Online sub?!

[WannabeSub6873]

So I was on here earlier and seen someone speak about being an on line sub but not entirely sure what this is? By the sounds of the user it seems like a distant relationship, good for subs who are beginners?! Can anyone explain more please?! Maybe even offer me something in this?!

 

[fire_breeze]

So I was on here earlier and seen someone speak about being an on line sub but not entirely sure what this is? By the sounds of the user it seems like a distant relationship, good for subs who are beginners?! Can anyone explain more please?! Maybe even offer me something in this?!

Welcome to Lit.

An online submissive is exactly as it sounds: someone who develops or maintains a D/s relationship through the internet.

There are many reasons why there are on-line submissives. Some would like a way to dip their toe in, so to speak, to explore their submissive side (or maybe to figure out if they are) in an online environment, where they can retain a certain amount of control in the relative safety of the internet.

Others are in an long-distant relationship, which has a D/s dynamic and being an online submissive to their partner is a way they can remain connected.

Others are submissive but their off-line partners are not dominant or are not interested or what not, so they use the relative safety of the internet to satisfy what they are not getting at home.

Others are just looking to invest in their spank bank.

And there are many many more reasons.

As for finding an online dominant, the best I can offer is get to know the people and allow the relationship to develop as naturally as possible. Waiting for someone to offer to do this with you won't usually happen and also slightly passive. Involve yourself, get to know people, be a contributing member of the community, learn, and who knows?

Good luck and enjoy your stay

 

[NightL]

You could also check over in the BDSM Talk section of Lit as well
http://forum.literotica.com/forumdisplay.php?f=26
You may find more people associated/informed with the lifestyle.

If you do find the right Dom and decide to play publicly online - choose your area of Lit carefully - it can go very wrong if posted in the wrong area.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=729131

I think you can lock threads down to participants - not sure how - sure someone can offer assistance on that.

There is also the Sexual Role Playing section
http://forum.literotica.com/forumdisplay.php?f=11

 

[Iceprincess12]

So I was on here earlier and seen someone speak about being an on line sub but not entirely sure what this is? By the sounds of the user it seems like a distant relationship, good for subs who are beginners?! Can anyone explain more please?! Maybe even offer me something in this?!

You can order Subway online or through the app. There is also Quizno's, grubhub (the deliver from restaurants near you) and firehouse. It depends on what you want, cold, hot, toasty, etc...

Being on online sub is just like ordering from a restaurant. Any dom or dommes will give you a menu of choices and you get to pick what you want!! I am not a domme but I can offer to "tie you up", call you naughty names and deny your orgasm until you are ready to explode. Then for the finale I will tell you what a good boy you have been and let you spatter your keyboard.

Don't take the first offer though. After all being a sub isn't just about sex and that is the only thing on my menu. Wait for someone more experienced to give you something you really want.

 

[box13]

Online is probably long-distance. For me it is. For probably obvious reasons the relationship is more thought, more words, and more of an emotional connection. For me it is. Because it's online it's only during times when there's time, for both participants. For me it is. I suppose it's good for subs and Doms that are "beginners". For me it is. But I don't aspire to be an expert Dom, more just to discuss and explore the dimensions of her and my own sexuality that aren't touched in real life, or aren't discussed enough. "Safe" is important for some, for a while, since you can be anonymous for as long as you like.

Boundaries and limits in any relationship are important.

Never really got into "sub tasks" for things like punishments or anything. Some people seem to figure that out, but it always seems like something that would be awkward and contrived to me. So discussion varies between life and fantasy..."Hey, how's your day going" and then "I'm going to tie you up and kiss you all over...because you're mine and I want to." It's part erotic story, part role-play, part trusted close friend.

I don't know what all Doms are looking for, however. And we've all heard of awful tales told. Go slow. Choose wisely. But there are truly beautiful people out there, wanting to talk with someone. Probably just like you.

Don't know anything about Dommes...all the ones I've ever heard talk, sound like angry and abusive people, but that just may be my own issues.