Online Relationships - FAQ

[dangergirl]

Do you have an online lover? more than one?
Is your relationship "exclusive" for you? What about for your partner?
Is it cybersex if YOU don't touch yourself or undress but just encourage your partner to cum?
How/why do you move from emails to more intense "chat"?
Do you need to see a picture of your online partner to complete the experience or do you not care what they look like?

I had a ton more questions that needed answers but I will have to remember those before I post them. Now, does anyone have answers?

 

[LukkyKnight]

Wierd Harold has lots of answers.

 

[estevie]

Do you have an online lover? more than one?

* Yep, I have one! At the moment he is the only one.

Is your relationship "exclusive" for you? What about for your partner?

* No, we are not exclusive. If you are interested in the details of the deal, just ask.

Is it cybersex if YOU don't touch yourself or undress but just encourage your partner to cum?

* Yes, I think so.

How/why do you move from emails to more intense "chat"?

*How? Hell, I don't know...why? cause I wanna!

Do you need to see a picture of your online partner to complete the experience or do you not care what they look like?

*No, it is not necessary. I have a pic in my head of what I think someone looks like, that does me just fine!

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Do you have an online lover? more than one?

YES and NO. (Before I met my lover, I had several cybering experiences, but wouldn't call them "lovers".


Is your relationship "exclusive" for you? What about for your partner?

YES. We discussed this from the start, and although we have different interests and experiences going on here at Lit, we share everything that goes on whether it's done separately or with each other. We do NOT cyber with anyone else.


Is it cybersex if YOU don't touch yourself or undress but just encourage your partner to cum?

It's been that way for me! Many times I have cum without any physical stimulation. I hope I encourage him when he needs it!


How/why do you move from emails to more intense "chat"?

We actually began in CHAT, then moved to emails and "instant messaging", then phone calls, then AIM online "talk", and now we'll be meeting tomorrow (omg!!) for the first time as he visits me in NYC.


Do you need to see a picture of your online partner to complete the experience or do you not care what they look like?

I fell in love with Oman before I saw his photo. I hadn't "pictured" anyone in particular, but as soon as I looked at the photo I knew I would have been able to recognize him in a crowded room!

 

[dangergirl]

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Is your relationship "exclusive" for you? What about for your partner?

* No, we are not exclusive. If you are interested in the details of the deal, just ask.

Asking!

 

[Wiggles]

Do you have an online lover? more than one?
-Maybe... , If I told you I'd have to kill you.

Is your relationship "exclusive" for you? What about for your partner?
-Absolutley not, on both accounts.

Is it cybersex if YOU don't touch yourself or undress but just encourage your partner to cum?
-I would think so, I haven't tried it before, or rather I never made it through without touching myself.

How/why do you move from emails to more intense "chat"?
-Just seems to be the next thing to do. I love the intimacy too.

Do you need to see a picture of your online partner to complete the experience or do you not care what they look like?
-Not neccesarily, but it doesn't hurt either.


And Weird Harold does have lot's of answers, I bet even to these questions!

 

[lovetoread]

Do you have an online lover? more than one?

I have one online lover.

Is your relationship "exclusive" for you? What about for your partner?

It is very exclusive,both online and in the real world.

Is it cybersex if YOU don't touch yourself or undress but just encourage your partner to cum?

Yes

How/why do you move from emails to more intense "chat"?

It seemed to be a natural step to take. He and I clicked immediately.

Do you need to see a picture of your online partner to complete the experience or do you not care what they look like?

Before this one,no. With my lover now,I needed to see him.

 

[Guest]

(Do you have an online lover? more than one?)
Have had a few.

(Is your relationship "exclusive" for you? What about for your partner?)
It depends on the nature of the relationship. They're all different. I've had exclusive relationships and non-exclusive. My longest lasting relationship (2+ years) was exclusive for me and supposedly for my lover, although he occasionally had trouble remembering that while he was offline. Other "online" relationships were exclusive on both sides, both on and offline. To me, there are "real" relationships whether they are in person or online. Feelings are real either way, which to me, is what validates a relationship.

(Is it cybersex if YOU don't touch yourself or undress but just encourage your partner to cum?)
Um...unless you're Bill Clinton, then yes, if you're performing sexual acts on someone else, even through fantasy, then you ARE cyberring.

(How/why do you move from emails to more intense "chat"?)
I generally move from pm's to chat or ICQ to emails, with phoning the most intense remote sexing for the few very special people I've developed actual relationships with. For obvious reasons, chat is more realtime sexing than pm's or even ICQ since you're right THERE with the person and usually have their immediate attention. PM's and ICQ are great for "warm-ups" but with too much waiting time for the other person to speak, I don't find I get that intense attention I need to climax. When you phone, you can HEAR the other person. Not only the words and their tone, but also their sounds. You can talk to them while in a lot more comfortable location than a computer chair, be a lot more spontaneous, and it's almost as if they're in the same bed with you. Falling asleep to the sound of your lover's breathing in your ear is hell on long distance phone bills, but it's an absolutely wonderful feeling.

(Do you need to see a picture of your online partner to complete the experience or do you not care what they look like?)
This also depends on the "relationship". I don't need to see a person to care about them, or even to fall in love with them. Am I falling in love with what's outside or what's inside? I find it does help in fantasizing about them to have a general description (height, build, coloring), but it's not necessary. Blind people fall in love too, ya know, and they don't have to ever deal with what society says is "attractive". I fell very deeply in love with a guy who didn't send me his picture until we'd been in a relationship for a year and a half, and he didn't have mine either.

As for casual cyberring, no, I certainly don't need to see what a person looks like or even have a description.

[This is WhiteRose. My email addy's still messed up, so I can't post under my name]

 

[SweetCherry]

Do you have an online lover? Yes, tho he's also the love of my life.

more than one? nope

Is your relationship "exclusive" for you? yes

What about for your partner? yes

Is it cybersex if YOU don't touch yourself or undress but just encourage your partner to cum? yes, I think it is

How/why do you move from emails to more intense "chat"? I fell in love with him

Do you need to see a picture of your online partner to complete the experience or do you not care what they look like? I don't need to, but I do enjoy it now and again. It makes me eel like he's watching me.

 

[estevie]

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Asking!

*chuckles* alright

I have an online lover, Southern is his name, you'll meet him I'm sure. We met over a year ago in the tub at chat. We have been a couple eversince. We love eachother but we are not exclusive. Cybering is all for fun. We have no relationships, other than friendships, with the people we cyber with. We tell eachother who we cyber with, we sometimes share the people we cyber with We don't, for the most part, tell eachother who they can't cyber with. I have, on occasion, exercised my veto power and I reserve the right to veto anyone I want. As does he.

One part of the deal was to not be in eachothers faces with it...which worked fine...at chat. The bb has created a bit of a mess. My words don't disappear here, they remain for him to read later. I didn't change when I started posting here, I'm the same as I was in chat...but because my words don't whizzz by, it most certainly in his face. We are working that problem out.

I explain this to my cyber partners. I don't really call them lovers...I have one lover and that is Southern. Anyway, if I cyber with them more than once they hear all of this from me...just to make things clear. I have nothing to offer except friendship and a damn good time!

 

[dangergirl]

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I have nothing to offer except friendship and a damn good time!

Sounds just perfect!

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

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I have, on occasion, exercised my veto power and I reserve the right to veto anyone I want.

Hey Doll Face Umm...how do I go about getting myself some "Veto" power lol..just joshing ya...well sort of..

 

[estevie]

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Sounds just perfect!

Why, yes I am perfect, thanks for noticing!

hehee... seriously, it works for us. It may not for everyone. We are always fine tuning the 'deal' as things come up. Communication is the key. I'm not the best of communicators but since Southern never lets anything go, I'm learning to be.

Next question?

 

[estevie]

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Hey Doll Face Umm...how do I go about getting myself some "Veto" power lol..just joshing ya...well sort of..

LOL! You want veto power, darlin'?

Well, with Southern, its very easy. I just say "No, you can't fuck her" if he asks me first. Usually we discuss who we want to cyber with before hand, if I have a problem with it, I tell him then. I think I have only vetoed one or two. One for certain, the other one was after I found out he cybered more than once less than 5. Tho, I honestly don't remember if she was actually vetoed. LOL, I'm off the subject. Oh yes, veto power...I guess its all in the relationship you have/want. If you cyber with others I think you should have veto power, there are just some people you don't want fucking with your man.*******, offline...no matter what.

 

[Gilly Bean]

Do you have an online lover? more than one?
Is your relationship "exclusive" for you? What about for your partner?
Is it cybersex if YOU don't touch yourself or undress but just encourage your partner to cum?
How/why do you move from emails to more intense "chat"?
Do you need to see a picture of your online partner to complete the experience or do you not care what they look like?

I had a ton more questions that needed answers but I will have to remember those before I post them. Now, does anyone have answers?

Yes, I have an on-line lover (my husband knows, too, just not who)
It's exclusive online for me, I only have one, and am not interesting in having any more. HOwever, I don't think I am the only one for him.
Cyber is a new experiance for me, just started this after noon, and well, you all read THAT thread, and if not, I highly recommend it.
We chat through PM's and AIM
No, I don't need a picture. My mind is vivid enough.

 

[dangergirl]

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If you cyber with others I think you should have veto power, there are just some people you don't want fucking with your man.*******, offline...no matter what.

well then, what about fucking with your woman?

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

I hear ya...

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Estevie...

... there are just some people you don't want fucking with your man.*******, offline...no matter what.

I'll drink to THAT!! hic...


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[estevie]

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well then, what about fucking with your woman?

Well now ladies, that I have no answers for. I am not in a relationship with a woman. For me anyway, I don't get jealous of my womans lover. LOL, that sounds funny...my woman...hehee. But, since I do have female cyber partners I have to say that I would not veto a man...I may veto another woman tho. If I felt threatened in some way by her...or for no reason at all. But, only if I have a relationship with them...other than friends. Does that make sense? I can't apply the same deal that I have with Southern to someone else. We would need a new deal.

 

[Paradox]

Do you have an online lover? more than one?
Is your relationship "exclusive" for you? What about for your partner?
Is it cybersex if YOU don't touch yourself or undress but just encourage your partner to cum?
How/why do you move from emails to more intense "chat"?
Do you need to see a picture of your online partner to complete the experience or do you not care what they look like?

I had a ton more questions that needed answers but I will have to remember those before I post them. Now, does anyone have answers?

Yes, I have one. I've had others in the past, but only the one right now. I think I am her only one, but one can never be sure.

I guess I would call it cybersex whenever someone cums--one or both.

Our move to more intense "chat" sort of caught me by surprise one day. One minute it was pretty casual, the next...

A picture isn't necessary. She has been able create some pretty clear mental images for me.

 

[Xander]

Do you have an online lover? more than one? Once upon a time I did, and at some points I ahd more than one too.

Is your relationship "exclusive" for you? What about for your partner? Some were, some weren't

Is it cybersex if YOU don't touch yourself or undress but just encourage your partner to cum? yes

How/why do you move from emails to more intense "chat"? It usually just happens.

Do you need to see a picture of your online partner to complete the experience or do you not care what they look like? Looks are a minor aspect of it all.

 

[Cherry]

Originally posted by dangergirl

Do you have an online lover?
Yes, for a year and a half now.

more than one?
No, I can't handle more than him!

Is your relationship "exclusive" for you?
Yes, nobody else even tempts me.

What about for your partner?
Yes, in fact it was his idea ... he "didn't want to share"

Is it cybersex if YOU don't touch yourself or undress but just encourage your partner to cum?
Yes, I believe so. I would consider "cybersex" whatever is interactive sexual communication that gets the good juices flowing. Agreeing with JennyOmanHill, intense orgasms do not require touch.

How/why do you move from emails to more intense "chat"?
Kind of comical what some consider "cybersex", I guess it's a matter of interpretation. Personally speaking, I would say that "cybersex" has to be spontaneous and more immediate than posting on boards, email, or private messages ... but rather in a chat environment (or instant messaging in a chat window). How you move into intensity varies. Some will go to chat and knock em off one after the other (that doesn't require much attraction) ... most people develop an attraction that leads into further communication and sexual interaction. 'Fuck Buddies' can be fun ... but they can't compare to the intensity of an online lover (a solid relationship with someone you've grown to love).

Do you need to see a picture of your online partner to complete the experience or do you not care what they look like?
Eventually, if the experience continues. Oddly enough, most couples who spend a great deal of time communicating with each other online have no surprises. My man looked EXACTLY as I had imagined him.

 

[Draco]

SweetCherry answered most of the questions so I'd just like to add. We didn't meet via email, we met in a random chat session on ICQ. I was surfing and l was looking for new people to chat to, her Nickname took my fancy so I made a lame joke about it in reference to a Neil Diamond song. We hit it off immediately. It was a meeting of the minds. I knew straight away that this lady on the other side of the world was my soulmate/partner to be. Dont ask me how I knew, I just did. Call it intuition or gut feeling or fate. I didn't need her picture, I'd already formed an image in my mind of how she looked. After seeing her picture, it kinda looped me out how close that mental image really was.

 

[juicylips]

Do you have an online lover? more than one?
Is your relationship "exclusive" for you? What about for your partner?
Is it cybersex if YOU don't touch yourself or undress but just encourage your partner to cum?
How/why do you move from emails to more intense "chat"?
Do you need to see a picture of your online partner to complete the experience or do you not care what they look like?

Do you have an online lover? more than one?

Yes. Yes.

Is your relationship "exclusive" for you?

No.

What about for your partner?

No. I don't expect any of them to be exclusive to just me. They would become bored.

Is it cybersex if YOU don't touch yourself or undress but just encourage your partner to cum?

Yes.

How/why do you move from emails to more intense "chat"?

Depends on the partner. Some guys email for weeks, others want to chat first time. I try to treat everyone as individuals. I don't consider just emails cybering, lol. Cybering to me is real time chatting so that we cum. Whether seperately or together.

Do you need to see a picture of your online partner to complete the experience or do you not care what they look like?

I have never asked for a pic. Sometimes they are sent anyways. In all honesty, if I am with them, it is because of their wit, intelligence and overall sexual energy. Therefore the pic is really unimportant.

Cassidy

 

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