Obvious ploy for sympathy

[Jedi_Outcast]

Everybody's favorite overly-dramatic techie here

well the "nice" lasted for 1 day before she started giving be grief about our sex life. she says I'm getting it more than other people (1-2 times per week)

question: is that above average or below average? what is the average?

she went to the docs today and the doc said she has a thyroid problem, that's what makes her feel tired all the time. The talk about sex today really ticked me off, but I don't want to make relationship decisions based on her medical problems. It's not fair to her is she can't control it. Still, based on her attitude I don't think I'm going to getting more anytime soon. Her doc said a sex drive ebbs and flows, but an 8 year ebb?

she told me she is willing to help me when I need it. I don't know if I should be happy with that? Are my expectations too high? is my sex drive too high (allways on) or normal for a guy?

(bangs head on desk and wonders why he can understand technology but not relationships )

 

[SexyChele]

Well, 1 - 2 times a week seems like a lot to me - but then, I'm not in a steady relationship at the moment.

I do, however, have hypothyroid and yes, it can decrease your sex drive and make you very tired and lethargic. However, if the condition is bad enough to be having symptoms, there is replacement therapy that is used which dramatically improves the situation. Do you know if she has had any testing on her thyroid? Normally, for hypothyroid, a simple blood test will be able to determine what her range is. Then she is simply prescribed medication to bring her thyroid levels back to normal.

There are other problems with low thyroid - hair falling out, rapid weight gain, extreme difficulty losing weight, fatigue, lowered sex drive, problems with menstrual cycle. This is not a condition to just say "I have low thyroid" and let it go. And most doctors won't, either. Unless the thyroid is in the lower part of the range - but then she wouldn't really be having any symptoms.

I would talk to her about her medical condition. When I went from being hyperthyroid to hypothyroid, I was amazed at how badly I felt - about everything. When I started the hormone replacement therapy, I felt 100% better.

 

[Jedi_Outcast]

right now the doc says it is enlarged, she'll find out tomorrow. I really hope medication will make a difference. I loved it when she couldn't wait to boink me as soon as I got home.

 

[tupak187]

this may not count

Im in a long distance relationship, and we discuss sex and sexual topics all the time. but when we meet, we go at it at least once a day... on average though.. about 2-3 times a day.

i can't get enough of her..

but like i said.. we rarely see eachother..

 

[tupak187]

Jedi...

If you could.. get her in the mood at times.. but don't do it.

It will be hard on your part.. but make her want it. Maybe playing hard to get with her will straighten her out.. BECAUSE SHE KNOWS SHE CAN GET IT WHENEVER SHE WANTS.

 

[Sunny One]

Jedi,

Maybe I should be coming to you for advice instead of offering it. I’m lucky if I get sex once every two weeks. I’m usually the one asking for it from my husband and being turned down.

Back on topic, I hope your wife gets all of the medical issues resolved and that it leads you back to the sex life you were used to. I know from experience that medical problems can have a dramatic effect on a woman’s sex drive, but in my case, it was properly treated, making me want it more than ever! Good luck wishes are all I have to offer in this thread.

Sunny

 

[LusciousRedLips]

I wish I was getting some 1 - 2 times a week. Maybe in my case it's the quality not the quantity?????

I am hypothyroid. It can make you feel like crap. Medication does help a lot.

The doc will most likely do a TSH (thryoid sensing hormone) test, among other. I suggest she get a copy of the lab report. On the report will be her results, plus a scale of what is considered "normal." Ex. normal will fall between .5 to 5.0 (this varies per lab). If she is hypo, she will be above 5; hyper below .5.

About.com has a great site on thyroid problems.

 

[Jedi_Outcast]

It is really starting to sound more medical than anything else. the doc also wants to have her start taking a pill to deal with PMS issues. I'm willing to give it some time. Like I said earlier, leaving somebody because of a medical condition just isn't fair to them.

 

[MidnightShadow]

1 to 2.....

ouch...i'm sorry........