Black_Bird
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Has anyone online ever been jealous over you talking to another one of your online friends? Have you even been jealous over an online friend?
Online Jealousy.
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Silverlily
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I've had someone get their panties in a wad over a harmless *cough, cough* conversation.
Black_Bird
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Hmm... are you talking about what I think your talking about? ... and if so, do you want to make everyone else jealous again? 
Silverlily
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you are correct sir
Save it for Saturday night, you'll need your strength.
Save it for Saturday night, you'll need your strength.
Black_Bird
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Hmm... why do I hear Elton John singing?
Anyway - I'm done hijacking my own thread! What was the subject? Ah, yes - Jealousy! I want to hear your opinions!
Anyway - I'm done hijacking my own thread! What was the subject? Ah, yes - Jealousy! I want to hear your opinions!
kiwiwolf
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I am completely honest with anyone I talk to online. That stops any chance of jealousy... As for my side of things... I don't own anyone , so if they want to chat, cyber or anything else, it is none of my business. Whatever makes them happy is cool by me...
Dragonette
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Not me
But I have seen it online many times, to many times!
Oh hi again kiwiwolf!
Waves to BB
But I have seen it online many times, to many times!
Oh hi again kiwiwolf!
Waves to BB
Black_Bird
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Re: Not me
*Waves back* Hiya D.
Dragonette said:
*Waves back* Hiya D.
freescorfr
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Jealousy for me is one of the very few "cheerio", end of friendship/relationship triggers. Online or RL.
sabbathstorm
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I did have an online friend at one time that became insanely jealous of me talking to other people. He get pissed at me if I didn't message him quickly, saying I was "running around" with other guys. It even went so far as him hacking into my ICQ and my hotmail to snoop around and see who I was chatting to. He sent threatening messages to anyone male on my list and sent me bullshit about him defending my honor. Then he nuked me...lovely eh?
I don't often get jealous about my partner talking to women online. There was only one instance where I was angry about him chatting with someone local because he was getting a little too personal with them. It was more a trust issue than a jealousy one. I didn't appreciate him talking to someone he went to school with about our private life.
I don't often get jealous about my partner talking to women online. There was only one instance where I was angry about him chatting with someone local because he was getting a little too personal with them. It was more a trust issue than a jealousy one. I didn't appreciate him talking to someone he went to school with about our private life.
lovetoread
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I only get jealous occasionally when my fella ims other women. I know that its not sex talk so that is okay with me.
It does however piss him off when I get ims from guys that I dont know. I dont know if its jealousy or not,but it happens.
It does however piss him off when I get ims from guys that I dont know. I dont know if its jealousy or not,but it happens.
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lovetoread said:
Whether you label it, jealousy, possessiveness, or low self-esteem (on his part) all three are destructive...........though come on admit it........a sliver of you, enjoys that he hates you get them right? lol
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Wave_Rider said:
Actually no I do not like it at all. My only thought is to please him,and those feelings are bad.
I like for him to feel the good things.
perks
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lot's of people get jealous of the sugahduck. It's unfortunate, because it means they don't understand me at all. They're just being jealous of part of me.
I'm jealous of sugahduck's thesis.
I've had smidges of jealousy over people. It is just a flag for me to take stock in myself and what my needs are for the moment. The reality is I don't want to be monogamous with the person I'm jealous of, and I don't want them to be monogamous with me. So, I have to ask myself what the jealousy is about. Usually jealousy is just a symptom of the base issue I'm having.
That doesn't mean I'm disallowing those feelings. It just means I can discuss them, share them with the person, even joke about them. It doesn't mean I want to change the relationship into something that isn't attractive to me in a connection.
Jealousy is a normal feeling. It's how you end up dealing with it that can make or break you.
I'm jealous of sugahduck's thesis.
I've had smidges of jealousy over people. It is just a flag for me to take stock in myself and what my needs are for the moment. The reality is I don't want to be monogamous with the person I'm jealous of, and I don't want them to be monogamous with me. So, I have to ask myself what the jealousy is about. Usually jealousy is just a symptom of the base issue I'm having.
That doesn't mean I'm disallowing those feelings. It just means I can discuss them, share them with the person, even joke about them. It doesn't mean I want to change the relationship into something that isn't attractive to me in a connection.
Jealousy is a normal feeling. It's how you end up dealing with it that can make or break you.
I am a jealous and possessive lover. I try not to be, and I try to work on it, but it hasn't changed yet. If someone has a commitment to me, I expect to be the number one priority.
But for online friends, I don't have any real relationships. Therefore, I have no right to know their going on's. And even if I did, I don't think it would be a problem, it's really none of my business and doesn't effect me in any way.
Sometimes I feel a little jealous of the person they're talking to at the moment, because I wish to have their full attention. That's about as far as it goes.
But for online friends, I don't have any real relationships. Therefore, I have no right to know their going on's. And even if I did, I don't think it would be a problem, it's really none of my business and doesn't effect me in any way.
Sometimes I feel a little jealous of the person they're talking to at the moment, because I wish to have their full attention. That's about as far as it goes.
JennyOmanHill
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A weakness for me
I have fought all my life to control my jealous feelings. They were much MUCH worse years ago, but I still feel a stirring (or two) start up once in a while.
I've come a long way with the matter of trust, and there is NO question when it comes to trusting my closest friends. (I've let go of quite a few RL friends who proved they were NOT as trustworthy as I had expected.)
For Oman and I, trust offline is essential as our relationship wouldn't be anywhere if it wasn't there on both sides. Online, Oman and I share our postings, as we use the boards to communicate and share our feelings in a different forum.
Although he goes there less often now, I realize that Oman still enjoys hanging in the tub in chat. The biggest "pang" for me is when others take up "my" time with him, and I have had to literally "soak" while he responded to PMs from "friends" who needed him for advice and such. Now that we're miked, we share more readily these "interruptions", but I do admit that I can sense his distractions still every once in a while.
So, am I jealous?? Not really, since neither of us has any desire to be really involved with anyone else. I'm a lucky gal! (I still fight the temptation to "sneak" in on his tub time, but that would only prove my doubt in him. It's just that dang "pang"!)
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I have fought all my life to control my jealous feelings. They were much MUCH worse years ago, but I still feel a stirring (or two) start up once in a while.
I've come a long way with the matter of trust, and there is NO question when it comes to trusting my closest friends. (I've let go of quite a few RL friends who proved they were NOT as trustworthy as I had expected.)
For Oman and I, trust offline is essential as our relationship wouldn't be anywhere if it wasn't there on both sides. Online, Oman and I share our postings, as we use the boards to communicate and share our feelings in a different forum.
Although he goes there less often now, I realize that Oman still enjoys hanging in the tub in chat. The biggest "pang" for me is when others take up "my" time with him, and I have had to literally "soak" while he responded to PMs from "friends" who needed him for advice and such. Now that we're miked, we share more readily these "interruptions", but I do admit that I can sense his distractions still every once in a while.
So, am I jealous?? Not really, since neither of us has any desire to be really involved with anyone else. I'm a lucky gal! (I still fight the temptation to "sneak" in on his tub time, but that would only prove my doubt in him. It's just that dang "pang"!)
http://www2.tky.3web.ne.jp/~aif/oekaki/monster.GIF
TigerClaw
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Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha
You obviusly dont know either of us. She is on a screenname not published and yet at least 2 guys have her on as friends. They know she is online when she did not authorize them. By my understanding this should not happen. I am not pissed she is imd by men, I am concerned she is getting unwanted ims from people she does not know. One did not identify himself the other did only after a while.
And she does not take joy in seeing me get angry. Modifying this. She does like it when I protect her and get possesive. But not in a negative way.
Alas, your theory is squashed.
Wave_Rider said:
You obviusly dont know either of us. She is on a screenname not published and yet at least 2 guys have her on as friends. They know she is online when she did not authorize them. By my understanding this should not happen. I am not pissed she is imd by men, I am concerned she is getting unwanted ims from people she does not know. One did not identify himself the other did only after a while.
And she does not take joy in seeing me get angry. Modifying this. She does like it when I protect her and get possesive. But not in a negative way.
Alas, your theory is squashed.
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TigerClaw
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She gets jealous, I get Possesive....
To answer the post.
This is a totally new feeling for me. It started shortly after we first met. Seeing how horrible people that should care about her treated her irritated me. I will not go into the circumstances but it turned into a possesiveness due to the way she was being treated. It has kinda stuck.
To answer the post.
This is a totally new feeling for me. It started shortly after we first met. Seeing how horrible people that should care about her treated her irritated me. I will not go into the circumstances but it turned into a possesiveness due to the way she was being treated. It has kinda stuck.
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So far as jealousy is concerned, I think that everyone has gotten jealous at one time or another in their lives.
I know I have. The very first on-line person for whom I had ever had any affection- oh! Yes, I got jealous! She quickly put me in my place! Thank god, she was a kind enough person to understand that I was feeling a very human emotion.
It is a destructive impulse if acted upon. Lately, in my life, I have discovered a better concept- envy! Now, if you are referring to our interactions here- hey, yeah, people are friends- real friends here, but it makes good sense, I think, to keep it all in proper perspective.
I think the best thing, when I feel a twinge of jealousy, is to let it lie. It has always gone away.
I know I have. The very first on-line person for whom I had ever had any affection- oh! Yes, I got jealous! She quickly put me in my place! Thank god, she was a kind enough person to understand that I was feeling a very human emotion.
It is a destructive impulse if acted upon. Lately, in my life, I have discovered a better concept- envy!
Now, if you are referring to our interactions here- hey, yeah, people are friends- real friends here, but it makes good sense, I think, to keep it all in proper perspective.I think the best thing, when I feel a twinge of jealousy, is to let it lie. It has always gone away.
Allexus_TN
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I agree with a couple of things here. One, Riff is right, jealousy is a human emotion. Everyone has felt it from time to time. Its easy to let that feeling take center stage when your online friend suddenly seems to be ignoring you.
And, like someone mentioned (oh geez I'm sorry, but I forgot who said this), if I'm having an "in depth" talk with a guy, I want full attention if at all possible.
However, as far as my online friends go, I don't own them and vice versa. They are certainly welcome to make friends besides me, just like my friends in RL. That's how life is. I refuse to be a self-centered bitch. If they have people in addition to me that make them happy, then that makes me happy too.
And, like someone mentioned (oh geez I'm sorry, but I forgot who said this), if I'm having an "in depth" talk with a guy, I want full attention if at all possible.
However, as far as my online friends go, I don't own them and vice versa. They are certainly welcome to make friends besides me, just like my friends in RL. That's how life is. I refuse to be a self-centered bitch. If they have people in addition to me that make them happy, then that makes me happy too.
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