Oh, how will I ever endure!?

[Guest]

Well, I've been lurking here for several weeks now, and you guys all seem very sincere and informative, so I now come to you to pose a question.

I'm a 20 year old guy, and just recently starting having a regularly active sex life. I've been a studier of sexual techniques and the like since I was at least 16, so I've amassed quite a bit of knowledge (Thanks to Mr. G for the G-Spot technique). And I've been pretty happy with the "responses" to the little experience I've had.

I've only had one complaint, and this is from a girl who's a good friend of mine who just happens to enjoy friendly "benefits", and that's that I don't really have very good sexual stamina. Other than that she said I was great (she's a very blunt and truthful person, which is why I asked her and not someone else). I suppose I lasted about...a minute and a half.

So, to bring all this rambling I've just made you read to a close, can anyone give me some info on how to improve sexual stamina? Any help would be tremendously appreciated.

Peace.

 

[huskie]

20 years old?? I'm 35 and I still cum quick..... at least I think so? Best thing, that is the only sure fire way, that I KNOW will work, is to jack off apx. 30 min before you have sex.
Theres all sorts of diffrent exsercises and drugs and blah, blah, blah out there but this is the only true way I know?
If nothing else, and I assume you can do this, is let your partner know that just because you cum once, doesn't mean you can get hard and fuck her again... say 15 min later? right?

 

[MR.GGG]

Don't stop after you cum. Keep going. 2nd and 3rd orgasms take a longer time. Sge shoud be complimented that you were so turned on by her that you popped after 70 seconds. You're young. It's pretty common. No big deal. It is if you cum after 70 secs and then roll over and give up. If ya keep going you'll be a stud. It ain't just about spewing and certainly not just once. If you've picked up anything in here that should be obvious.

 

[Guest]

Actually I have about a 5 minute refractory period.

And plenty of other tricks up my sleeve to keep her occupied in between.

But, you make a good point. The only girls I've ever had sex with were good friends, so...*shrugs* I guess I shouldn't worry so much.

Thanks, cuz.

 

[MR.GGG]

Agreed. Just don't snooze for those 15 minutes until YOU can get going again.
Do everything else you've read about in here. Ask her what she likes. Do it. Invent something new. At 20 you should be able to get it up again in 1POINT 5 NOT 15 minutes. By the time you're able to go slammin again she should be coasting down from 10 or 15 orgasms from tongue, fingers, toys, dirty stories...whatever turns her crank.

 

[Guest]

And thanks for the second time, Mr G. You also make a good point.

Btw, that technique? Excellent. I really 'precianate you sharing that little nugget of information.

 

[Bindii]

There is several things that you can do to stop/slow down your climax.
The first is the squeeze method originated by Masters and Johnson consists of squeezing the penis hard enough to partially lose an erection prior to ejaculation. The goal of the technique is to become aware of the sensations leading to an orgasm. Basically what you do is when you feel that you are getting close to orgasm (but before the 'oh my god I'm gonna cum feeling) grasp your penis with your thumb and forefingers at the base and apply enough pressure until you are in control again. A lot of men find it better if their partner is the 'squeezer'.
Another method is the the start -stop method; it consists of the partner starting and stopping stimulation prior to ejaculation. The series of exercises progresses to intercourse and over a period of weeks to gradually increasing ejaculatory control. You can also practice this method yourself while masturbating.

 

[coolr]

Don't stop after you cum. Keep going. 2nd and 3rd orgasms take a longer time. Sge shoud be complimented that you were so turned on by her that you popped after 70 seconds. You're young. It's pretty common. No big deal. It is if you cum after 70 secs and then roll over and give up. If ya keep going you'll be a stud. It ain't just about spewing and certainly not just once. If you've picked up anything in here that should be obvious.

depends if you're wearing a condom or not, don't keep thrusting away if b/c of the chance of breaking with the now added pressure, i've had this happen a couple times, lucky for me the girl was on the pill =/

 

[AKA T-REX]

If you focus on the action/event bye bye. I had the same experiences many moons ago. I resorted to thinking of the most boreing things I could think of.

They say the mind is the largest sex organ in the human body. If you can control your thoughts, you can control your responces. If you know what I mean. Reciently my wife has informed me that I sometimes take a long time.

Learn to focus on other things. You will soon be in complete control.


The Best of Luck

 

[coolr]

good advice man, (rex person)

 

[Belilica]

You could try a cock ring. I've never had a partner try one, but according to "Sunday Night Sex with Sue" they do work. I'm not sure myself, but it could be worth a try.

Bel

 

[dlj403]

Practice, practice, practice

Seriously, practice makes perfect.

Oh, and take some time and masturbate a lot. Seriously, learn the signs your body makes just before you cum. Practice stopping at the last second, waiting a few seconds, and then starting again. See how long you can keep this up without cumming. Aside from the teasing thing feeling really good, you'll also gain some stamina and control. If you're with a girl and feel like you're getting close but it's too soon, pull out just for a sec. Give her clit a few quick licks before you thrust back in, and I'm sure she won't complain

Hope this helped a little

dlj

 

[Guest]

Thanks to all of you who replied, all the input is appreciated

And that's kinda what I was figuring, Rex. That I might be focusing too much on the act. I'll try to focus my attention on other things. And I'll also try that starting and stopping technique.

Thanks for all of your help.

 

[ToreHund]

If it's any comfort, I have the opposite problem.

I have to fuck for ages to come. In the "missionary" I can just forget about orgasm. Condoms and Alcohol (both common in one night stands) are also sure things to prevent orgasm. Therefore, I don't focus on straight forward fucking during sex, because it doesn't give me anything.

Anyway, I guess the best tip for you is to think about something boring. Be sure not to think about something funny, so that you burst out with laughter during sex. In that case you can be sure never to come again - with her!

TH

 

[Mysteryman5500]

Jerkin off

I hab=ve read the you can actualy teach your self to go longer by teaching yourself, Do you wack off to cum quick youl probably com quick during sex. Now try using different stroke and preshure to maintain for longer and longer periods of time eventualy you will work up the time frame.

 

[alphacat]

ToreHund

I wouldn't consider a guy taking a long time to be a problem (well, perhaps for you it would be ), but if you're fucking girls, I'm sure they're happy about it

 

[Nomad4112000]

Lasting to long

I had the same problem when I was younger, now they complain I last to long. I had gotten into the habit of convincing my self that I didn't want to cum. I guess you could say a form of Tantra sex. It did become a problem because my lady started to think it was her. It's all in the mind. Concentrate on her pleasure not yours and after a awhile you will be able to control it. Or there is another option play the teacher and say "Well were going to do it again until we get it right."

 

[Pdxmwm]

Not yet, Not Yet

You are to be complimented on your desire to become a better lover for your friend. For many of us, learning to focus on pleasing our partner, rather then “getting our rocks off”, comes too late in life (And, some never learn it.).

There are several techniques you can try to delay ejaculation, and hence “improve stamina”. It helps if your partner knows what you are doing, and is willing to “practice” with you; however, even without a partner, “practice” can be fun.

I first became aware of these techniques while reading of Tantra. There is a very good introduction at www.tantra.org . Some of the material gets pretty involved with pseudo-religious concepts; take them for what you feel they’re worth, or move on to the physical techniques.

The basic idea, is for you and your partner to become aware of the various levels of arousal you can feel, and then to try to extend each level for as long as possible. For instance, level one might be something akin to daydreaming about how beautiful your lover is. Level two could be when you are starting to get a bit warm. Level 3, and you have an erection. Each successive level takes you up a notch till at level 10, you can’t contain yourself any longer, and bang, you go over the cliff.

The same techniques work for both men and women, and that’s why it’s fun to have a partner, and practice these exercises on each other Yes, it’s much more fun to be caressing and playing with each other, then it is to be solo.

The exercises will have you playing yo-yo with your level of arousal. Early on you may go up to a level 3, then back to a level 2. The next time around, you go a bit higher, and then slip back a step or two. By now I think you get the idea. Believe me, it’s a lot of fun. You and your friend will get so hot, and want each other so much, that you’ll think you’re about to burst.

Besides running your emotions up and down, the exercises teach you how to hold back, when you think you can’t. These exercises include breath control, and muscle control, mostly your PC muscles. (Those are the ones you use to stop a urine flow when you’re going to the bathroom.)

If you don’t care for material on the Tantra site, the same physical techniques are presented in a book entitled How to Make Love All Night (and Drive a Woman Wild), by Barbara Keesling.


http://shop.barnesandnoble.com/book...om/bargain/results.asp&isbn=0517189151&brg=y

Good Luck, and have fun. I wish I had learned this when I was 20.