Ode To Nice Guys

[niceguys1st]

Read this article on another site and thought it was great and figured I'd share it and hear people's thoughts:

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Ode to the Nice Guys

This is a tribute to the nice guys. The nice guys that finish last, that never become more than friends, that endure hours of whining and bitching about what assholes guys are, while disproving the very point. This is dedicated to those guys who always provide a shoulder to lean on but restrain themselves to tentative hugs, those guys who hold open doors and give reassuring pats on the back and sit patiently outside the changing room at department stores. This is in honor of the guys that obligingly reiterate how cute/beautiful/smart/funny/sexy their female friends are at the appropriate moment, because they know most girls need that litany of support. This is in honor of the guys with open minds, with laid-back attitudes, with honest concern. This is in honor of the guys who respect a girl’s every facet, from her privacy to her theology to her clothing style.

This is for the guys who escort their drunk, bewildered female friends back from parties and never take advantage once they’re at her door, for the guys who accompany girls to bars as buffers against the rest of the creepy male population, for the guys who know a girl is fishing for compliments but give them out anyway, for the guys who always play by the rules in a game where the rules favor cheaters, for the guys who are accredited as boyfriend material but somehow don’t end up being boyfriends, for all the nice guys who are overlooked, underestimated, and unappreciated, for all the nice guys who are manipulated, misled, and unjustly abandoned, this is for you.

This is for that time she left 40 urgent messages on your cell phone, and when you called her back, she spent three hours painstakingly dissecting two sentences her boyfriend said to her over dinner. And even though you thought her boyfriend was a chump and a jerk, you assured her that it was all ok and she shouldn’t worry about it. This is for that time she interrupted the best killing spree you’d ever orchestrated in GTA3 to rant about a rumor that romantically linked her and the guy she thinks is the most repulsive person in the world. And even though you thought it was immature and you had nothing against the guy, you paused the game for two hours and helped her concoct a counter-rumor to spread around the floor. This is also for that time she didn’t have a date, so after numerous vows that there was nothing “serious” between the two of you, she dragged you to a party where you knew nobody, the beer was awful, and she flirted shamelessly with you, justifying each fit of reckless teasing by announcing to everyone: “oh, but we’re just friends!” And even though you were invited purely as a symbolic warm body for her ego, you went anyways. Because you’re nice like that.

The nice guys don’t often get credit where credit is due. And perhaps more disturbing, the nice guys don’t seem to get laid as often as they should. And I wish I could logically explain this trend, but I can’t. From what I have observed on campus and what I have learned from talking to friends at other schools and in the workplace, the only conclusion I can form is that many girls are just illogical, manipulative bitches. Many of them claim they just want to date a nice guy, but when presented with such a specimen, they say irrational, confusing things such as “oh, he’s too nice to date” or “he would be a good boyfriend but he’s not for me” or “he already puts up with so much from me, I couldn’t possibly ask him out!” or the most frustrating of all: “no, it would ruin our friendship.” Yet, they continue to lament the lack of datable men in the world, and they expect their too-nice-to-date male friends to sympathize and apologize for the men that are jerks. Sorry, guys, girls like that are beyond my ability to fathom. I can’t figure out why the connection breaks down between what they say (I want a nice guy!) and what they do (I’m going to sleep with this complete ass now!). But one thing I can do, is say that the nice-guy-finishes-last phenomenon doesn’t last forever. There are definitely many girls who grow out of that train of thought and realize they should be dating the nice guys, not taking them for granted. The tricky part is finding those girls, and even trickier, finding the ones that are single.

So, until those girls are found, I propose a toast to all the nice guys. You know who you are, and I know you’re sick of hearing yourself described as ubiquitously nice. But the truth of the matter is, the world needs your patience in the department store, your holding open of doors, your party escorting services, your propensity to be a sucker for a pretty smile. For all the crazy, inane, absurd things you tolerate, for all the situations where you are the faceless, nameless hero, my accolades, my acknowledgement, and my gratitude go out to you. You do have credibility in this society, and your well deserved vindication is coming.

 

[College_geek]

Read this article on another site and thought it was great and figured I'd share it and hear people's thoughts:

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I've been dating a nice guy for almost 3 years (in 2 weeks, it'll be officially 3 years), so cheers to the nice guys! I have no idea why so many girls ignore them when it comes to dating. Who wouldn't want a guy who you can talk and laugh with comfortably? Who'll compliment you just because? The nice guys also seem to be the ones who'll say they love you because they mean it, not because they want sex or because they're cumming or because of some other lame ass reason. (Oh, it's not "manly" to say 'I love you'. That's a load of bull shit.)

Many kisses and licks to all the nice guys!

 

[niceguys1st]

WOOHOO!!! Licks from CG! I feel all tingly now.

 

[rippleroses]

It is good to know that you exist. Nice guys are few and far between. I also enjoy being polite to other people. It makes life a more enjoyable experience.

 

[Sulk]

Good read !!

 

[WantonWitch]

Read this article on another site and thought it was great and figured I'd share it and hear people's thoughts:

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*Chuckles* I married my nice guy 23 years of being very happy until he died. So not all of you are left on the shelf

 

[niceguys1st]

Figured this thread could use a bump because it's a good read.

 

[rcuhljr]

that post brings back bad memories. I swear every time a female knows me and ends a relationship I'm the guy to vent to. I think I was a nice guy, now I'm a cynical nice guy.

 

[Plasmacaster]

This is an article I wrote for my friends website (under the alias 'Warlock')

Find the original article HERE

Nice Guys Finish Last

Its strange, throughout my life I have seen the most intelligent, funny and street smart women go out with men who have been totally wrong for them, and for some reason seem surprised when they end up being hurt. I
have several theories about why even the best of the best of women end up with bastards, but first let me tell you a story. You see I knew a woman who ended up with someone who was wrong for her. I met her when I
first went to secondary school, we were in the same class and we seemed quite similar in personality so it wasn't that surprising that we became good friends. Over the years we got closer and we tried going out,
but we both agreed it felt more like dating another member of the family. I thought of her as my sister and she was one of my best friends. When we left I thought we'd end up never seeing each other again but we actually managed to keep in contact, I'd usually get phone calls from her during the week just to catch up on things and it was during one of those phone calls
that she told me she had found a guy that made her so happy, naturally I felt the same. One day a few weeks later I get a phone call from her, she's in tears and asking if she could come visit, so I say ok and she comes over. I open the door and she immediately starts to cry on my shoulder, I give her a hug but that just makes her cry even more. We both go inside and after
several drinks, she shows me the bruises that her boyfriend gave her. I wanted to go over and 'speak' to him myself but she insisted that I didn't and that it was just a one off. She spends a few nights then goes back to him. A few weeks later, the same thing happens. This time I make a stand and I go over to show him what it feels like to be beaten up, as soon as she finds out she says she hates me and cuts all ties. I've not seen her since then, but from mutual friends I know she is still with him hoping he'll change.

I don't know how it is for other men but I and most of my male friends like who they are, change is not a welcome aspect of life in our lives. I think I'm
perhaps a more extreme example of not wanting to change. To me, who I am is everything and I would rather die than change who I am for anyone. Like I
say, I'm probably a more extreme example of it but all the men that I know are reluctant to change who they are at the very least and definitely will not at the very worst. And yet, when I asked another female friend why women went after bad guys she said 'the thrill of the challenge of reforming him'.

Perhaps its the deep psychological differences between our two genders that results in so much misery. A phrase I have often found use for is "Women get married hoping he'll change, men get married hoping she'll stay the same. Is it any surprise there are so many divorces nowadays?" But why else? Why else would women subject themselves to misery? Enter the unpopular theories: After all, surely not all the women out there believe that. What I am about to propose are theories based on experience and may not be popular with the female audience. First of all, women place a great deal of exasperation on
the way that men are reluctant to enter a committed relationship, from my experience women seem to have the same reluctance, they just show it in a different manner. Women pick bad relationship after bad relationship because they are told that the only way to be happy is to be with a man. Women pick bad relationships because as long as they are in one they don't have to worry about finding someone they might end up in a long term relationship with. By being with someone they know from experience will end after a short period of time, they can go from partner to partner without having to face up to the commitment expected with someone they actually care for.
Secondly, many many women that I have met have confidence issues. They seem to have low self esteem, fears ranging from looks, to weight, to personality and because of this women aim low, they think that they don't deserve any better than the cheating violent men they seem to end up with.
There are your three possible explanations as to why nice guys finish last. After all, what woman would want a man who loved her when there are so many men just waiting to screw her over? How could we possibly compete with that?

 

[Little Bird]

I knew it all the years that I was right...

I regret nothing!

 

[niceguys1st]

Dude, that was a great article! Awesome job. Yeah, it boggles my mind when girls will repeatedly go out with these absolute pricks, complain and complain about how bad it is/was and then go out with a carbon copy of the last guy they were with while shelling out those wonderful lines like "you're just too much of a friend to go out with," yeah, that makes a lot of sense!

I've been told by several people that if I acted more like an asshole that I would get somebody in an instant *snaps fingers* Well, I tried that and it was completely forced and unnatural and I just don't want to sell myself and my values out like that just to get with somebody. Others have told me (I guess in an attempt to make me feel better) that women will date bad guys but marry nice guys after they're done having fun. So, are nice guys not entitled to fun then? We're just supposed to sit by and casually wait while women go and fuck til their heart's content with every asshole on the planet until they're finally ready for us?

 

[Plasmacaster]

Dude, that was a great article! Awesome job. Yeah, it boggles my mind when girls will repeatedly go out with these absolute pricks, complain and complain about how bad it is/was and then go out with a carbon copy of the last guy they were with while shelling out those wonderful lines like "you're just too much of a friend to go out with," yeah, that makes a lot of sense!

I've been told by several people that if I acted more like an asshole that I would get somebody in an instant *snaps fingers* Well, I tried that and it was completely forced and unnatural and I just don't want to sell myself and my values out like that just to get with somebody. Others have told me (I guess in an attempt to make me feel better) that women will date bad guys but marry nice guys after they're done having fun. So, are nice guys not entitled to fun then? We're just supposed to sit by and casually wait while women go and fuck til their heart's content with every asshole on the planet until they're finally ready for us?

Preaching to the choir mate.

 

[babydoll2u]

that post brings back bad memories. I swear every time a female knows me and ends a relationship I'm the guy to vent to. I think I was a nice guy, now I'm a cynical nice guy.

sorry to hear that hun.... I know alot of wonderful ladies who love
nice guys... me included

 

[Plasmacaster]

sorry to hear that hun.... I know alot of wonderful ladies who love
nice guys... me included

Any in the UK?