Oh good Gods...

[Just-Legal]

http://www.myfatspouse.com/

"It is disrespectful to become unattractive to your life partner."

...

If s/he became turned off if I put weight on, they'd be out the fucking door...

 

[MagicaPractica]

*sigh* Whatever happened to caring about your partner? Unconditional love AND wanting them to be healthy? Seems like some people would be happy to get a skinny parnter at any cost. How about encouragement instead of degrading? Ugh.

 

[TheeGoatPig]

Ah, but if they like you big in the first place, than no worries because you weren't unattractive in the firstplace

Or is that the wrong thing to say right now?

 

[Boxlicker101]

That concept sucks. I wish I were a customer of that company so I could write a nasty letter and leave them in protest.

 

[Debrock]

Just because you're not attracted to someone doesn't mean you don't love them anymore. I surely wouldn't be happy with it, but I'd rather try to help them to stay as healthy as they've ever been, rather than become...displeased (?) with them.

 

[Just-Legal]

Just because you're not attracted to someone doesn't mean you don't love them anymore. I surely wouldn't be happy with it, but I'd rather try to help them to stay as healthy as they've ever been, rather than become...displeased (?) with them.

Its not a health thing, no matter how they try and paint it, its sheer "attractiveness", at least to me.

My partner is disabled, he has the very real chance of being in a wheelchair before long, he cannot do much excercise and may very well end up putting weight on.

Will I love him any less? No.

I've put at least a stone/ stone and a half on since we got together, mainly due to the fact I started eating properly again (stress reaction).

Is he any less attracted to me? No.

However in both cases we would let the other know that we are concerned. My fiance has maintained a fairly steady weight since his teens which would be considered "obese" but has always been relatively fit with it. Its a matter of perspecitve I guess.

 

[TheEarl]

I can kinda understand if a person completely changes their body shape that it might change how people are attracted to them. It's not really an issue to me, but I can kinda understand.

But this?

If she wears an outfit that she has outgrown tell her that you “don’t like how that outfit looks on her anymore, this should play on his or her insecurities.

Play on his or her insecurities?!?

My god.

The Earl

 

[TheEarl]

The “ideal” BMI peaks around 17 or 18

Or 'underweight' as those strange and deluded doctors would have it. Ideal BMI is 20-25.

In order to reach 17-18 BMI, a 5'4 woman would have to be around 7 stone. Discuss.

The Earl

 

[TheeGoatPig]

Or 'underweight' as those strange and deluded doctors would have it. Ideal BMI is 20-25.

In order to reach 17-18 BMI, a 5'4 woman would have to be around 7 stone. Discuss.

The Earl

I can't discuss what I don't undrstand. And "Stones" are for throwing over my head. This part of the conversation is over my head

 

[TheEarl]

I can't discuss what I don't undrstand. And "Stones" are for throwing over my head. This part of the conversation is over my head

BMI is a measure of health by comparing weight to height. It's facile, as anyone with muscle will be classified as obese. Generally speaking though, a BMI of 20 to 25 is considered 'normal'.

From imperial to metric, these people are saying that a 1.62m tall woman (5'4) ought to be 45kg (7st). Which, unless the woman is naturally skinny, would be considered medically underweight.

The Earl

 

[TheeGoatPig]

BMI is a measure of health by comparing weight to height. It's facile, as anyone with muscle will be classified as obese. Generally speaking though, a BMI of 20 to 25 is considered 'normal'.

From imperial to metric, these people are saying that a 1.62m tall woman (5'4) ought to be 45kg (7st). Which, unless the woman is naturally skinny, would be considered medically underweight.

The Earl

Yeah, I'm on the Imperial weight thing. Stones and kilos don't mean anything to me (although kilos are easier to calculate).

I understood the index part. Just not the "stones" (stones are for hurting kidneys, ouch).

 

[Alessia Brio]

"It is disrespectful to become unattractive to your life partner."

So twisted.

It is disrespectful to become unattractive to yourSELF ... and I'm not talking visually, here.

 

[Svenskaflicka]

If anyone tried to play with my insecurity and tell me I need to loose weight, he'd be thrown out of here so fast that his head would go through the neighbor's front door!!!

 

[LadyCibelle]

Yeah, I'm on the Imperial weight thing. Stones and kilos don't mean anything to me (although kilos are easier to calculate).

I understood the index part. Just not the "stones" (stones are for hurting kidneys, ouch).

IIRC stone is 14 lb.

 

[Aurora Black]

Fucktards. That's all I can say about the asshats behind this organization. Mind fucking does not a slimmer body make, only love and encouragement. If the spouses decide for themselves that they want to lose the weight, ideally for health reasons, then they should be supported instead of made to feel like warmed over shit by people who supposedly love them.

 

[erise]

Bizarre. If mere physical attraction is a dealbreaker in a relationship between spouses, there's something wrong with that relationship.

However, saying "you should lose weight" is not nesscarily a bad thing, as long as you say it for the right reasons. I'm on a diet-and-workout propaganda campaign aimed at my hubby right now. Not because of attraction, because he'd be beautiful to me even if he was wider than tall. But he comes from a family with obesity linked to cardiac problems. I like him and I want to have him around for as long as possible.

If it makes him more fit in the process, that's a bonus. But will I love him more then? No, the love meter is maxed already.

 

[Aurora Black]

Bizarre. If mere physical attraction is a dealbreaker in a relationship between spouses, there's something wrong with that relationship.

However, saying "you should lose weight" is not nesscarily a bad thing, as long as you say it for the right reasons. I'm on a diet-and-workout propaganda campaign aimed at my hubby right now. Not because of attraction, because he'd be beautiful to me even if he was wider than tall. But he comes from a family with obesity linked to cardiac problems. I like him and I want to have him around for as long as possible.

If it makes him more fit in the process, that's a bonus. But will I love him more then? No, the love meter is maxed already.

That's very sweet, Erise. Welcome back to the AH, by the way. Nice to meet you.

 

[Liar]

However, saying "you should lose weight" is not nesscarily a bad thing, as long as you say it for the right reasons. I'm on a diet-and-workout propaganda campaign aimed at my hubby right now. Not because of attraction, because he'd be beautiful to me even if he was wider than tall. But he comes from a family with obesity linked to cardiac problems. I like him and I want to have him around for as long as possible.

Bah, I could have use for a girl like you. I want to get into shape (other than round) but I lack the self dicipline. I need a training coach with the right incentive. An hour on the treadmill for a blowjob, that would get me going.

 

[Skip1934a]

http://www.myfatspouse.com/

"It is disrespectful to become unattractive to your life partner."

...

If s/he became turned off if I put weight on, they'd be out the fucking door...

My wife is 50 pounds heavier than she was when we were married 52 years ago She's also had a double mastectomy with no reconstruction. Do I love her any less? Absolutely not. I didn't marry her for her looks. I married her because of who she is.

When she had her mastectomy, the surgeon asked ME if he should do reconstruction. I don't know if he asked her or not, but I told him she was still the woman I married even without breasts. I loved her, not her breasts. He just smiled and walked away.

 

[Alessia Brio]

An hour on the treadmill for a blowjob, that would get me going.

I so like the way you think.

 

[TheEarl]

Was singing this earlier and thought of this thread. More Tom Lehrer.

Since I still appreciate you, let's find love while we may.
Because I know I'll hate you, when you are old and grey.
So, say you love me here and now; I'll make the most of that.
Say you love and trust me,
For I know you'll disgust me,
When you're old and getting fat.

An awful debility,
A lessened utility,
A loss of mobility
Is a strong possibility.
In all probability,
I'll lose my virility,
And you your fertility,
And desirability.
And this liability
Of total sterility
Will lead to hostility
And a sense of futility.

So let's act with agility,
While we still have facility,
For we'll soon reach senility
And lose the ability.

Your teeth will start to go, dear.
Your waist will start to spread.
In twenty years or so, dear,
I'll wish that you were dead.
I'll never love you then at all,
The way I do today.

So, please remember,
When I leave in December...

I told you so in May!

The Earl

 

[Skip1934a]

Was singing this earlier and thought of this thread. More Tom Lehrer.

Since I still appreciate you, let's find love while we may.
Because I know I'll hate you, when you are old and grey.
So, say you love me here and now; I'll make the most of that.
Say you love and trust me,
For I know you'll disgust me,
When you're old and getting fat.

An awful debility,
A lessened utility,
A loss of mobility
Is a strong possibility.
In all probability,
I'll lose my virility,
And you your fertility,
And desirability.
And this liability
Of total sterility
Will lead to hostility
And a sense of futility.

So let's act with agility,
While we still have facility,
For we'll soon reach senility
And lose the ability.

Your teeth will start to go, dear.
Your waist will start to spread.
In twenty years or so, dear,
I'll wish that you were dead.
I'll never love you then at all,
The way I do today.

So, please remember,
When I leave in December...

I told you so in May!

The Earl

Not a happy thought.

 

[R. Richard]

Your problem here is location, location, location!

As it happens I had to interact with some people who are the solution to your situation. I am an adopted member of the Kel-Rega clan of the Ahoggar Tuahi [corect plural of Tuareg/Touareg.] A Tuareg measures beauty by the ton. The more, the better.

JMHO.

 

[cumallday]

When her arms are bigger than my legs...

These people have it wrong. It is not disrespectful to become unnattractive to your life partner. It is disrepectful to judge your life partner over something they cannot control. This being said however, and at the risk of being unpopular, If my life partner is not at least willing to get in shape and lead a healthier life style I will lose respect for them; and for me respect is a necessary corollary of love. The website unfortunately seems to only cut it one way. They only focus on people adding weight. What about when your life partner becomes an emaciated 'anorexia nervosa' scarecrow? What about promoting and celebrating the fact that there are different body types and attacking the mass media for mindfucking the populace into believing they are not beautiful unless they buy all kinds of idiotic products conning them out of the unobtainable?