Numbing condoms

[wickedchicken84]

My wife and I wanted to extend the legth of time our sex sesions lasted. i was lasting about 20-35 minutes after four play ended and sex began. In total it was about an hour or so. Not impressive I know, big whoop.

So i bought some condoms that had this numbing solution inside. And it worked for awhile, our sessions went to about 45 minutes to an hour after 4play. But then after awhile, It began hapenning that it would get so numb as to where i couldnt feel anything and thus would become flaccid. Also she would complain that she would feel a tingling sensation. I have since stopped using those.

Another user here had mentioned Kegel excersizes, so ill be researching those.

My question is, are there condoms that have the same effect but do not cause total loss of feeling, and that tingling she felt, what was it?

I used Trojans and Magnums that had that solution.

 

[wickedchicken84]

Correction

Ok I feel silly, Kegel excersizes are for women, to strengthen the muscles of the pelvic floor to improve urethral and sphincter functions to prevent incontinence from post birth stress and the anus by way of specific excersizes.

Which has nothing to do with my question. Sorry, i read it wrong.

 

[Eilan]

Ok I feel silly, Kegel excersizes are for women, to strengthen the muscles of the pelvic floor to improve urethral and sphincter functions to prevent incontinence from post birth stress and the anus by way of specific excersizes.

Men can do Kegels, too.

Google "Kegels for men"

 

[littlebitshe]

Ok I feel silly, Kegel excersizes are for women, to strengthen the muscles of the pelvic floor to improve urethral and sphincter functions to prevent incontinence from post birth stress and the anus by way of specific excersizes.

Which has nothing to do with my question. Sorry, i read it wrong.

Hahahaha! I was about to say... Wha?

There are techniques that you can do to make yourself last longer, but I personally would NEVER want to numb my pleasure!! That's one of the best things about sex! Why would you want to numb that?

You may try taking brief breaks to calm down. This works pretty well for my hubby and I.

 

[KokopelliRises]

I have had a similar experience, except from the other side. Let me just say sometimes longer is too long. Never will use them again.

 

[emap]

What she said.

Also keep in mind, average sex time, that being penetration start to finish is 10-15 minutes. You are pretty close to double that so hey your already starting ahead of most everyone else.

You know that 10-15 minutes is an old number, may be shorter or longer now.

Anyway, if you are dead set on lasting longer, well there is one thing you can do that does not require exercise. Well it does require sexual exercise but well who calls that exercise?

Vary. No seriously, concentrate on your movements, keep your butt moving in all directions, push it in from the left then the right perhaps higher up, then lower down, she will love it, you will love it and you will last longer because your not thinking about how good it feels. Also, change your speed during. My guy does that, he starts off slow speeds up slows down speeds up loses rythm totally for a short period then gets it back. Trust me on this, it is totally amazing when the hunky guy on you does that, feels so very different from one minute to the next. I can close my eyes and almost get the feeling I am being gangbanged.

According to him, the key to lasting is not think about it, think about anything else besides the feel of that pussy wrapped around your cock. Just count 1- however high you can count to before your shooting. Think about your car and what you need to do too the car, when it was last washed when you vacuumed the insides last so on so forth. So long as it is not about your lover, a sexy woman or sex in general you can last as long as you particularly want.

I have to say whatever he does it works, alot of times I gotta beg him to finish.

 

[wickedchicken84]

Kegels for men.

Ok so there are Kegel excersizes for men. And from what I read so far, it seems as if they would help.

http://www.askmen.com/love/love_tip_60/67_love_tip.html

Its pretty much a tightening and release of the penis muscles. basically there are muscles that are inside or near the base of the penis that if strong enough, when clenched makes the penis "jump".

If one were to stop themselves from urinating midstream a few times, thats is one way to excersize those muscles. Another is to hang a small towel over the erect penis and squeeze the muscles and try to lift the towel, reps and ascending amounts of time that it is clenched, will gradually stengthen the muscle. Which causes better longevity, sronger erections, and acording to the article "shoot the ceiling". interesting.

that was the gist of it. but they are to be repeated daily and take little effort.

As for those condoms, yeah they were to help with longevity, it takes her awhile to go, and no man wants to discontent his spouse/partner.

 

[Weird Harold]

My question is, are there condoms that have the same effect but do not cause total loss of feeling, and that tingling she felt, what was it?

I'm not sure exactly which topical anesthetic was in the condoms you used, but as far as I know all of the common locals -- lanocaine, lidocaine, benzocaine, et al -- will either eventually cause (temporary) total loss of feeling or have no effect at all, depending on whether you develop sensitivity or tolerance to them.

Constant exposure to some locals can cause permanent loss of sensation, but you'd need to look up the warnings and cautions for each specific local to figure out which one(s).


The tingling SHE felt was probably a mild exposure to the anesthetic -- the first indication that they're working is usually a mild tingling sensation before the nerves shutdown completely.

Everyone reacts to local anesthetics slightly differently, so you probably need to experiment with various "pain relief" products to find one that reduces sensation to the desired level without "bleeding through" the condom or causing total lossof sensation.

Some products that contain various amounts of topical anesthetic -- orajel teething gels, Solarcaine sunburn relief products (the sunburn gel with Aloe is a good prospect there,) Neosporin Pain Relief triple antibiotic or Lidocaine Spray.

Google is your friend, and can find you a wealth of information about "topical anesthetics"

 

[Ateam311]

I do not know of any condoms that would help you and having tried the ones in the black box offered by Trojan, I would say that your best bet is keggle exercises or endurance sessions (starting and stopping, starting and stopping, etc.). I know for me that desensitizing condoms can and do kill the mood very quickly.

My one experience with them: my GF went to the bathroom in the midst of having sex and upon her return, I realizing that I was no longer the slightest bit hard. I immediately (1) threw the condom away, (2) washed myself off, and (3) threw what was left of the box away, and (4) threw on a Twisted Pleasure condom and proceeded forward.

 

[necroerotica]

Those types of condoms are primarily for people who suffer from premature ejaculation, not really as a method for extending 'normal' sex. If that makes sense.

The whole principle behind them is exactly what you've discovered - they reduce sensitivity for the man. Of course, if the 'stuff' on them gets on the outside, then it's transferred to the woman, she loses sensitivity as well, and that's not really a good thing for anyone.

If you want to continue the condom route, try thicker ones which are made for anal sex - you'll still be able to feel, but with slightly reduced sensitivity.

 

[PertPerth]

I have had a similar experience, except from the other side. Let me just say sometimes longer is too long. Never will use them again.

Quoted for emphasis.

Personally, I get sore if we go for longer than an hour. I'm much happier if we finish sooner so then still have the energy for round two!

 

[love_269_girl]

My wife and I wanted to extend the legth of time our sex sesions lasted. i was lasting about 20-35 minutes after four play ended and sex began. In total it was about an hour or so. Not impressive I know, big whoop.

You are having intercourse for over 30 minutes on a regular basis and looking to extend this? I believe that Kinsey reported that 75% of males ejaculate within 2-5 minutes of vaginal entry. I think Master and Johnson reported 8 - 12 minutes. So you are way above the norm. In fact I would put you at porn star status. If you are looking to extend your love making sessions I would suggest focusing on foreplay techniques.

 

[mjl2010]

If you google the PC Muscle, you'll find plenty of information on learning to control ejaculation. The PC muscle is actually the pelvic floor and you'll experience other benefits of learning this practice.

Don't expect overnight results. It already sounds like you have decent control so learning more won't be that hard. It does take time to properly learn this technique though.

MJL

 

[Different Guy]

Yeah deffo above the norm you lucky git lol! I've used Durex Performa which have the numbing cream inside and can't say they really helped prolong me, I last anywhere from 10-30 mins

 

[mjl2010]

Unless you're hopelessly premature, I can't see those numbing creams and condoms helping much. It's partly psychological in my view. Why the heck would you want to kill your own pleasurable sensations?

To have sex and not feel it seems utterly nonsensical to me. My advice to anyone that has no control or pops off too soon is to learn control. being able to go more than five minutes is not premature, which is what those creams and condoms are for.

MJL

 

[CurlyWurly]

I have to say you're way above average too.

One of the suggestions (thinking of things other than the "job at hand") doesn't sound good to me. As a woman I'd like to think he was concentrating on me! I'd much rather it only last 5-10 intense minutes than 30 or more half-assed minutes.

Anyway, beyond an hour I get sore anyhow.

 

[sirensiren]

I was always interested as to how much a condom in itself numbs the sensation. We've all heard the old "nah I don't want to wear a condom cause it doesn't feel as good" Is that really true? Is there a huge difference with and without one?

 

[mjl2010]

I was always interested as to how much a condom in itself numbs the sensation. We've all heard the old "nah I don't want to wear a condom cause it doesn't feel as good" Is that really true? Is there a huge difference with and without one?

I'm probably not the best person to answer this since it's been a very long time since I had to use them. But I do remember I hated them. It was like night and day. I didn't just use the cheapo trojans either. I wouldn't call it numbing, I'd just call it a loss of sensation. I've heard advice to use a little lube inside, I'd worry that would help it slip off when you least expect it.

Now, the difference between using a condom or not having sex is a different story...

MJL

 

[sirensiren]

interesting...
so maybe a quick handjob before sex with a condom compensates a bit?
I do feel sorry for men sometimes for having to wear one, but on the other hand I feel more sorry for what women have to go through

 

[rosco rathbone]

If you are lasting that long, you aren't a preemie.

 

[Mansa Musa]

My wife and I wanted to extend the legth of time our sex sesions lasted. i was lasting about 20-35 minutes after four play ended and sex began. In total it was about an hour or so. Not impressive I know, big whoop.

So i bought some condoms that had this numbing solution inside. And it worked for awhile, our sessions went to about 45 minutes to an hour after 4play. But then after awhile, It began hapenning that it would get so numb as to where i couldnt feel anything and thus would become flaccid. Also she would complain that she would feel a tingling sensation. I have since stopped using those.

Another user here had mentioned Kegel excersizes, so ill be researching those.

My question is, are there condoms that have the same effect but do not cause total loss of feeling, and that tingling she felt, what was it?

I used Trojans and Magnums that had that solution.

I bolded the important part. You can last for 35 minutes of post-foreplay sex!?? On my best day, I´m done after 15 minutes. And, BTW, if you´re doing it right, foreplay is just as orgasmically satisfying as sex. If your woman isn´t dripping like a broken faucet when the foreplay part of your encounters is finished, you aren´t doing it right. And, as far as I can tell by your post, you´re trying to last as long as possible in an effort to fuck your woman to orgasm. Don´t play that game. Make her twitch and shudder with your fingers and tongue, then start fucking her. If you prime the pump, you´ll get much better results.

 

[Guest]

I have had a similar experience, except from the other side. Let me just say sometimes longer is too long. Never will use them again.

amen.

besides, i read more than one serious article questioning the safety of local anaesthetic...

M

 

[wickedchicken84]

ok, I appreciate what you all have been saying, truth be told, that time is an average, some days its less, some days its more. Generally, I try thinking of something else during intercourse and we stop sometimes for a bit. I wasn't kidding when I said she does take awhile to orgasm.

Someone above wrote about "fucking her to orgasm", yes that is the concept but we never really do the whole fingers or tounge for too long, she always prefers me instead.

I've started those Kegel's for men, everytime now. It read that it would take a few weeks to notice results. so we'll see.

I too had some concerns about topical anesthetics, so I did google a few wierd harold listed. To stay a little, overuse can cause permanent loss of feeling. (no thanks) As for pre-mature ejaculation, no that isn't an issue, it's that, generally, I go before her, and have to keep going until she goes. If i takes too long, well you get the picture.

So, Kegel's and stopping every once in awhile. Cheers.

 

[Ateam311]

It's partly psychological in my view. Why the heck would you want to kill your own pleasurable sensations?

I agree and definitely agree there. Although thinking about random things during sex doesn't really help me hold back, I have found that the mood I'm in (I guess my attitude toward sex at that time and what I really want out of it) is a big factor in how long I can go. Sometimes - and I'm sure others can relate - you just get so worked up that you honestly can't hold out too awfully long unless you change it up physically. That is, stop / slow down / change positions.

And yeah, numbness is absolutely no fun. Seeing as though the lady really gets off from the expressions on my face, the sounds I make and my breathing, it would be crazy for me to ever try going with the ole black Trojan box ever again.

 

[SweetErika]

The concept of using a numbing product during sex is asinine, IMO. Even for premature ejaculation, what's the likelihood that none of the treatments/techniques short of anesthesia work and the guy can't satisfy his partner in other ways to the point that how long he lasts isn't really an issue?

10-15 minutes of thrusting is about my limit, provided there's plenty of lube, I'm relaxed and there's enough variety to hold my attention. Of course I won't reject a partner who has trouble coming due to medication or whatever, but in all honesty, I'd both wonder what was going on with someone who lasted 20+ minutes and likely take it personally if they didn't have a medical condition that made it difficult to come.

I know there are women who like long-term thrusting, but from the polls done here, they seem pretty few and far between.

Has your wife orgasmed from activities other than sex, Wicked? Did she advocate you trying to last longer than 20-35 minutes? On a purely physical level, does she prefer sex over all of the other pleasureable activities available?

I was always interested as to how much a condom in itself numbs the sensation. We've all heard the old "nah I don't want to wear a condom cause it doesn't feel as good" Is that really true? Is there a huge difference with and without one?

We've always used condoms, and while Hubby definitely prefers condomless sex, he says the condoms aren't THAT bad, and they really don't dull the sensation enough to make him last much longer.

And a little bit of lube in the tip really does increase sensation, according to him. MJL, even though we use super-slick silicone lube, we've NEVER had a condom slip off...that's in 9 years of heavy use. We've never had one break, either, for that matter, which goes to show condoms are pretty damn effective when used properly.

Of course there's more sensation w/o a barrier, but this seems to be an issue of mind over matter in most cases. If the guy is really enthusiastic about sex and pregnancy/STD protection, and he uses a condom that fits properly, he's likely to enjoy the sensation he does get, rather than focus on the difference between bareback and protected sex. The same goes for the receiver - sex definitely feels better to me w/o a condom, but I focus on the positive feelings and find ways to enjoy myself whether we use a condom, or not.