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lil_boi_mikey

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hi my name is mikey/ scrapz/ or boi by mine Daddi Domme One Syr Kestral Wolfe... im owned and love Her with ALL i have. ive been in the BDSM life since 97 but really have dug deeper at it since september of last year. this is my first post on lit and ive read a few posts and threads on here and like it totally.

im from Las Vegas, but keep on the very shy side.... im a lesbian butch boi basically highly agressive masculine butch submissive.

i hope this post is ok. thanx:p
 
Hey sis! Welcome to Lit, you will have to join us in some of our roleplays and such. I hope that you like it here.
 
Welcome mikey. Which name would you prefer we use for you? KestrelWolfe is well respected here, and I am sure you will make her proud.
Don't worry about where to start. We are a friendly bunch. Just pipe up whenever you feel comfortable.:)
 
I'm glad you're comfy enough to post here, baby. Welcome to Lit. *g* I love you, my sweet boi. Read, and post on what you know, baby, don't be worried about it, trust those here to be gentle and very constructive with any critisisms, or re-directions. They're a great bunch, baby. I think you'll like it here :D

Love you,
Me
 
thank You Daddi, i love You so much i ache. and i feel very happy that Your pleased to have me post here...

love Your boi.... mikey

:heart:
 
*grins* This is cool... I have my Mistress, and my ummm special friend *G*, and my big sis Kestral, and my sis Mikey... Can it get any better than this?
 
I'm rather new to this board myself, but allow me to welcome you as well. I think you'll like it here.

How to start? Pick a thread you like and post to it. Or make one of your own. Or both.
 
Welcome mikey to Lit...

You said you don't know where to start, why don't you read the three stickys at the top of the forum. This will give you an idea of who we are here and what we are about.

I hope you enjoy your journey here.
 
Welcome to the BDSM Forum at Lit, mikey.

cellis is right, read the three stickies at the top. Then if you're feeling really brave, read the Monster Thread. You'll learn more about us than you probably wanted to know.
 
lil_boi_mikey said:
hi my name is mikey/ scrapz/ or boi by mine Daddi Domme One Syr Kestral Wolfe... im owned and love Her with ALL i have. ive been in the BDSM life since 97 but really have dug deeper at it since september of last year. this is my first post on lit and ive read a few posts and threads on here and like it totally.

im from Las Vegas, but keep on the very shy side.... im a lesbian butch boi basically highly agressive masculine butch submissive.

i hope this post is ok. thanx:p
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Your post is Ok by me, and welcome.
As someone who is new to the BDSM scene, I wonder if you could help me out a bit with your terminology. When you use words like boi and Syr is this to indicate that you are women who act in "masculine" roles, or just what is there significance?
I mean no disrespect in the question, I hope you know, I am just doing my best to learn about all the varieties here.
 
As someone who is new to the BDSM scene, I wonder if you could help me out a bit with your terminology. When you use words like boi and Syr is this to indicate that you are women who act in "masculine" roles, or just what is there significance?
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The terms Syr and boi, when applied to those like mikey and myself, indicate females (usually a lesbian) who act/feel/sees themselves as more masculine than femenine. Someone who identifies as male, or, more male than female. I am thinking of starting a thread on this subject, as I have been asked what it means by a few others as well.

No disrespect taken, Sam, none at all. One cannot learn if one does not ask ;)

Be safe, be hapy, be well,
Kes
 
That raises an interesting aside, at least for me. All my life I've identified more strongly with a male identity than a female identity, I guess you could say I'm "butch", but here's the kicker...I'm completely and totally straight. Not even bi-curious. People think I'm a lesbian, or at least bi, but I'm not. Why would I not admit if I were? There's no shame, at least to me, in being bi or gay. It's just what you are, same as your skin color or your hair color.

I guess I'm not alone. I saw a post on the Gen Board eons ago about someone who feels like I do, except that person was looking more into SRS surgery, which I'm not.
 
Greetings, mikey, and welcome to the BDSM Forum.

Take a moment to read the stickies up top, won't you? There's lots of good info in them regarding the culture here and the way in which we approach the ever-engrossing world of BDSM sexuality.
:cool:
 
Welcome, Kestral's mikey! It's about time we had a boi around here, and thanks to you both for being so open to questions about identity signifiers--let's foster a little wider view of BDSM and sexuality, shall we? In addition to reading the stickies to get acquainted with the place, you may want to read and post to the New Faces thread--get a snapshot picture of what each personality around here is about.

Cirrus--you are far from the only straight woman in the world to feel more masculine than feminine. Gender, biological sex, and sexual orientation are not all the same thing, though they are quite commonly interpreted as "naturally" in harmony. This tends to result in the basic binary that Woman=feminine/attracted to masculine/submissive; Man=masculine/attractive to feminine/Dominant. As we should already know, that triad, while popular and common, is not necessarily accurate. Two femme lesbians may be attracted to each other, or a butch hetero may be attracted to butch men, just as easily as msubs may desire FDommes or TDommes or a Daddi or a Daddy or something else entirely. While I think the lesbian sub-set of butch dykes is the most commonly identified group of women who cross-gender without intent to move toward sex reassignment surgery, you are far from alone, even among among heteros.

I get where you're coming from about feeling alone, though. As a bisexual switch, I'm not really accepted among gays and queer activism groups like LBGTA--though I've tried. And, as cym and I were discussing recently, switches aren't *really* very accepted within local BDSM/munch communities either. Both "sides" of the applicable binary (gay/straight, D/s) tend to fault the both/and crowd for failure to commit to a side. I've been called indecisive, greedy, faux baby-dyke, hetero doormat (apparently, I like women for hubby's sake), SAM, and a poorly trained sub. And that's by people who actively work for more tolerance in the general public--apparently, more tolerance for very specific groups of people, with clearly defined attributes and agendas.

It's weird...even among those who face public scorn for their gender and sexual identities, there is tremendous discrimination. For example, the whole Butch/Femme hoopla within the lesbian community. For example, the gay "community's" lack of acceptance for bisexuals. For example, the overrepresentation of drag queens vs. drag kings in everything from the popular press to gay pride parades to LBGTA. For example, the assumptions that Transvestite=Gay. The world is so full of intolerance, even among those of us who face it and strive to avoid it. Why is it so hard not to fear and judge those who aren't like ourselves? (And believe me, I don't excuse myself for this either--I'm as flawed and intolerant as anyone. You just have to hit the right button for it to emerge.)

Oh, and one question. It's none of my business, but I'm curious: as a masculine-identified hetero female, do you prefer butch men or femmes/sissies, or perhaps transvestites? I've met women who prefered many different types of mates, so I don't wish to make assumptions about how your gender identity informs your sexual behavior.

Oh, and a Lovely Summer Solstice to everyone!
Blessed Be,
Risia
 
Yes, boys and girls - and bois - Risia is doing her Ph.D level research work in something akin to the above topic. How perceptive of you to notice.

And now you know one of her hot buttons.
Here's another one: white trash.
Shhhhh! For gods sakes - shhhhhhh!
Don't say it out loud unless you want to get her going again!
:p
 
cymbidia said:
Yes, boys and girls - and bois - Risia is doing her Ph.D level research work in something akin to the above topic. How perceptive of you to notice.

And now you know one of her hot buttons.
Here's another one: white trash.
Shhhhh! For gods sakes - shhhhhhh!
Don't say it out loud unless you want to get her going again!
:p
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I thought trailer trash was the hot button term.

I was all set to give my "Everyone who lives in manufactured housing isn't deserving of your derision" speech on another thread but she beat me to it.
 
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