and walk away with a clear conscious


Landi