November is National Adoption Month; thoughts?

[Aliyahlovinsex]

I just wanted to put this out here because I'm adopted and it's something near and dear to my little heart I wish I was older because there are three little boys on the waiting children website that I would adopt in a heartbeat if I could.

Anyone in the AH have an adoption in their family, any stories they want to share?

Share the love everyone, there's thousands of children waiting for families, and they're all so ADORABLE!


Ali

 

[Guest]

wish i were a child person because i would love to foster but i dont have what it takes, i dont think.
a friend of mine is in the process of adopting but has had to do so from russia. i dont understand why but that is because of simple ignorance.
i am a huge proponent of adoption and wish there were more people out there willing to do so...or that the channels to do so werent so expensive and prohibitive.

 

[Aliyahlovinsex]

wish i were a child person because i would love to foster but i dont have what it takes, i dont think.
a friend of mine is in the process of adopting but has had to do so from russia. i dont understand why but that is because of simple ignorance.
i am a huge proponent of adoption and wish there were more people out there willing to do so...or that the channels to do so werent so expensive and prohibitive.

exactly...25k for some countries. But there are alot of organizations that give financial assitance for those who need it. Did your friend not want to adopt from Russia?

 

[Guest]

exactly...25k for some countries. But there are alot of organizations that give financial assitance for those who need it. Did your friend not want to adopt from Russia?

i believe that it was too costly? and the wait list was astounding. i think also that because the mother has the right to say..."no, i have changed my mind." and take the baby back, might have had something to do with it.
in my opinion, it would have been easier to adopt a child who was older but because she can not have kids, she wanted a baby. maybe next time, shell adopt an older child.

 

[Aliyahlovinsex]

if she visits my waiting children link..there are a lot of infants who have their abandonment papers already and are free to be adopted as soon as someone comes for them. And you're right...the wait for infants can be up to two years whereas for older children it can be 2-6 months.

I think it's sad really, all those kids and no homes to go to

 

[Guest]

if she visits my waiting children link..there are a lot of infants who have their abandonment papers already and are free to be adopted as soon as someone comes for them. And you're right...the wait for infants can be up to two years whereas for older children it can be 2-6 months.

I think it's sad really, all those kids and no homes to go to

agreed. i wish i had what it takes to open my home to another child but i just dont. however, maybe when the youngest leaves home, we'll foster...something that would be pretty cool too.

 

[simply_cyn]

I'm adopted as well as the oldest of my younger three brothers. My parents didn't think they could have children as they had been trying and then after adopting my brother (3 years after adopting me), they found out my mother was pregnant. So I have 2 brothers that are 8 months apart. Everyone thought they were twins ...

So you can imagine my whole outlook on adoption and what it entails. I'm not a loud-mouth, in your face anit-abortion freak that circles abortion centers and terrorizing those that choose abortion .... in the same breath, I know of people that are praying for kids they can never have and there are thousands of innocent babies dying every day ...

That said ... ME ... ADOPTED ... GOOD!

 

[entitled]

i've already decided that, if i'm able, i will be either adoping or fostering. Period. It doesn't matter who they are, what color they are, or where they're from. If a child needs a home they should never be without one.

 

[LadyJeanne]

So you can imagine my whole outlook on adoption and what it entails. I'm not a loud-mouth, in your face anit-abortion freak that circles abortion centers and terrorizing those that choose abortion .... in the same breath, I know of people that are praying for kids they can never have and there are thousands of innocent babies dying every day ...

That said ... ME ... ADOPTED ... GOOD!

Well, there are also thousands of children who need homes and aren't being adopted, like the ones on the site linked. It's not the women's clinics that perform abortions that cause the problem of too many kids and not enough homes; it's that too many people aren't using birth control and are having babies they can't take care of, and people aren't adopting them. If the clinics didn't exist, there would be even more children on the 'no one wants to adopt us' list.

 

[Aliyahlovinsex]

Well, there are also thousands of children who need homes and aren't being adopted, like the ones on the site linked. It's not the women's clinics that perform abortions that cause the problem of too many kids and not enough homes; it's that too many people aren't using birth control and are having babies they can't take care of, and people aren't adopting them. If the clinics didn't exist, there would be even more children on the 'no one wants to adopt us' list.

I was brought up to believe that abortion is a sin against God and it's murder. I honestly would never be able to live with myself if I got an abortion, but I guess it's a personal choice for everyone. I have a daughter who's two and I can't imagine her not being her. She's so perfect in every way and I love spending time with her.

Personally I think it would be better not to abort, and give the child up for adoption, but that's just me.

 

[Aliyahlovinsex]

i've already decided that, if i'm able, i will be either adoping or fostering. Period. It doesn't matter who they are, what color they are, or where they're from. If a child needs a home they should never be without one.

Make sure you share any news with me I'd love to hear how that works out for you.

 

[AmbientBaka]

I PM'd ALS after seeing her sig on another thread, but before I noticed this one. I hope she isn't offended.

Anyhoo...I have two daughters from China who are the light of my life, but I only get to see them on weekends (I work too far from where I live to commute). We chose China for a number of reasons, including the possibility of the mother in a domestic adoption wanting her child back. That would be too heart-wrenching for either of us to bear. As for international adoptions, China seemed to be the most above-board to us, the most scrutinized by the government and therefore least likely to have problems.

Too many unwanted children are born in this and other countries. I won't go into my pro-choice rant now.

 

[Aliyahlovinsex]

I PM'd ALS after seeing her sig on another thread, but before I noticed this one. I hope she isn't offended.

Too many unwanted children are born in this and other countries. I won't go into my pro-choice rant now.

I'm not offended I think it was nice to hear your story. It sounds like you're having fun with your girls

 

[entitled]

Make sure you share any news with me I'd love to hear how that works out for you.

Heh. i rate right up there with Trailer Trash at the moment. They're not going to give me anything... yet.

 

[Stella_Omega]

This is such a complicated issue, I don't even know where to start. Why is it that so many people want so desperately to adopt- yet there are children that are laying in bassinets and cots without a family?
I know people who were adopted. I know some who made a perfect match with their families, and some who lived a life off-kilter until they finally found out that their genetic makeup had nothing to do with the people they'd called "mom " and "dad"
I know a white woman who faced some very suspicious looks at first, when she showed up for "christmas at home"with her black adopted baby.
I know four adoptive hopefuls who had the birth mothers change their minds at the last minute- after receiving monetary support all the way through their pregnancies, one couple put a mortgage on their home to do this. Of course, you can't put a price on a baby- but that particular couple are left with the debt, and can't do it again. Not to mention the grief. She described it to me as "There's been a death in the family" and I utterly believed her.

I know several people with Chinese and Korean babies- girls, of course. To adopt a Chinese girl is very good karma, you are saving her from a life of slavery. She will be sold off at age twelve, to a family that needs a wife for their only-child boy.

Myself, I am pro choice. And I wish our society was more supportive of a woman's difficult choices- recognising that the happy way is NOT always the good way. But it would take me a month to completely state my views, and I'd rather write other things...

 

[simply_cyn]

Well, there are also thousands of children who need homes and aren't being adopted, like the ones on the site linked. It's not the women's clinics that perform abortions that cause the problem of too many kids and not enough homes; it's that too many people aren't using birth control and are having babies they can't take care of, and people aren't adopting them. If the clinics didn't exist, there would be even more children on the 'no one wants to adopt us' list.

Oh, I TOTALLY agree with that ...

In a world where we have to have a license to do just about everything else ... license to drive, license to marry, license to hunt or fish, license to buy alcohol or cigarettes ... hell, we even have to have show our license to buy allergy medicine now!

How come there isn't a license required to bear and raise children? AT least some kind of "How To" course ...

 

[AmbientBaka]

To adopt a Chinese girl is very good karma, you are saving her from a life of slavery. She will be sold off at age twelve, to a family that needs a wife for their only-child boy.

You vastly oversimplify an intractable problem promulgated by thousands of years of Confucian philosophy and compounded by nearly 30 years of Maoist doctrine. China badly needs to control its population growth, but there is no good social security system in place for an aging population. Throw in severe intolerance for unwed mothers and strict laws for domestic adoption...

 

[sophia jane]

When I was 18 and stupid, I got pregnant. Had no job, no family; very bad time for me. I decided to put the baby up for adoption and went through a private firm where I got to pick the parents, etc. They were wonderful, wonderful people.
At four months pregnant, I miscarried. We all grieved together; I know it was just as much a loss for them as it was to me.
Even though I miscarried in the end, I don't regret my decision to choose adoption. It was a very rewarding and enlightening experience for me. So, yes, I think adoption is a very, very good thing.