Not sure what I want!!!

[shazzie210]

Hi

For the last god knows how long I have had this fantasy of making love to a woman. Not sure why or where it has come from!!!

I am married with two kids, have been for the past 21 years and our sex life is great!!! However, when we got married wasn't that interested, but for the last year, I have been and now I have this fantasy of wanting to make love to a woman. Is this wrong? I am a bit shy sexually and just wondering if I should do something about it?

 

[strapon_tales]

If you are planning on having sex with a woman, you really need to discuss it with your husband. The potential for fallout of you sneaking around could be ... well, pretty bad.

If he's cool with it, though, then it's a matter of finding the right person.

 

[ThickInlove]

Hi

For the last god knows how long I have had this fantasy of making love to a woman. Not sure why or where it has come from!!!

I am married with two kids, have been for the past 21 years and our sex life is great!!! However, when we got married wasn't that interested, but for the last year, I have been and now I have this fantasy of wanting to make love to a woman. Is this wrong? I am a bit shy sexually and just wondering if I should do something about it?

I have had those feelings as well but dont have the time or energy to act on them... i think in the long run.... its better just to fantasize and masturbate like crazy! ;-)

 

[Themoodyone]

Sex with another woman is high on the list of women's top ten fantasies in America at least. (From a real study I read while doing research for a website I worked on).

I've been fantisizing about other chicks since I played "Playboy" with my best friends when I was too young to even mention. The thing is, cheating is cheating whether you are simply acting out an impulse or fulfilling your life long calling. If you intend to stay married and don't want to hurt your husband, than you have to share your desires. If he isn't cool with it than I'd take the advice to keep it in your head and find other "approved" outlets to explore.

 

[JayinCA]

Speaking as a husband--watching my wife enjoying sex with women is one of the hottest experiences of my life (and one I've been lucky enough to observe and participate in many times). You might just check with him, and find out he's totally in favor of it.

 

[WaitWhatt]

Speaking as a husband--watching my wife enjoying sex with women is one of the hottest experiences of my life (and one I've been lucky enough to observe and participate in many times). You might just check with him, and find out he's totally in favor of it.

Maybe it's just me..but at least for the first few times..I would NOT want to be watched. Major turn off. Husband or not.


OP should do something about it and discuss it. But decide if you want your husband involved because if he's like most men..that will be his first thought.

 

[sharoncraw1]

hi, i have to agree, i have been with a couple of women and my hubby doesnt know, but i really dont think i want to make it a spectator sport for him, i know im technically cheating but this is part of me and i cant change that.

 

[CurvyGirll]

I am predominately straight but enjoy bi fantasies. I slept with a woman once and I'd really like to again. I agree though, wouldn't necessarilly want to be watched by a male partner.

 

[hottalyssa]

I am predominately straight but enjoy bi fantasies. I slept with a woman once and I'd really like to again. I agree though, wouldn't necessarilly want to be watched by a male partner.

i agree with curvy and others. the first couple of times you need to explore without the pressures of a male audience

 

[hotyogal]

I find myself in a similar situation. I'm also very picky so my interest is not just in a woman...she has to be seductive and gorgeous! May just stay a fantasy...but a girl can dream!

You might try leaving contact info ...I've had 2-3 very helpful woman PM me when I first got on LIt!

 

[PurringKitten]

You should definitely inform your husband and get the all clear from him if you plan on pursuing girl-sex.

Whether you include someone else or not in your explorations will depend on a few things:
1) whether it's a condition for you to explore this without causing damage to your marriage -- some men make watching or playing a requirement
2) who you find to explore with -- they have their own comfort levels with having someone else watching let alone the fact it's someone of the opposite sex
3) your own comfort levels

Personally, I'm only into women and being asked whether it's okay we be watched or joined by their husband/boyfriend/friend/etc... makes me uncomfortable and will make me walk away from the situation no matter how hot, sexy, smart, wonderful the lady is.

 

[shazzie210]

Thanks

Hi

Just wanted to say thanks for all he advice etc. I am still not sure what to do about it though, and it might be worth talking to someone who has or is in the same situation. But not sure how to do that on here.

Anyway thanks again.

Sharonx

 

[DerbyDiva]

Hi

Just wanted to say thanks for all he advice etc. I am still not sure what to do about it though, and it might be worth talking to someone who has or is in the same situation. But not sure how to do that on here.

Anyway thanks again.

Sharonx

As a married bisexual woman, I found that (at least in my experience) the following occurs...although many husbands may react differently depending on many factors (how they view bisexuality, how secure they are in their own sexuality and they are comfrtable enough to "share" you, etc.)

1) I told my husband I was convinced that my feelings & desires of making love to another woman was indeed real, he was...to say the least, shocked, a bit dismayed and he felt his "manhood" was being attacked. Of course his "manhood" is without reproach and is a wonderful lover. However, when he told me he felt threatened I immediately understood & respected the truth of it. Afterall, what I desired is what he wasn't born with

2) Communication, communication, communication. I cannot stress this enough! Even if you are afraid to bring this subject up at the dinner table (who would be so bold to do that?!?), the sharing of fantasties should be paramount to keeping the "fire" alive. By initiating this conversation is scary but it would prove worthwhile and not to mention, highly erotic.

3) Strict guidelines need to be enforced. Seems harsh but rules are important. Not only for him,youself and of course the lucky woman who will be sharing in your sexual fulfillment, too. Do you want him there as a witness, even if he's peeping from the closet? Do you want to go solo with the promise of a highly explicit report to be given to him afterward? Does he want to help you find a woman so you may both enjoy (now, that being said...you MUST think very carefully as how will you feel as he touches, kisses and perhaps slides his cock into her pussy? Jealousy has no room in the bedroom...simple as that). Mutual consent is crucial and absolutely necessary!!

I wish you well, my dearest...never be afraid of who you are or of what you may become...it's the destiny of us all to be true to ourselves.

Much Love & Respect xoxoxoxo