One of the new kids on the block

[AzureSky]

Hi everyone
I'm a new kid on the block here and so far having a great time.
I do have a topic that maybe could get kicked around a little.

Cybersex Yes most of us have done it at some stage or enjoy it regularly.
My question is Why can so many people be so imaginative and creative on a screen and not in the real life bedroom? Is it because of society and it's taboo's?
For women is it because they were told growing up to be a "good girl" or told it is something their husbands will want and to "lie back and think of england" It won't take him long.
For the men is it the animinity? Or being the "Soul in the dark,Words on a screen" ?
Why are so many people afraid to explore their greatest desires and fantasies in real life ?
Surely if you are going to be intimate with someone you should feel you can express yourself freely.
I for one am not afraid to tell a partner where to touch me what I like/dislike. I don't think mens ego's are so frail they can't handle it . It has been my experience that most men get a charge out of a guiding hand .
Making love/Bonking/Shagging/Screwing/Crazy jungle sex ,Whatever your preferance. It is never "dirty" it is a expression of feeling.
So how about it! Lets take all these creative thoughts back into the bedrooms.

Cheers AzureSky

 

[cherrylips_au]

Welcome AzhureSky,your post had me thinking how do you know these fantasies as you say don't go back to the bedrooms? I think there is a big difference between cybering and fantasies to start with, to me its more than just guiding a hand so to speak.I cyber on a regular basis and have played out fantasies as well as enjoyed a more regular cybering of your normal everyday type sex.
My question to you is have you tried every fantasy that has crossed your mind ? I find that it helps to trial fantasies as you may not like it played out on cyber so you proberly won't like it in reality.
I share a very healthy sex life with my husband we try many things together and have discussed most if not all of our fantasies and yes sometimes they do get played out in the bedroom or wherever the mood takes us, while others will remain strictly fantasies for whatever reason.
I rarely cyber in just a normal sex mode of oral, missionary position and I have never had to lay back and think of England in cyber or real life thankfully.
I don't think cybering is for everyone same as watching porn or reading erotic literature isn't in everyone's ideal comfort zone. I think that what makes this world such a wonderful place the fact that everyone can be turned on by various ideas be they romantic, erotic or extreme.
The ideas shared sometimes on here wether they be from cybering or forums if they get someone thinking and talking with their partners it can only be a good thing. I do believe communication and honesty is the key to all good relationships be they partners, friends, lovers, or cyber partners.
Finally as a fellow aussie it great to see you on here and I hope you continue to enjoy this site.

 

[eroticfiction]

Baby, Mine do make it into the bedroom................

 

[Gamelover221]

Erotic is my new heroine!

 

[AzureSky]

Cherrylips
I totally agree with your post reply. I have not lived out all my fantasies but I'm working on it. I think new fantasies arise all the time, However I have lived out alot because I believe in totally sharing my thoughts with a partner.

I have alot of female and male friends who have told me about there dull and boring sex lives, How they have had wonderful cybersex and then been let down in the bedroom.

As someone who has used various chat modes on the internet for quite a few years I find cybersex a great place to start to find new idea, fantasies and so on to maybe take back to the bedroom.

I always say variety is the spice of life so lets get our tongues burnt

Cheers AzureSky

 

[cherrylips_au]

Maybe you should be addressing you friends as to the reasons why things are disappointing in their bedrooms. Unfortunately not everyone enjoys a healthy sex life yet can still be reasonable happy with their partners.
I have a male friend whose reason for cybering is because he has fantasies that his wife has no interest in and these are not unusual fantasies. He could go and have an affair but chooses not to.
If your friends are discussing their sex lives with you maybe you should suggest they be as open with their partners, see what happens.