Not sure what i want...

[james2346]

Hello all,

I've been having these desires lately about hooking up with another guy but haven't gotten the courage to actually go for it. I chatted on line a couple of times but when we meet up i have no desire to actually go through it. i keep trying to meet up with someone but i always chicken out. what should i do?

 

[rayydiesel]

You just need to do what you feel comfortable doing. Trust me from experience, you just need to go at the pace you want to go. Don't rush anything. I mean really a lot of factors play into that decision like what are you really looking for? what are your views on casual sex or just sex in general? are you comfortable with the person you're going to hook up with? The one thing you shouldn't do is rush it and just have sex with someone because you want to answer your curiosity. I mean when it gets to that point you should do it with someone you know and are comfortable with. I mean unless the random hook up thing is what you're going for. But the main thing is just not to rush it and to make sure you're ready. I know how it is to question your sexuality but you'll feel a lot better about yourself if you look back and know that when you took that step it was because you were truly ready.

 

[priapusone]

mmm

we could do it together some

 

[Stella_Omega]

raydiesel is right.

You might look for a decent gay bar in your city. Just go sit, nurse a beer. Do that for a while. Get into some conversations. get used ti the idea of what men are like in physical proximity, yanno what I'm saying?

 

[Chrissi]

+1 rayydiesel

+1 Stella_Omega, just to add try and find a local gay bar that is low key, where the focus isn't cruising or hooking up. It may not be a "gay bar" per se, but more of a place where gay men frequent just to get out of the house for a bit and socialize...or not.

Nothing to add, just that your experience and feelings are quite normal.

 

[SilkyDave]

when you are ready it'll happen, don;t try so hard, the desires will be satisfied when the time is right, patience

 

[CandiCame]

I honestly have no idea how to answer this- I just wanted to voice my support...

I found out that I had feelings for another guy because- there was this guy I liked, so my experience is a little different. I just want you to know that you aren't alone. There are folk here who can give you good advice though; they've really helped me through my discovery phase.

I hope that everything works out for you!