This is a systematized list of ideas for online cyber/cam submission. I surveyed a handful of people and compiled it, so these are not my original ideas.
These are intended for light to moderate submission, and not for injury or serious pain. Unfortunately, some of these ideas are intended for the male anatomy and cannot be easily adapted to female anatomy. (Note: This list takes a narrow view of the subject matter. Mostly submission of the instructional/task variety. If it's useful to you, great.)
Please offer your own suggestions in the thread below.
1) Basic
-Establish rules (such as “You may not cum” or “stroke/rub/touch” or “use your hands”, or "You cannot talk, only whimper like a puppy")
-Make your sub address you properly (“Mistress” “Miss ____”)
-Make your sub ask to touch, stroke, or cum (“Ask permission to stroke.”)
-Make your sub thank you for pleasure, humiliation, or pain (“Say thank you, Mistress”)
-Make your sub tell you when s/he gets close or edges (“Tell Mistress when you are edging.”)
-Make your sub beg you to cum
2) Voice
-Make your sub verbally thank you or verbally ask permission
-Make your sub repeat phrases (“Say, ‘I’m your little bitch’”)
-Make your sub make humiliating noises (bark, pant, whimper, oink)
-Make your sub say words or make noises with each stroke or slap ("Each time you stroke, oink for your Mistress.")
3) Plug/dildo/suction cup dildo
-Make your sub suck the dildo (or deepthroat)
-Make your sub sit on it, take it all the way
-Make your sub bounce up and down
-Make your sub fuck or suck the dildo each time s/he strokes or rubs/make him/her match the rhythm ("Fuck that dildo each time you stroke/rub that clit.")
-Don't let your sub cum without his/her ass full ("Every time you cum, I want your ass full of cock")
4) Eye training/eye contact
-Make your sub stare into a picture of your choice while s/he rubs or strokes
-Condition your sub to cum only to certain pictures of your choice
-Choose non-nude pics (feet, legs) or humiliation/forced bisexual pics (another cock)
-Make your sub stare into the camera lens (not the screen) without looking away ("eye contact")
-Make your sub close her/his eyes (sensory deprivation)
5) Body position
-Make your sub kneel, get on all fours, lie on his back, turn around and spread his ass
6) Ass, pussy, or cock worship
-Make your sub smell or taste used panties
-Make your sub stuff his/her mouth with panties (optional: secure with tape)
-Make your sub smell used panties during any stimulation and/or before and during orgasm
-Choose a pic of ass, pussy, or cock for eye training/contact
7) Paper clips, nipple clamps
-Make your sub wear 'clamps' on his nipples
-Make your sub wear 'clamps' on his tongue
8) Online metronome
-Set a metronome or make your sub set one, and choose how fast it goes
-Make your sub stroke or fuck (a dildo, a fleshlight) to the metronome
9) Timers (counting down or up)
-Make your sub cum before the end of a timer
-Make your sub hold it until the end of a timer
-Make your sub edge for the length of a timer
-Make your sub perform for the length of a timer (fuck his/her ass, slap his cock)
10) Cum/orgasm
-Make your sub tell you how close s/he is to cumming (1-10 scale, 10 is cumming)
-Make your sub hold his/her orgasm at a level (1-10 scale) before cumming ("Stay at an 8. No more or less")
-Deny his/her orgasm with advanced warning ("You will not cum today") or without advanced warning ("Stop stroking. Do not cum.")
-Make your sub cum as quickly as possible/deny the pleasure of building up/train your sub to cum quickly
-Make your female sub rub/vibrate her clit after cumming, until you tell her to stop
-Make your male sub “milk” it (stroke after cumming) until you tell him to stop
-Make your male sub cum on an object (dildo, photo, computer screen) or on the floor
-Make your male sub ruin his orgasm (withdraw stimulation just before orgasm, again and again, until he cums without stimulation)
-Make your male sub cum into his mouth
-Make your male sub cum into a glass
-Make your male sub cum into a ziplock bag (as a rule), store it in the fridge for later
11) Assplay
-Make your sub grip an object between her/his ass cheeks (pen, marker, etc.)
-Make your sub grip an object inside her/his asshole ("Don't let it go")
-Make your sub hold warm water, cum, or lube in her/his ass (need funnel, turkey baster, plastic syringe)
12) Cam roleplay
-Make your sub act like (treat your sub like) a puppy or animal (fetch objects, pant, hold objects with teeth, bark, whimper, etc.)
-Make your sub act like (treat your sub like) a boy or girl
13) Hypnosis, aural stimulation, visual stimulation, forced bi
-Make your sub stare into a picture while s/he repeats phrases
-Make your sub close/cover his/her eyes on cam so that your voice is the only stimulation
-Make your sub repeat phrases
-Make your sub listen to your favorite porn sounds, especially with eyes closed
-Forced bi for male subs: Make your sub listen to guys fucking or stroking
-Forced bi for male subs: Make your sub watch guys fucking or stroking
-Forced bi for male subs: Make your sub ask you or thank you for cock or gay sex
14) Ownership, submission beyond cyber/cam
-Make your sub write your name on a body part
-Make your sub respond with pics throughout the day (“Show me your hard cock”/“wet pussy”)
-Make your sub masturbate to your pics when you can't chat, prove that s/he came for your pics
-Make your sub wait to cum until you can next chat
-Forbid your sub to cum for anyone else
15) Training/conditioning
-Create associations between things and pleasure/orgasm (each time s/he edges, use the same words or phrases, the same pictures, and/or the same sounds)
-Create associations between actions and pleasure/orgasm (filling his/her ass with a dildo or plug, assuming a milking position on all fours, lying on his/her back, sniffing panties, sucking dildo or pacifier, etc.)
-Tell your sub that s/he needs this training / encourage your sub to accept his/her training
16) Other humiliation/mind games
-Make your sub strip completely during play
-Show yourself fully clothed on cam while your sub is naked (like CFNM)
-Tease your sub verbally ("You like that, don't you?" "You want more, don't you?" "Too bad you are not going to get a full orgasm today.")
17) Involving others
-Invite another person (male or female) to watch your sub (such as on Whereby or Hangouts)
-Make two guys or girls perform on cam at the same time, so they're forced to watch each other (and give them the same or differing commands, or make them compete for rewards)
18) Vibrator
-For male subs: Make your sub cum from vibrator stimulation only (less satisfying, incomplete orgasm)
-For male subs: Make your sub use a vibrator on his balls or cock while he stimulates his ass
-For female subs: Make your sub use a vibrator on her clit while simulating her ass (and/or condition your sub by allowing vibration only during ass play)
19) Slapping, pain, belt, ruler
-Make your sub request more punishment from you
-Make your sub slap sensitive areas for punishment (clit, balls, shaft, head, asshole)
-When your sub is on the edge, make your sub stop and immediately slap clit/shaft with a belt or ruler
20) Humping, pillow, cushions, carpet, objects
-Make male or female sub hump for stimulation (but use something to reduce friction)
-For male subs: Make your sub fuck women's shoes/heels, or an object that rolls up tight (like a cushion, exercise mat)
-For male subs: Add plastic wrap (to the outside of the pillow or cushion) and lube to make it intense and/or to make it difficult to prevent orgasm
-For male subs: Add a condom with lube on the inside to make it intense and/or to force your sub to orgasm
21) Sensory deprivation
-Make your sub close her/his eyes or wear a blindfold while s/he performs for you or cums for you
-For female subs: Reduce sensation to her clit by making her stimulate it over her clothes or panties, or by making a rule against touching her clit
-For male subs: Reduce sensation to his cock by making him wrap it with a combination of condoms, tape, plastic wrap, and string (esp. for males who enjoy cock bondage)
-For male subs: Make a rule against touching his head and/or frenulum, or make your sub cover or desensitize the area (with tape)
-For male subs: Make your sub stroke or stimulate himself through his pants or underwear, and/or make him cum in his pants (bonus if you can watch him explode into his own pants and watch the wet spot form)
22) Tape
-Make your sub tape his/her ass cheeks apart to further expose his/her ass
-For male subs: Make your sub tape his cock to a hard surface (while sitting: against the floor or chair), or against his leg, or back against his belly
-For male subs: Make your sub wrap tape around his soft cock and balls to form a giant ball of tape (like a temporary chastity device)
-For male subs: While his cock is secured with tape, make your sub use a vibrator and forbid all stroking
-For male subs: Make your sub "close" his urethra (penis tip) with tape over the tip ("Cum inside yourself")
-Can substitute plastic wrap for certain applications
23) For male subs: Erection and cock control
-Make your sub lose his erection ("Let it get soft now")
-Make your sub do things (serve you) without an erection, like fuck a dildo, stare at hot pics, massage his balls with lotion
-Make your sub go from soft all the way to edging, repeatedly, until he can do it quickly (use a timer to measure his progress each time)
-Make your sub flex or twitch his cock on your command
-Make your sub wear a sock or something stretchy over his cock and balls, tied at the base of his balls, as a temporary chastity device while he performs or plays for you
24) For male subs: Soft twine, ribbon, shoelaces
-Make your sub wrap string around balls, each nut, and base of the cock
-Make your sub thoroughly wrap the shaft with string, which prevents/slows stroking and causes his shaft and head to become rigid
-Combine string bondage with condoms or plastic wrap for additional deprivation
-Make your sub tie a loop around the head for a 'cock leash' that he can tug or tie to an object nearby (door or drawer handle)
25) For male subs: Feminization, panties, lipstick, or pantyhose
-Make your sub wear panties, pantyhose, or lipstick (before, during, or after orgasm)
-Make your sub secure his cock back under his balls or against his stomach
-Make your sub cum from a vibrator or frenulum (male "clit") stimulation only
-Make your sub cum (or drip) from anal stimulation only
-Make your sub talk only with a high voice or make your sub whimper for attention (such as to indicate that s/he's close to orgasm)
26) For male subs: Fleshlight
-Make your sub pretend that it is someone's pussy or ass (yours or another's)
-Humiliation: Humiliate your sub for fucking a toy pussy
-Handsfree: Make your sub secure the fleshlight and hump it without hands
-Forced bi: Make your sub pretend it is another man's ass
-Ruined orgasm: Make your sub ruin inside
-Cum: Make your sub eat his cum out of the pussy or ass
-Choose a pic of ass or pussy for eye training/contact
-Use fleshlight as reward for good behavior
These are intended for light to moderate submission, and not for injury or serious pain. Unfortunately, some of these ideas are intended for the male anatomy and cannot be easily adapted to female anatomy. (Note: This list takes a narrow view of the subject matter. Mostly submission of the instructional/task variety. If it's useful to you, great.)
Please offer your own suggestions in the thread below.
1) Basic
-Establish rules (such as “You may not cum” or “stroke/rub/touch” or “use your hands”, or "You cannot talk, only whimper like a puppy")
-Make your sub address you properly (“Mistress” “Miss ____”)
-Make your sub ask to touch, stroke, or cum (“Ask permission to stroke.”)
-Make your sub thank you for pleasure, humiliation, or pain (“Say thank you, Mistress”)
-Make your sub tell you when s/he gets close or edges (“Tell Mistress when you are edging.”)
-Make your sub beg you to cum
2) Voice
-Make your sub verbally thank you or verbally ask permission
-Make your sub repeat phrases (“Say, ‘I’m your little bitch’”)
-Make your sub make humiliating noises (bark, pant, whimper, oink)
-Make your sub say words or make noises with each stroke or slap ("Each time you stroke, oink for your Mistress.")
3) Plug/dildo/suction cup dildo
-Make your sub suck the dildo (or deepthroat)
-Make your sub sit on it, take it all the way
-Make your sub bounce up and down
-Make your sub fuck or suck the dildo each time s/he strokes or rubs/make him/her match the rhythm ("Fuck that dildo each time you stroke/rub that clit.")
-Don't let your sub cum without his/her ass full ("Every time you cum, I want your ass full of cock")
4) Eye training/eye contact
-Make your sub stare into a picture of your choice while s/he rubs or strokes
-Condition your sub to cum only to certain pictures of your choice
-Choose non-nude pics (feet, legs) or humiliation/forced bisexual pics (another cock)
-Make your sub stare into the camera lens (not the screen) without looking away ("eye contact")
-Make your sub close her/his eyes (sensory deprivation)
5) Body position
-Make your sub kneel, get on all fours, lie on his back, turn around and spread his ass
6) Ass, pussy, or cock worship
-Make your sub smell or taste used panties
-Make your sub stuff his/her mouth with panties (optional: secure with tape)
-Make your sub smell used panties during any stimulation and/or before and during orgasm
-Choose a pic of ass, pussy, or cock for eye training/contact
7) Paper clips, nipple clamps
-Make your sub wear 'clamps' on his nipples
-Make your sub wear 'clamps' on his tongue
8) Online metronome
-Set a metronome or make your sub set one, and choose how fast it goes
-Make your sub stroke or fuck (a dildo, a fleshlight) to the metronome
9) Timers (counting down or up)
-Make your sub cum before the end of a timer
-Make your sub hold it until the end of a timer
-Make your sub edge for the length of a timer
-Make your sub perform for the length of a timer (fuck his/her ass, slap his cock)
10) Cum/orgasm
-Make your sub tell you how close s/he is to cumming (1-10 scale, 10 is cumming)
-Make your sub hold his/her orgasm at a level (1-10 scale) before cumming ("Stay at an 8. No more or less")
-Deny his/her orgasm with advanced warning ("You will not cum today") or without advanced warning ("Stop stroking. Do not cum.")
-Make your sub cum as quickly as possible/deny the pleasure of building up/train your sub to cum quickly
-Make your female sub rub/vibrate her clit after cumming, until you tell her to stop
-Make your male sub “milk” it (stroke after cumming) until you tell him to stop
-Make your male sub cum on an object (dildo, photo, computer screen) or on the floor
-Make your male sub ruin his orgasm (withdraw stimulation just before orgasm, again and again, until he cums without stimulation)
-Make your male sub cum into his mouth
-Make your male sub cum into a glass
-Make your male sub cum into a ziplock bag (as a rule), store it in the fridge for later
11) Assplay
-Make your sub grip an object between her/his ass cheeks (pen, marker, etc.)
-Make your sub grip an object inside her/his asshole ("Don't let it go")
-Make your sub hold warm water, cum, or lube in her/his ass (need funnel, turkey baster, plastic syringe)
12) Cam roleplay
-Make your sub act like (treat your sub like) a puppy or animal (fetch objects, pant, hold objects with teeth, bark, whimper, etc.)
-Make your sub act like (treat your sub like) a boy or girl
13) Hypnosis, aural stimulation, visual stimulation, forced bi
-Make your sub stare into a picture while s/he repeats phrases
-Make your sub close/cover his/her eyes on cam so that your voice is the only stimulation
-Make your sub repeat phrases
-Make your sub listen to your favorite porn sounds, especially with eyes closed
-Forced bi for male subs: Make your sub listen to guys fucking or stroking
-Forced bi for male subs: Make your sub watch guys fucking or stroking
-Forced bi for male subs: Make your sub ask you or thank you for cock or gay sex
14) Ownership, submission beyond cyber/cam
-Make your sub write your name on a body part
-Make your sub respond with pics throughout the day (“Show me your hard cock”/“wet pussy”)
-Make your sub masturbate to your pics when you can't chat, prove that s/he came for your pics
-Make your sub wait to cum until you can next chat
-Forbid your sub to cum for anyone else
15) Training/conditioning
-Create associations between things and pleasure/orgasm (each time s/he edges, use the same words or phrases, the same pictures, and/or the same sounds)
-Create associations between actions and pleasure/orgasm (filling his/her ass with a dildo or plug, assuming a milking position on all fours, lying on his/her back, sniffing panties, sucking dildo or pacifier, etc.)
-Tell your sub that s/he needs this training / encourage your sub to accept his/her training
16) Other humiliation/mind games
-Make your sub strip completely during play
-Show yourself fully clothed on cam while your sub is naked (like CFNM)
-Tease your sub verbally ("You like that, don't you?" "You want more, don't you?" "Too bad you are not going to get a full orgasm today.")
17) Involving others
-Invite another person (male or female) to watch your sub (such as on Whereby or Hangouts)
-Make two guys or girls perform on cam at the same time, so they're forced to watch each other (and give them the same or differing commands, or make them compete for rewards)
18) Vibrator
-For male subs: Make your sub cum from vibrator stimulation only (less satisfying, incomplete orgasm)
-For male subs: Make your sub use a vibrator on his balls or cock while he stimulates his ass
-For female subs: Make your sub use a vibrator on her clit while simulating her ass (and/or condition your sub by allowing vibration only during ass play)
19) Slapping, pain, belt, ruler
-Make your sub request more punishment from you
-Make your sub slap sensitive areas for punishment (clit, balls, shaft, head, asshole)
-When your sub is on the edge, make your sub stop and immediately slap clit/shaft with a belt or ruler
20) Humping, pillow, cushions, carpet, objects
-Make male or female sub hump for stimulation (but use something to reduce friction)
-For male subs: Make your sub fuck women's shoes/heels, or an object that rolls up tight (like a cushion, exercise mat)
-For male subs: Add plastic wrap (to the outside of the pillow or cushion) and lube to make it intense and/or to make it difficult to prevent orgasm
-For male subs: Add a condom with lube on the inside to make it intense and/or to force your sub to orgasm
21) Sensory deprivation
-Make your sub close her/his eyes or wear a blindfold while s/he performs for you or cums for you
-For female subs: Reduce sensation to her clit by making her stimulate it over her clothes or panties, or by making a rule against touching her clit
-For male subs: Reduce sensation to his cock by making him wrap it with a combination of condoms, tape, plastic wrap, and string (esp. for males who enjoy cock bondage)
-For male subs: Make a rule against touching his head and/or frenulum, or make your sub cover or desensitize the area (with tape)
-For male subs: Make your sub stroke or stimulate himself through his pants or underwear, and/or make him cum in his pants (bonus if you can watch him explode into his own pants and watch the wet spot form)
22) Tape
-Make your sub tape his/her ass cheeks apart to further expose his/her ass
-For male subs: Make your sub tape his cock to a hard surface (while sitting: against the floor or chair), or against his leg, or back against his belly
-For male subs: Make your sub wrap tape around his soft cock and balls to form a giant ball of tape (like a temporary chastity device)
-For male subs: While his cock is secured with tape, make your sub use a vibrator and forbid all stroking
-For male subs: Make your sub "close" his urethra (penis tip) with tape over the tip ("Cum inside yourself")
-Can substitute plastic wrap for certain applications
23) For male subs: Erection and cock control
-Make your sub lose his erection ("Let it get soft now")
-Make your sub do things (serve you) without an erection, like fuck a dildo, stare at hot pics, massage his balls with lotion
-Make your sub go from soft all the way to edging, repeatedly, until he can do it quickly (use a timer to measure his progress each time)
-Make your sub flex or twitch his cock on your command
-Make your sub wear a sock or something stretchy over his cock and balls, tied at the base of his balls, as a temporary chastity device while he performs or plays for you
24) For male subs: Soft twine, ribbon, shoelaces
-Make your sub wrap string around balls, each nut, and base of the cock
-Make your sub thoroughly wrap the shaft with string, which prevents/slows stroking and causes his shaft and head to become rigid
-Combine string bondage with condoms or plastic wrap for additional deprivation
-Make your sub tie a loop around the head for a 'cock leash' that he can tug or tie to an object nearby (door or drawer handle)
25) For male subs: Feminization, panties, lipstick, or pantyhose
-Make your sub wear panties, pantyhose, or lipstick (before, during, or after orgasm)
-Make your sub secure his cock back under his balls or against his stomach
-Make your sub cum from a vibrator or frenulum (male "clit") stimulation only
-Make your sub cum (or drip) from anal stimulation only
-Make your sub talk only with a high voice or make your sub whimper for attention (such as to indicate that s/he's close to orgasm)
26) For male subs: Fleshlight
-Make your sub pretend that it is someone's pussy or ass (yours or another's)
-Humiliation: Humiliate your sub for fucking a toy pussy
-Handsfree: Make your sub secure the fleshlight and hump it without hands
-Forced bi: Make your sub pretend it is another man's ass
-Ruined orgasm: Make your sub ruin inside
-Cum: Make your sub eat his cum out of the pussy or ass
-Choose a pic of ass or pussy for eye training/contact
-Use fleshlight as reward for good behavior
I hope you'll use it and let us know what was helpful.
