OK Ladies, I need an opinion

[cheerful_deviant]

I just got back from taking my daughters for a walk down thru the park and along the bike trail. The trail was pretty bust tonight and we passed alot of people. There was alot of polite head nods as we passed couples out walking, a few 'How are you tonight' comments, quite a few 'They're so cute' kind of comments and finally one muttered... Must be visitation night.

A father can't go out alone with his daughters without someone assuming that it's visitation?

The reason I ask the ladies is that I have also heard this sentiment from a few of my wifes friends, that they see a father out with the kids alone and immediatly assume visitation.

Do you all think this?

 

[sophia jane]

Do you all think this?

I admit it. I think it. Probably because my own ex so rarely took the kids anywhere without me.

 

[LadyJeanne]

I don't think that way, but almost all the men in my family are still married to their spouses, and most of my male friends are also married.

I do, however, confess to seeing men out with their kids and thinking, "Must be their night to babysit." That's almost as bad, but I've heard dads referring to child care this way. Their wives don't 'babysit' their kids, but the husbands do.

 

[Lavared]

No. I never think of that.

 

[AppleBiter]

Can't say I've thought that, no. How rude of someone to say.

 

[carsonshepherd]

That's almost as bad, but I've heard dads referring to child care this way. Their wives don't 'babysit' their kids, but the husbands do.

yeah, that pisses me off royally

 

[Guest]

It's rude. And wrong.

We have a picture of our daughter when she was about four sitting on the bench on the sidelines while her daddy coached. (One of the player's moms gave it to us.)

If we can't be together, we usually tag-team our time with the kids. During the busy times in our careers, we trade off kid-sitting and even household responsibilities. It evens out.

But my husband has heard those comments, too. Assholes.

 

[CharleyH]

I just got back from taking my daughters for a walk down thru the park and along the bike trail. The trail was pretty bust tonight and we passed alot of people. There was alot of polite head nods as we passed couples out walking, a few 'How are you tonight' comments, quite a few 'They're so cute' kind of comments and finally one muttered... Must be visitation night.

A father can't go out alone with his daughters without someone assuming that it's visitation?

The reason I ask the ladies is that I have also heard this sentiment from a few of my wifes friends, that they see a father out with the kids alone and immediatly assume visitation.

Do you all think this?

Every man I go out with gawks and jerks his head, brother, dad, grandfather. If you cock your head then its obvious that your daughters notice, for men are obvious. I even caught O in a digital pic, Gwking. LOL - he erased his dumb look that I laughed at for hours.

A visitation by you or those girls LOL? What is a visitation? Your daughters see more than you maybe? LOL Not like you'd ask them.

 

[McKenna]

I've thought the same on occasion when seeing a man out with his kids (no "mom" in sight) especially when it seems like dad doesn't know what he's doing or how to keep the kids under control. The comment, however, was completely rude.

But frankly, so what? Who cares what that person thinks? I think it's great that whether or not it's "visitation night" that they are out doing something, enjoying one another's company. I'm sorry that comment got to you CD, but you gotta admit not too many dads are seen doing things with their kids without the wife around (in America). Sad, but true.

If I ever did anyting with my dad where it was just us kids and him, it was usually because he was putting us to work. Hauling firewood, hauling hay, blah blah blah. Though he did take us on some wonderful nature hikes in the mountains after the work was done.









P.S. Can anybody post now without thinking of Yui's thread on how many forum members it takes to screw in a lightbulb?! I feel so unoriginal!

 

[Guest]

P.S. Can anybody post now without thinking of Yui's thread on how many forum members it takes to screw in a lightbulb?! I feel so unoriginal!

Nope.

It didn't mention butt sex at all!

 

[cheerful_deviant]

Nope.

It didn't mention butt sex at all!

There's a first time for everything.

 

[CharleyH]

Nope.

It didn't mention butt sex at all!

too bad

 

[Guest]

Just as long as someone does.

 

[minsue]

I admit, I think it more often than not. Most of the fathers I know that are still married don't spend much if any time with their kids without their wife. I can't imagine someone saying it, though. All I can think is it was uttered by a very bitter person.

 

[Virtual_Burlesque]

Not at all, CD!

I also think the comment was EXTREMELY rude.

Are you sharp-eared, or was it said loud enough that you were meant to over hear?

Don't worry, as long as your daughters wished to be with you.

That is all that truly matters.

 

[English Lady]

I've got to say I don't think I've ever thought that, but maybe it's because my husband regularly takes Beth out for a day so I can either

Be ill in peace
wash carpets or some other BIG cleaning thing
Go out on my own
Just'cos he wants too.

 

[Liar]

I just got back from taking my daughters for a walk down thru the park and along the bike trail. The trail was pretty bust tonight and we passed alot of people. There was alot of polite head nods as we passed couples out walking, a few 'How are you tonight' comments, quite a few 'They're so cute' kind of comments and finally one muttered... Must be visitation night.

A father can't go out alone with his daughters without someone assuming that it's visitation?

The reason I ask the ladies is that I have also heard this sentiment from a few of my wifes friends, that they see a father out with the kids alone and immediatly assume visitation.

Do you all think this?

Well, sadly, it is all too common that it is that way.

That being said...to assume it by default...and then actually blurt it out within hearing-range of you. That's beyond rude.

 

[Guest]

 

[cheerful_deviant]

I do agree that the comment was beyond rude and I'm sure I was ment to hear it but not obviously. I'm a little hard of hearing so if I heard it, it was loud enough that it wasn't wispered.

I suppose a persons reaction will inevitably center on their own experiences. Most of the women I know that have mentioned (wifes friends mentioned above) such thoughts are the mothers who's husbands are the come home from work and plunk their ass on the couch kind of guys. Never see them at the kids parties, or if they are there, they're useless.

 

[Guest]