Online dating responses

[flawed_ethics]

(Foregoing life-hisotry rant here...)

I have a profile on the match.com website. Have for some time, but haven't heeded it much attention. Tonight, I decide to visit it, and behold, what to me seems like a great (and local) person! Same interests, both sarcastic, like to bum around on any given day doing the same non-sensical things, etc...

( <-- smile for the sake thereof)

But as some must know, you do have to pay in order to respond to an add, just like any personals section. I am a cheapskate, unfortunately, and don't develop the gusto drop money so lightheartedly. Additionally, my social ineptness and self-doubt prevent me from subscribing to the site to contact her.

But this is the best I've seen since I've submitted my profile...

Suggestions to my torn-heart dilemma?

 

[Wiggles]

Don't go to those cheapskate sights. Come here, Our personals are much more interesting!

If shes interested in you shouldn't she foot the bill?

 

[SexyChele]

I'm not familar with the site, but how much could it be to respond to the ad? I mean, are we talking a few bucks, or a $100? If it's just a few dollars, and you don't take the chance, you could be missing out on a perfect opportunity. And, of course, she could have seen your profile, thought you were terrific, and is hoping you will contact her, because - as everyone who knows her knows - she is a cheapskate and feels that she is rather inept at starting a conversation in a social situaton.



Sorry for the sarcasm! Point is, nothing ventured, nothing gained. If this woman looks interesting enough for you to consider her, then just possibly she is worth a few bucks to try to contact?

But then, you could be saving that money for something really important, so it's up to you!

 

[TigerClaw]

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[SilverVeil]

Heh ... this is a prime example of the worm and the hook.

My room mate wanted to place a personal ad in our local paper a few years back. Since I was unattached at that time I said I'd do it with her for support and friendship so she would not feel weird and could have someone to double date with for safety mesaures.

For us gals, the ad was free. BUT !!!!! ..... ( ya know there had to be a BUT in there right ? ) For the guys to contact us and respond to our ads, they had to pay.

We girls could pick up our responses for free also. But again, guys had to pay for their responses.

Seems like rip off for the guys to me.

And the ad place was using the girls ads as bait for the guys money. The call in line had a series of messages and selections, there was no way to get a message to the one you were interested in for less that $5

 

[SilverVeil]

Oh ... BTW, I forgot to add that me and my current b/f met on the net. We met in Jan of 99, and met face to face in Aug of 99. I moved from TX to be with him as he has a small daughter he would not leave behind, and I would not ask him to. It was easier ( although a lot more lonely for me ) to move up here.

We now live together and will be getting married soon. We did not meet in a personals ad site, we met in a regular chat room, slowly became friends and realized we had so much in common it would be criminal not to meet in person.

People that know us say we are as alike as two peas in a pod.

 

[chilite410]

Yeah. I met my current boyfriend on a site that allows you to make your own webpage. www.blackplanet.com. IT was nice to meet someone so normal as me.