Ok there are lots of OVER 40's in lit

[Lance Hardrock]

I agree

I've passed some milestones in my life too (like 50 of them. LOL) and I have found that to me sex has become more of an art of lovemaking.

Let me see if I can explain that. When I was young, it was wham bam thank you maam. I never liked that even when young, but it took some years to get the body under control. (PS they should teach this stuff in school when you're young, but alas we must learn - and often mislearn - the art of lovemaking on our own. Of course in this puritanical country, they'll lynch me for saying that)

Well, along in my 20s or so and mainly because I love sex so damn much, I started learning how to do it. Sure there is this male part and this female part. You put them together and bam you've done it and you both pray there is no baby created (most of the time).

But that isn't lovemaking. That is sex. Every dog knows how to do that.

True lovemaking takes a lifetime to learn and I think I'm finally getting some of it learned. All the pleasure spots on a woman's body. All the timing, listening to her breathing, her heartbeat, her moans and knowing what those mean. Knowing whether to move higher or slow it down, speed it up, change activity. All these hundreds of things a man needs to know to please his woman. These things take time to learn and MORE importantly there must be a desire to learn them. Well, honeys I sure do have the desire. I hope to keep on learning and become better and better as a lover. I plan on dying with one big smile on my face.

I think it may well be true, the old saying:

Sex is wasted on the young.


Well, that's my 2 cents worth. Make it an artform and the women will love you. Same goes for the women. Men love art too (at least some of us sure do.)

 

[1sexylady]

Re: I agree

I've passed some milestones in my life too (like 50 of them. LOL) and I have found that to me sex has become more of an art of lovemaking.

Let me see if I can explain that. When I was young, it was wham bam thank you maam. I never liked that even when young, but it took some years to get the body under control. (PS they should teach this stuff in school when you're young, but alas we must learn - and often mislearn - the art of lovemaking on our own. Of course in this puritanical country, they'll lynch me for saying that)

Well, along in my 20s or so and mainly because I love sex so damn much, I started learning how to do it. Sure there is this male part and this female part. You put them together and bam you've done it and you both pray there is no baby created (most of the time).

But that isn't lovemaking. That is sex. Every dog knows how to do that.

True lovemaking takes a lifetime to learn and I think I'm finally getting some of it learned. All the pleasure spots on a woman's body. All the timing, listening to her breathing, her heartbeat, her moans and knowing what those mean. Knowing whether to move higher or slow it down, speed it up, change activity. All these hundreds of things a man needs to know to please his woman. These things take time to learn and MORE importantly there must be a desire to learn them. Well, honeys I sure do have the desire. I hope to keep on learning and become better and better as a lover. I plan on dying with one big smile on my face.

I think it may well be true, the old saying:

Sex is wasted on the young.


Well, that's my 2 cents worth. Make it an artform and the women will love you. Same goes for the women. Men love art too (at least some of us sure do.)

Well Lance with the things that you write you know what your doing thats for sure...HOT HOT HOT....

When I was younger it was a hurried love making....and you didn't think as much about it...Today slow, steady, cuddling, snuggling and having some imagination works for me...

 

[enjoyingitall]

Re: Re: I agree

Well Lance with the things that you write you know what your doing thats for sure...HOT HOT HOT....

When I was younger it was a hurried love making....and you didn't think as much about it...Today slow, steady, cuddling, snuggling and having some imagination works for me...

I just want to say in the midst of all of our posts about slow, steady, artful lovemaking, which we all seem to be quite well aware of...there's nothing wrong with a hot, quick "fuck me now" kinda romp every once in a while, too.

I'm sure you'll all agree with that!

 

[1sexylady]

Re: Re: Re: I agree

I just want to say in the midst of all of our posts about slow, steady, artful lovemaking, which we all seem to be quite well aware of...there's nothing wrong with a hot, quick "fuck me now" kinda romp every once in a while, too.

I'm sure you'll all agree with that!

Well now I have had them too.. Save those for the hornyer days... The up against the wall or tear off the clothes...or in the elevator..

 

[seldomseen]

tear off clothes?

just lift the skirt more like it. i like after a night of flirting.

 

[1sexylady]

Re: tear off clothes?

just lift the skirt more like it. i like after a night of flirting.

Well now Seldomseen not all women wear skirts...but it was a figure of speech anyway...*laughing* I will remember to the next time we met...

 

[seldomseen]

legs

thats good sexy1 because you have long legs that come up and make an ass out of their self.

 

[1sexylady]

Re: legs

thats good sexy1 because you have long legs that come up and make an ass out of their self.

Well Seldomseen....it would take you a looooooog time to get there....the legs are long...

 

[OldestMotive]

I wish I could spend the time here to get to know you all better...you seem like a fun group. I only get the opportunity to pop in once in awhile and catch up on the recent postings.

Anyway, I couldn't agree more with this idea of lovemaking as an art. A little over two years ago, I had what I will call my first "marathon" lovemaking session. Over the course of four days, my partner and I spent way more time in bed than out.

I haven't really had a repeat of that magnitude, but I've enjoyed a few more times of several hours duration. Not that we were actively coupled for the entire time, but there was always some sort of touching, caressing, or gazing into each other's eyes going on.

To me, the cuddling, talking, and laughing are every bit as much a part of the lovemaking as the licking, sucking, and so on.

 

[seldomseen]

isexy

but im sure its worth the trip.

 

[tonitits]

Re: LMT

I've looked at all the board since comming to lit and wondered why noone had done a 40+ thread.....they have them for states,countries and even cities but no one started a thread for us more sensual types who are not horny teens anymore (Maybe in mind but not in body) what with creaky joints and graying hair etc no matter how we kid ourselves that we are as good as we were.....BUT we now know more on how to please the person we are with wether they be a loving partner,sex partner or any other situation. Wink,wink,nudge,nudge...say no more !

We may not be teens anymore, but a horny bunch we are! creaky joints, amen brother all the time! gray hair -nah- little box of hair color keeps us looking like we feel, YOUNG and HOT to TROT..we do know how to please and be pleased and like Nike says...Just do it! We are a great fun bunch. Thanks for starting the thread

 

[Dragonette]

Ah, at last

The real explaination of the art!

SEX is such a cold word, brings up thoughts of quickies

But the art...

I don't post avi's of me, I am dragon!

I am a mature vintage wine, sipped slowly, savoured and enjoyed!

The 'art' takes slow time, hours of sensuality, touching, exploring, learning.

Touching is sensual from a cuddle to long gentle massages, to finding special spots.

Eyes are the soul and a soft murmur is better than a yell!

But that isn't lovemaking. That is sex. Every dog knows how to do that.

Oh yes, that is the young ones intro. They need to learn, as I did!

It is an 'art', we can all have 'sex' but for that special, slow sensual one, that takes time and our knowledge!

True lovemaking takes a lifetime to learn and I think I'm finally getting some of it learned. All the pleasure spots on a woman's body. All the timing, listening to her breathing, her heartbeat, her moans and knowing what those mean. Knowing whether to move higher or slow it down, speed it up, change activity. All these hundreds of things a man needs to know to please his woman. These things take time to learn and MORE importantly there must be a desire to learn them. Well, honeys I sure do have the desire. I hope to keep on learning and become better and better as a lover. I plan on dying with one big smile on my face.

I think that explains it very well!

Sex is wasted on the young.

But they do have to learn, somehow!

I haven't really had a repeat of that magnitude, but I've enjoyed a few more times of several hours duration. Not that we were actively coupled for the entire time, but there was always some sort of touching, caressing, or gazing into each other's eyes going on.

Ah yes, the memories flood back, time, marathons, touching and gazing, the sensuality of it!

To me, the cuddling, talking, and laughing are every bit as much a part of the lovemaking as the licking, sucking, and so on.

Oh yes, I sigh, that is it, not 'sex' much more, a true togetherness, the art!

To spend the time to create the sensations, to hear or see a reaction, a smile, a purr, a moan, the eyes bright!

To softly tease, to seduce gently, to learn and know each other, that is the 'art.'

To give more than receiving, to spend hours on the giving, every minute is glorious, it brings it's own rewards!

To learn and then reap the benefits, to find new heights and revel in the new knowledge.

Yes, like a vintage wine, it must be savoured, sipped slowly, tasted slowly, treasued, enjoyed to it's full bouguet.

Then, next time, it can be sampled as it, with the knowledge and the interest to learn more.

I am me, I don't post sexy avatars, I am Dragon! That is me.

 

[Lance Hardrock]

I've got to agree with that

In spite of all I've said about artys lovemaking, there are times that a good hot fast fuck is just what the two of us need. But again, knowing that is part of the art as well.


And Sexyone are you trying to get something from me with all those compliments? <your desire is fulfilled>

 

[lovemetender]

Re: Hey there!

lovemetender you have outdone yourself once again. I must say I think I prefer the front views!

ty love
I love the input & my aim is to please

 

[lovemetender]

Here! Here! I think many women could say the same.

I know in my case, early on, I had no idea how to give a good bj. I thought a few licks here and there, couple of hard sucks and bang..that should be enough..And it didn't really do much at all for me. Over time, I've learned that giving great oral love is an art. As I'm doing it, I really do think of it as making love to his cock. I've learned to start out slowly and then build to a crescendo.

I've discovered that I get so turned on by what I'm doing to him. I never felt that when I was younger. It goes with the message that learning to please your partner has so many mutual benefits.

god your so spot on with your thoughts love.....I'm with 150%
btw...the new Av is off the charts

 

[psyche]

this is a great thread!

What a great thread this has turned out to be. It has really brought out many aspects of the sexual experience. Love and lust, which can be separate or combined in one relationship, to me are almost like the difference between the mind and the body in a way. The body can physically lust for someone - who in your mind you know you could not possibly live with on a day to day basis. While love goes beyond just the physical aspect, it is finding someone who you can relate to on an intellectual level, who stimulates and challanges you mentally. With love there is mutual respect and working through the everyday hassles because you want to stay with that person. And when you find both, it is more than the sum of the parts, the physical attraction to someone who you respect and love makes sex more meaningful, a connection between two people rather than a physical act.

There is also the underlying topic of communication in sex. I think as we get older we are more comfortable in telling our partners what we want or don't want. And listening when our partner tells us what gives them pleasure. Part of the secret of good sex may be enjoying the activity while your doing it. If you have the attitude of ok I'll suck your cock for a while, you are not going to give a good blow job. However, if your goal is to give pleasure and to hear your partner moan and you enjoy it you bound to meet your goal.

 

[enjoyingitall]

Re: Re: Re: I agree

I just want to say in the midst of all of our posts about slow, steady, artful lovemaking, which we all seem to be quite well aware of...there's nothing wrong with a hot, quick "fuck me now" kinda romp every once in a while, too.

I'm sure you'll all agree with that!

Hmmm..Lance..Great minds, yes? I posted this just a while ago on another page here. I like the way you think!

 

[psyche]

very pleasing indeed

ty love
I love the input & my aim is to please

You do a good job of it, I must say.

 

[Lance Hardrock]

Oooh, dragonette

So eloquently put. You have a way with words I see. Let's run off to some south sea island and spend the next year or so enjoying the art of making love

 

[lovemetender]

Re: this is a great thread!

What a great thread this has turned out to be. It has really brought out many aspects of the sexual experience. Love and lust, which can be separate or combined in one relationship, to me are almost like the difference between the mind and the body in a way. The body can physically lust for someone - who in your mind you know you could not possibly live with on a day to day basis. While love goes beyond just the physical aspect, it is finding someone who you can relate to on an intellectual level, who stimulates and challanges you mentally. With love there is mutual respect and working through the everyday hassles because you want to stay with that person. And when you find both, it is more than the sum of the parts, the physical attraction to someone who you respect and love makes sex more meaningful, a connection between two people rather than a physical act.

There is also the underlying topic of communication in sex. I think as we get older we are more comfortable in telling our partners what we want or don't want. And listening when our partner tells us what gives them pleasure. Part of the secret of good sex may be enjoying the activity while your doing it. If you have the attitude of ok I'll suck your cock for a while, you are not going to give a good blow job. However, if your goal is to give pleasure and to hear your partner moan and you enjoy it you bound to meet your goal.

damnit!!....another great perspective...excellent post baby

 

[enjoyingitall]

god your so spot on with your thoughts love.....I'm with 150%
btw...the new Av is off the charts

LMT...I think most of here are in agreement. We're all thinking along the same lines. It's nice to see so many of us willing to share their thoughts. And you always make me smile with you av comments.

Psyche...great comments about communication. It's become so much easier to discuss sexual needs and pleasures. When I was young, I admit that it seemed like criticism if my partner wasn't particularly pleased with something did. Then that changed. I came to understand that it would only be through the exchange of good communication that I could learn and grow into the person I have become.

 

[psyche]

thanks

damnit!!....another great perspective...excellent post baby

thanks for the feedback lovemetender.

 

[lovemetender]

LMT...I think most of here are in agreement. We're all thinking along the same lines. It's nice to see so many of us willing to share their thoughts. And you always make me smile with you av comments.

Psyche...great comments about communication. It's become so much easier to discuss sexual needs and pleasures. When I was young, I admit that it seemed like criticism if my partner wasn't particularly pleased with something did. Then that changed. I came to understand that it would only be through the exchange of good communication that I could learn and grow into the person I have become.

it's so refreshing to meet & be able to share our thoughts with like minded individuals
your Avs truly speak for themselves love

 

[Dragonette]

Oooh, dragonette

So eloquently put. You have a way with words I see. Let's run off to some south sea island and spend the next year or so enjoying the art of making love

Ah, sweet words indeed, name it pet!

I can lust after that avatar, I can drool, but...

psyche
You say it just right also!

Love and lust, which can be separate or combined in one relationship, to me are almost like the difference between the mind and the body in a way. The body can physically lust for someone - who in your mind you know you could not possibly live with on a day to day basis. While love goes beyond just the physical aspect, it is finding someone who you can relate to on an intellectual level, who stimulates and challanges you mentally. With love there is mutual respect and working through the everyday hassles because you want to stay with that person. And when you find both, it is more than the sum of the parts, the physical attraction to someone who you respect and love makes sex more meaningful, a connection between two people rather than a physical act.

There is also the underlying topic of communication in sex. I think as we get older we are more comfortable in telling our partners what we want or don't want. And listening when our partner tells us what gives them pleasure. Part of the secret of good sex may be enjoying the activity while your doing it. If you have the attitude of ok I'll suck your cock for a while, you are not going to give a good blow job. However, if your goal is to give pleasure and to hear your partner moan and you enjoy it you bound to meet your goal.

Yes, there is a big difference between lust and 'love' now that is a word I rarely say, have been looking for a word that explains the art of sex without mention that word.

Sex is correct for two people to just join in body. It can be 'lust'

But for a sensual moment that takes time, talking, exploring and understanding, without getting to 'love', that is the 'art' of...

It's more than sex, more than lust, but before love.

There must be a proper term!

I am at a loss for it!


I rarely say 'love' that means so much more, oh I love the dog, I love my home, I love my daughter etc, different types of love, such a small word, used so many ways, like the opposite, I 'hate', again used in the wrong way. I hate housework, I hate stuff etc.

Words!

 

[Lance Hardrock]

how about PLAY?

to me, the word Play has become a very good choice. lust seems to imply one person wanting another, but not necessarily a returned want. And love is two people wanting so much more than just a little fun and caring for the moment.

I like play. Playing is what children do and it is so innocent and so wonderful and doesn't carry a lot of baggage meanings.


<Just thinking out loud here>