Objectification

[sterculius]

I recall hearing women say they resent being looked upon and treated as "sex objects", and that those voluptuously "zaftig" women, valued solely on the basis of their arousal power are nothing but pawns of the patriarchy. But I'm writing to champion and promote the legitimacy and the rewards of objectification. All through our lives we serve in various capacities of utility to others, none of which are considered demeaning, so why should being seen as a sex object and to be utilized as a tool to facilitate someone's erotic arousal and orgasmic release be any different? I'm a Cocksucker. I like being a cocksucker. I like the way that being a cocksucker makes me feel and I'm proud of my abilities, acquired as the result of years of diligent practice in giving men blowjobs. It thrills me to know that men want to use my mouth and my throat as a warm, wet and tight tube to fuck and as a convenient receptacle into which they may deposit the product of their orgasm without being bothered by any concern for either my feelings or for my welfare. There's a sense of freedom in knowing others are only interested in how you can be of use to them and are unconcerned with how it affects you. You become the anonymous "it". I'm simultaneously an integral part of the process but I'm also the proverbial "fly on the wall", a disembodied, dispassionate observer calmly watching myself being savagely throat fucked! I love the way that being a Cocksucker makes me feel. Do others here on Lit share my perspective, or am I severely, mentally flawed?

 

[subkitty643]

I think that behind closed doors there are many who share your views, including myself. Objectification by my sexual partner is a huge turn on!! However, when I am going about my business in the workplace, running errands, etc. I expect to be treated with respect by all those who are not my sexual partner. There is a big difference and as a blanket statement when women talk about not bc wanting to be objectified, I interpret that to mean by society as a whole.

 

[HisArpy]

Part of the problem is one of self worth. Those who have issues with self worth have little to base their belief in others upon and thereby project themselves upon others. "I reject to being viewed as an object, therefore ALL like me should reject it." It's a flaw in reasoning. Self is not all.

Another part is social training. People are stuck between 2 competing images.

On the one hand, most people don't want to be valued for only 1 purpose. They know they are contributors to society, home, and family more than just spreading their legs or opening their mouths.

On the other hand, women are told they should wear certain clothing styles, wear makeup, and act in certain ways. Men are told that if they don't wear a suit or have an ivy league degree or make 6 figure salaries they aren't respected. If they don't do these things they're shunned or stigmatized by their peers. Yet doing these things reduces each of us to nothing more than what is visual on the surface.

Thus, conflict in social conditioning and expectation vs self worth.

Objectification also occurs whenever one from each side desires their opposite. In order to attract, one must objectify oneself to be appealing to the target audience. It is when the attraction succeeds that we begin to have problems because the target expects behaviors based upon the attractants appearance or mannerisms.

The answer is simple, if you don't want to be viewed as an object, then don't dress or act like one. However, if this is the plan; then also realize that not everyone else believes as you do, and society as a whole isn't going to let you shit in their sandbox and then blame them for it.

 

[cookiecat]

There's way too much thought going in to this.

Sometimes it's just really nifty to be a hole. A footstool. A squealing little piggy. A hucow. A doormat. A cocksucker.

And that's all there is to it.

 

[SissySalina]

What is Objectification

I recall hearing women say they resent being looked upon and treated as "sex objects", and that those voluptuously "zaftig" women, valued solely on the basis of their arousal power are nothing but pawns of the patriarchy. But I'm writing to champion and promote the legitimacy and the rewards of objectification. All through our lives we serve in various capacities of utility to others, none of which are considered demeaning, so why should being seen as a sex object and to be utilized as a tool to facilitate someone's erotic arousal and orgasmic release be any different? I'm a Cocksucker. I like being a cocksucker. I like the way that being a cocksucker makes me feel and I'm proud of my abilities, acquired as the result of years of diligent practice in giving men blowjobs. It thrills me to know that men want to use my mouth and my throat as a warm, wet and tight tube to fuck and as a convenient receptacle into which they may deposit the product of their orgasm without being bothered by any concern for either my feelings or for my welfare. There's a sense of freedom in knowing others are only interested in how you can be of use to them and are unconcerned with how it affects you. You become the anonymous "it". I'm simultaneously an integral part of the process but I'm also the proverbial "fly on the wall", a disembodied, dispassionate observer calmly watching myself being savagely throat fucked! I love the way that being a Cocksucker makes me feel. Do others here on Lit share my perspective, or am I severely, mentally flawed?

sissy to be Her object, sissy tries sissy's best to be Her object, is this objectification?
sissy loves Her and if sissy can serve Her as Her object then that's the only thing that matters. Understand that sissy is a sissy and not a slave but, sissy will do anything She wishes sissy to do, this is sissy purpose and the only purpose of sissy.
sissy cares not what anyone thinks except for Her.
She allows sissy to totally be sissy if for this She only sees sissy as an object then so be it, but sissy knows She sissy and looks after sissy.

 

[yukonnights]

I recall hearing women say they resent being looked upon and treated as "sex objects", and that those voluptuously "zaftig" women, valued solely on the basis of their arousal power are nothing but pawns of the patriarchy. But I'm writing to champion and promote the legitimacy and the rewards of objectification. All through our lives we serve in various capacities of utility to others, none of which are considered demeaning, so why should being seen as a sex object and to be utilized as a tool to facilitate someone's erotic arousal and orgasmic release be any different? I'm a Cocksucker. I like being a cocksucker. I like the way that being a cocksucker makes me feel and I'm proud of my abilities, acquired as the result of years of diligent practice in giving men blowjobs. It thrills me to know that men want to use my mouth and my throat as a warm, wet and tight tube to fuck and as a convenient receptacle into which they may deposit the product of their orgasm without being bothered by any concern for either my feelings or for my welfare. There's a sense of freedom in knowing others are only interested in how you can be of use to them and are unconcerned with how it affects you. You become the anonymous "it". I'm simultaneously an integral part of the process but I'm also the proverbial "fly on the wall", a disembodied, dispassionate observer calmly watching myself being savagely throat fucked! I love the way that being a Cocksucker makes me feel. Do others here on Lit share my perspective, or am I severely, mentally flawed?

I don't think you're mentally flawed. I think it is eroticized humiliation that drives this desire. In fact, there seems to be a lot of people into this type of play. Personally I do not see any harm it...but the potential for harm is there. In my view it is imperative that the one doing the "objectification" be wise enough to judge if/when the play is going to far. In a sense, it's just like any other Dom/sub interaction where the mind needs to be the primary organ in charge of the play.

 

[tristantrotsky]

Cock-Sucking As Zen

I recall hearing women say they resent being looked upon and treated as "sex objects", and that those voluptuously "zaftig" women, valued solely on the basis of their arousal power are nothing but pawns of the patriarchy. But I'm writing to champion and promote the legitimacy and the rewards of objectification. All through our lives we serve in various capacities of utility to others, none of which are considered demeaning, so why should being seen as a sex object and to be utilized as a tool to facilitate someone's erotic arousal and orgasmic release be any different? I'm a Cocksucker. I like being a cocksucker. I like the way that being a cocksucker makes me feel and I'm proud of my abilities, acquired as the result of years of diligent practice in giving men blowjobs. It thrills me to know that men want to use my mouth and my throat as a warm, wet and tight tube to fuck and as a convenient receptacle into which they may deposit the product of their orgasm without being bothered by any concern for either my feelings or for my welfare. There's a sense of freedom in knowing others are only interested in how you can be of use to them and are unconcerned with how it affects you. You become the anonymous "it". I'm simultaneously an integral part of the process but I'm also the proverbial "fly on the wall", a disembodied, dispassionate observer calmly watching myself being savagely throat fucked! I love the way that being a Cocksucker makes me feel. Do others here on Lit share my perspective, or am I severely, mentally flawed?

It is reality. There's nothing more real than a hard erection pulsing its load into the back of your throat. But it's also fantasy. Surrendering yourself as an 'object' is also releasing rational control and escaping from all your ego and self-conscious hang-ups. As a cock-sucker your role, status and position are clearly defined. You are being used. You are there to be used. Being used is what it is all about. So you suck that cock which is, for that moment, the only important thing that exists in the entire universe...

 

[yukonnights]

It is reality. There's nothing more real than a hard erection pulsing its load into the back of your throat. But it's also fantasy. Surrendering yourself as an 'object' is also releasing rational control and escaping from all your ego and self-conscious hang-ups. As a cock-sucker your role, status and position are clearly defined. You are being used. You are there to be used. Being used is what it is all about. So you suck that cock which is, for that moment, the only important thing that exists in the entire universe...

I tend to agree with this ^^^ However, I also think it is important to be able to understand the potential for such "abandonment" to effect emotional changes that may or may not be in a healthy direction. Primarily, the "after guilt" from the "abandonment" of one's baseline self image. In short, in some cases our lusts overtake our self-control and push us to do things we later regret...resulting in the potential of emotional turmoil. And despite promising ourselves to never do such and such again, we do it again. In fact, sexual addictions are a real thing so it is just good to be aware of that.

Obviously, this risk will vary with different people. Those less secure in their sexuality and it's various twists and kinks being most at risk. But it seems to me that 'Objectification' is one of the more emotionally extreme flavors of kink since it's sole focus is the obliteration of the person's worth as a complete human.

Too often, porn portrays this type of stuff, but rarely images the tender aftercare that I believe is needed. This 'Objectification' should rightly be played out as a scene or bedroom game, much like any more traditional BDSM. For my tastes, I wouldn't want to do it without some tenderness afterward (regardless which role I played).

 

[Farawyn]

There's way too much thought going in to this.

Sometimes it's just really nifty to be a hole. A footstool. A squealing little piggy. A hucow. A doormat. A cocksucker.

And that's all there is to it.

I agree with this. I have to say, though, I agree with this NOW.
When I was shattered and broken, I fought super hard to be viewed as Me, as a whole person. I couldn't bear to be objectified until I started believing in myself again.
I couldn't be broken down into parts if I wasn't confident that it was temporary ONLY and that I would be put together again.

 

[tristantrotsky]

To Farawyn In Empathy & Support

I agree with this. I have to say, though, I agree with this NOW.
When I was shattered and broken, I fought super hard to be viewed as Me, as a whole person. I couldn't bear to be objectified until I started believing in myself again.
I couldn't be broken down into parts if I wasn't confident that it was temporary ONLY and that I would be put together again.

It's all about consent. If we are talking real-life instead of erotic fantasy, it should always be done within a framework of loving trust and consideration. Role-play can be beautiful between consenting and tender lovers, but should never be allowed to spill over into regret or self-recrimination...

 

[Lord_Johnny]

I don't think you're mentally flawed. I think it is eroticized humiliation that drives this desire. In fact, there seems to be a lot of people into this type of play. Personally I do not see any harm it...but the potential for harm is there. In my view it is imperative that the one doing the "objectification" be wise enough to judge if/when the play is going to far. In a sense, it's just like any other Dom/sub interaction where the mind needs to be the primary organ in charge of the play.

I think this sums it up pretty well.