ok, anyone else feel depressed & lonely?

[Guest]

Has any one else here ever felt so depressed about losing good friends here, actually in chat.....I guess I have deep rooted problems...I even get depressed over friendships i thought were growing closer then all of a sudden stop. I think, partly because i hold back, knowing they will leave too, or move on to another person that they bond with and a friendships grows..... I don;t need a cyber sex relationship but i do need a nurturing frendship, a shoulder to lean on, someone to confide in. For some reason I have found men make this best kind of friend, not the same back stabbing, and cattiness. maybe most men can't take the closeness without having the rest? Perhaps a males view on friendhips with females may help......

 

[Siren]

 

[Freya]

I like having male friends in real life...no competitiveness, no cattiness. But on here, I find I have bonded way more with females than males....I think because this is a sex site thus making most of the guys horndogs...it's hard to just simply be friends with them.

 

[nasty1]

Well, I've never been in that exact situation, but, I know what it feels like to be so depressed & lonely it HURTS! I go through it just about every fucking day.

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

it happens all the time.

it seems that friendships on the net and in literotica are more transient than other types of friendships.

I have been hurt
disappointed
and
depressed from the apparent loss of a friendship from here and other internet arenas.

you took the words right outta my mouth.

 

[AzureAngel]

I agree with Siren.

A lot of people I know find a great deal of comfort in online relationships and using the online forum as a style of connecting with others. With the separation from the other person that there is, it's easier for some to open up. So, the friendships formed can be more hurtful when they end due to more trust put into them.

In terms of bonding, I find it easier to make friends with women than men, simply because most guys I know have a difficult being honest and open with other guys - unless drunk. Heh. On the other hand, women can have their own perks.

The voice of not stereotyping: Not all women are manipulative and not all men are unable to have "just a friendship." Someone had to.

 

[Siren]

Morgaine.........let me tell ya.......

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

I am sorry.

I have been more trusting here then I am in my real life.

I’ve been hurt. I'm paying for it.

I’m extremely selective in choosing my friends. For the very reason that I don’t like disbursing bits of myself to just anyone. I am often alone with my own thoughts because I don’t trust others that pose as friends with this fragile information.

 

[Siren]

Yea Morgaine......

 

[Never]

I find my best friendships are online.
I've had two years of honesty.
Two years of caring.
Two years of closeness.

Human are mercurial but more often good than not.

 

[Siren]

 

[Never]

I'm 'mocking' you when I find joy where you've found pain?

 

[AzureAngel]

Nae sure if it's mocking so much as accenting the optimism in the same light. Other side of the coin. Ah well.

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

That makes me very sad.

And you know why.

But I can respect this.


Well now...this entire day has gone to shit.

 

[Siren]

 

[Never]

AzureAngel:
"Nae sure if it's mocking so much as accenting the optimism in the same light. Other side of the coin. Ah well."

That is what I was trying to convey.

 

[Freya]

I don't think he was mocking you. Just using your words to express his own views.

You are very right in a lot of ways Siren...just as it's difficult to truly know someone in a love type relationship online, it is also difficult to know them in a friendship way. It is so much harder at times, when you can't see for yourself all those little physical signals people give off, that really show their intentions. I do however feel that you can find good friends on here, I'm sorry that you've been fucked over by some of yours. I'm finding it less difficult to trust friends than I am to trust men who say they are interested.

And I'm sorry Azure..I didn't intend to stereotype men in that way. It's just that while in real life I do have male friends, I have found that the men on here dont' reach out in a friendship manner as easily and if they do, there is still that element of lust or mentions of physical things etc.

 

[Kat-44]

I have found the same too, not betrayal recently (but have in the past) and each one makes you build your wall a bit higher.....then to have someone come and start to knock that wall down...only to disappear..........well you start building the wall higher and higher.........but even friendships you think are growing then suddenly nothing..........i do get tired of it......
I know what you are saying siren, in my case not so much what can i do for them.........but i definately see a change in them (not all) when i feel down........suddenly it is they don;t want to talk to me like they used to, a freindship is lost and we become only acquaintences......it's as iff, you are expected to be up and damned witty and charming (lol)every single day! we have to take breaks we are human too!!!!!!! geesh
pssssst hugggggggs morgy

 

[Never]

Siren:
“no, you are mocking me by using my words to say the reverse.

use your own prose to speak how you feel......

dont use my words about something I am revealing about my emotions to use as ammo for posting how happy you are.

that is what I see as mocking.”

‘Ammo’ for posting how happy I am? A person uses ammo when attacking and mocking someone is a form of attack as well.

I’m not attacking, simply living life on the other side of the looking glass.

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

Hijacking


Kat! Hugs KittyKat, tis good to see your face

 

[Siren]

 

[Siren]

 

[Freya]

Well I wont argue with you about it, it's apparent that you are in pain and thus will probably take things a bit wrongly...that's human. But just realize that although it may seem that way to you, not everyone is attacking you at all times. You are feeling fucked over by friends, and therefore probably find it difficult to believe that everyone is not like that...but we are all not like that. I'm sorry for your hurt, I wish I could help.

 

[Siren]

 

[lavender]