OK So I'm bisexual, here I am

[sdedalus]

Ok Ok Ok, After lurking about for 3 or 4 years, can't really remember how long I have decided to break the silence.

I have been reading lit stories for so long and not really contributing or exploring like I feel I need to. In discovering lit, I think I have discovered that I like a lot of things I never really considered. Certain subjects that I just found too taboo.

Anyway, I digress. I am bisexual. At least I think I can consider myself bisexual, I have never actually been with another man, but the fantasy is real and dick really turns me on. Not so much the guys, although there are some out there that I find attractive. Over the last few years I have been getting off not only on the usual straight, lesbian stuff of my past, but pictures and videos of gay sex, mmf bi sex, and the like. My girlfriend is the only person in the world who knows my desires and she has been great about it, we've even expiramented with a strap on and I've cross-dressed for her, etc.

But, I figured it was time for me to speak, to talk to other people in the situation, to learn, to share fantasy, whatever. I welcome it all, not saying I am prime to jump into a life of bisexual sex, who knows.... this is a first step for me so I would like to hear from many of you about your thoughts, male or female. Reply or message me whatever. I guess I'm here to stay.

Thanks for reading.

 

[PoliteSuccubus]

You don't have to be with anyone to be what you are, so don't worry.

I mean, if that were the case, all virgins would be clueless of what gender they liked until they had sampled both!

And since we know that's not the case, you are just as free to be bi as anyone else.



So, welcome.

Post Script from PS: I'm straight, in case you wonder, but am still a nice person.

 

[sdedalus]

yea i was mostly babbling. I get that way. I guess it was just time to talk to other people beside my girlfriend about it.

 

[Rhys]

You don't have to be with anyone to be what you are, so don't worry.

Not on this board.

 

[PoliteSuccubus]

lol@Rhys

 

[sdedalus]

i guess i missed something there...

 

[PoliteSuccubus]

Rhys and I both post on another forum (GB) and he had to defend his right NOT to state his sexual preference there for the longest time while no one here ever asked or bothered him about it.


The GB is a bit more cut throat than this forum, which is gay/bi/trans/whomever friendly.

 

[Squeezenplease]

I think most people are possibly bisexual. So many just never experience the chance or acknowledge their feelings

 

[PoliteSuccubus]

I made out with another girl when I was 14 and she was 12. It was ok. But nothing compared with boys.

My daughter has made out with both, and is engaged to a boy. Who has also made out with both. But they love each other and that's all that truly matters.

 

[sdedalus]

I made out with another girl when I was 14 and she was 12. It was ok. But nothing compared with boys.

My daughter has made out with both, and is engaged to a boy. Who has also made out with both. But they love each other and that's all that truly matters.

I had a little experience when I was like 12, mostly watching and a little touching. We were looking at one of my Dad's Penthouses and kind of exploring our reactions.

My girlfriend has actually acted on her bisexuality and seems a lot more comfortable with it, but I think that is a social stigma, it's a lot more acceptable for a girl to be bisexual than a guy. We had a threesome with one of her friends, but I can't really see myself having a threesome with any of my guy friends. Not even my gay friends.

 

[sdedalus]

I also think the difference in being gay and bisexual is you still kind of favor one sex but like the other. I definetly love women, a lot more than guys and know I could never have a relationship with a guy. I think my attraction is purely sexual b/c I rarely see a guy and think he is good looking. But a dick is another story.

 

[Queersetti]

I also think the difference in being gay and bisexual is you still kind of favor one sex but like the other. I definetly love women, a lot more than guys and know I could never have a relationship with a guy. I think my attraction is purely sexual b/c I rarely see a guy and think he is good looking. But a dick is another story.

Welcome to the forum, sdedalus!

I think that the way you describe yourself if a pretty common thing among bi men, who's attraction to m/m sex is a physical thing without an emotional component. In some cases, that's truly the way it is, in others, the man is subconsciously holding back the possibility of emotional involvement with men because of the disruption it would make in his life, and in his self image.

Neither is something it's up for others to judge. Be honest and happy with yourself. I am looking forward to reading more of your contributions here.

 

[Northcountryguy]

I also think the difference in being gay and bisexual is you still kind of favor one sex but like the other. I definetly love women, a lot more than guys and know I could never have a relationship with a guy. I think my attraction is purely sexual b/c I rarely see a guy and think he is good looking. But a dick is another story.

I can relate completely to what you are saying - I love the visual image of a cock in some aspect of sexual arousal or act, but the sexual attraction part for me comes after I have developed a deeper relationship with a guy. Once I get to the point where we are really sharing our innermost selves, it just seems natural to want to progress to the sharing of myself sexually.
Granted, my fantasies and erotic imagery that go on in my head really get into the hottest aspects of guys being together, but I would want that with someone I really cared for and trusted. And like you said, you could not see yourself in a relationship, but for me a close friendship is, after all, a relationship. Looking back on my life, I can honestly say that I have never really been a quick fuck kind of a guy - those things usually left me feeling a little empty and cheated.
Hope this makes sense.

 

[brinkeedinkee]

I also think the difference in being gay and bisexual is you still kind of favor one sex but like the other. I definetly love women, a lot more than guys and know I could never have a relationship with a guy. I think my attraction is purely sexual b/c I rarely see a guy and think he is good looking. But a dick is another story.

Interesting...I am married...prefer sex with men...but prefer to look at women.

 

[sdedalus]

What fun... my girlfriend is going to join the Lit boards in a matter of minutes.. I can hear her feverishly typing on the other side of the room. This should be interesting

 

[simonedb27]

hmm...i suppose i am 'the girlfriend.'

so it is my turn to say my bit.

i have really been bi since i knew what sex was (maybe even before), but have only recently recognized it and been able to say it outloud (even if it is only to my boyfriend). i think moving away from california and everything i knew sort of helped. i don't really know what to do with it from here though. my boyfriend and i have shared a girl (my friend) before and i would like to see us with a guy. i don't know how i feel about ever pursuing a relationship with a woman. my boyfriend and i are really serious which sort of negates the possiblity of a relationship with a woman anyway. i am afraid of what all of this would mean in the context of marriage. i don't even know if i really believe in marriage as a legal contractual bond. i suppose all of this just means i am i really confused right now. despite my confusion, i am beginning to feel more comfortable in my own skin and with my own feelings and desires. step in the right direction, right?

 

[sdedalus]

hmm...i suppose i am 'the girlfriend.'

so it is my turn to say my bit.

i have really been bi since i knew what sex was (maybe even before), but have only recently recognized it and been able to say it outloud (even if it is only to my boyfriend). i think moving away from california and everything i knew sort of helped. i don't really know what to do with it from here though. my boyfriend and i have shared a girl (my friend) before and i would like to see us with a guy. i don't know how i feel about ever pursuing a relationship with a woman. my boyfriend and i are really serious which sort of negates the possiblity of a relationship with a woman anyway. i am afraid of what all of this would mean in the context of marriage. i don't even know if i really believe in marriage as a legal contractual bond. i suppose all of this just means i am i really confused right now. despite my confusion, i am beginning to feel more comfortable in my own skin and with my own feelings and desires. step in the right direction, right?

We could marry another girl if you want... but we all have to share a bed... no one has to sleep on the couch.

 

[Etoile]

Welcome to the GLBT board, sdedalus and simonedb27!

 

[thickspear]

Well I

 

[simonedb27]

i have had a hard time with admiting that i a bi to myself and my loved ones because i grew up in a very christian very homophobic household. in addition, my family always made fun of bi people because they couldn't make up their minds. it is hard to go home and hear the homophobic comments. i try my best to stick up for myself under the guise of just trying to be more politically correct. i have yet to come out to my family and i am not sure i will ever be able to.

 

[sdedalus]

Welcome to the GLBT board, sdedalus and simonedb27!

oops

 

[kotori]

bi

me too.

My ultimate would be a mmf, 'cause I really do love women, but I do get turned on by boys too. For the longest time I had the desire to suck a cock, and once I did, it was like, "Okay, done that." So I don't think I could make it an exclusive diet (so to speak), but the thoughts of a threesome...hmm.

 

[Prime]

sdedalus, I am exactly the same when it comes to our sexuality. i have not yet experienced it, but the mere thought of it is a huge turn on for me. I feel the same way, dick turns me on, but not so much the guys themselves, if that makes sense.

I cannot see myself falling in love with another man, but then, i haven't exactly fallen in love with every woman i've had sex with. so i don't really see any problems.

ok, there, i've finally said it. phew, feels good to get that off my chest

 

[simonedb27]

feels nice to say it outloud doesn't it....

 

[infinityoverzero]

feels nice to say it outloud doesn't it....

I agree with that. I've found that with repetition, the phrase comes easier. In particular, whereas before I've stumbled over the words while trying to come out to someone who I know would be understanding, now it comes out a lot more smoothly. I guess what I'm trying to say (or let stumble out of me) is that sometimes it's good to affirm who you see yourself as.

Sdedalus and simone, it's good to see a couple like you who are alike and accepting of each other. My fiancee and I are similar (though she's not bi). I've never been with a guy, though we're thinking about exploring. We do have some worries about the aftermath of having sex with another person; one idea that we're thinking about is playing with a couple - that way, everyone has someone to go home to, thus fewer worries about jealousy etc.

Good luck to you two and other couples who are exploring one or both partner's bi sides.

--Infinity