One Time Sally

[Stevelance]

Hello All
Just found this site and I think it is the best one yet very informative but yet kinky at times and not to silly and everybody seems very open and nice. Anywho my wife of 24 years tells me she can not have but one orgasm at a time. Any women out there can you explain to me why that is? I have tried everything under the sun on her but she just stops at one. I try to tell her that it is possible but for some reason she says nope. Should I continue to push her?? I told her I can forgo my true one shot deal to see her go several times before I call it a wrap and let go but she insists that we go together.Any response will help.

 

[SweetErika]

Why would you want to continue to push her? Or push her at all in the first place, for that matter?

If she's happy with her one orgasm, doesn't want or feel she can have more, and likes coming simultaneously, then what's the problem?

Some women become disinterested in sex and/or too sensitive after one orgasm to continue. It's very possible that your wife is one of them, and that's just the way her body works.

I'd say trust the woman you've been married to for nearly a quarter of a century and leave the issue alone. If you have a problem with her having one orgasm, that's your problem, and perhaps you need to look at why it's so important to you that she have multiple orgasms in a single session and why you're not trusting what she's telling you regarding how she functions/what she wants.

 

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[infinity706]

Based on a good chunk of women, you should be glad she can have the one. Simultaneous orgasm is even more difficult and something I've only pulled off once in my life.

 

[cd1_christine]

Based on a good chunk of women, you should be glad she can have the one. Simultaneous orgasm is even more difficult and something I've only pulled off once in my life.

I keep hearing this from a lot of sources, but my wife and I have simultaneous orgasms on a reasonably regular basis. Not every time, for sure, but I'd say at least 1 out of 3.

Although, I definitely think it happens less at night with the lights off, as it's more difficult to see and get turned on by each other's reactions, and figure out when you can let go a little, or when you need to hold back.

CD

 

[hisgypsy]

It took me years before I had my first orgasm, I was in my mid-20's and thought I was destined to never experience one. Then for years I only had one at a time, and even that took some work. But trust me, I was happy with that one, it gave me everything I needed.

It's only been in recent years that i can now have multiple orgasms, almost every time. Is it because of my partner? I don't know. I can say the multiple orgasms are smaller and not as intense as when I just have one, but they are infinitely as satisfying.

So whatever the case, be happy that your wife is experiencing orgasm. Every woman is different, and many, like me, are different at different times in their life. As long as she is satisfied, isn't that the ultimate goal?

 

[sunandshadow]

I can only have one orgasm at a time - yeah I can force a second one but it's in the same way a man has to cool down for a half hour or an hour before he can try again. In a multiorgasmic woman, after an orgasm she only cools down a little, to a plateau phase from which it is relatively easy to climb to the orgasmic peak again. But in the case of a typical man or a woman who is monoorgasmic (pardon me while I make up words ) there is no plateu phase, they go from the peak directly all the way down to the bottom (brain receptor saturation/desensitization and tiredness). My assumption would be that this has something to do with an individual's hormone balance, perhaps monoorgasmic women having slightly higher testosterone, but that's just a guess. For the most part I'm perfectly satisfied with one orgasm and would prefer to relax and cuddle, maybe sleep, than to try for another one.

 

[Stevelance]

Info Very good and helpful

Thanks you all for the input and trust me by your words I shall have a better marrige and relationship. I know you all may be thinking I'm cheap for taking online advise but I am open to any and all constructive critisiim(brain lock) and I really enjoy an honest female telling me about the best approach to handle my love Life. I don't need to cheat to find out what I learn on this Forum. Thanks again I really feel you all are trying to help me/us Thanks. Ill be back!!

 

[RedHeadedGlory]

Simple answer, not all women are multi.

As long as one "good one" satisfies her I wouldn't try and fix what's not broke.

 

[A_Kefka]

If she's happy with and enjoying what she has then why push? I'm all for pleasing your partner (sometimes more about that than pleasing myself) but if you are pleasing her hten don't do something thats gonna make her uncomfortable or self concious. Let her enjoy, and if she decides she wants to try for more then go for it.

 

[burkina]

Generally for me it either requires some set circumstances. I have one particular toy that will do it for me, but generally I'm done with one; i only learned how after doing a huge amount of kegel exercises, and its a very different sensation.

On another note, Simultaneous orgasm is definitely worth the trade. When me and my man on the same continent we enjoy the ability to share that every time