Not so smart

[MrKinkMaster]

I always thought I knew a lot about relationships. I thought after being through so many I could finally see through all the "b.s"
Is it possible for someone to tell you that they love and care for you but yet go to be with another just because they make them "feel" good? I have felt so hurt and part of me wants to hurt back a thousand fold. I can't decide between what my head tells me to do and what thats left of my crushed heart begs me to understand.

 

[mistressastra]

A few years ago, it was my birthday, and my Mom and brother got together and chipped in on tickets to a big musical showing in town. We had a marvelous time. What I didn't know, was at the same time, hubby was out with his doxie of the hour, screwing her in some motel. Happy Birthday to me!

PS- he blamed it on me, I wasn't "there" enough, whatever that means. He never liked me going anywhere. Guess he got me back but good. But hey, she made him feel good so what the fuck, right?

 

[mistressastra]

Anyone who says they care but have no qulams about hurting you, seems they don't care at all. They only come up with excuses. Do what's best for you!

 

[MrKinkMaster]

Thank you. I have felt that myself but have kept being told that I just don't "understand". I feel I have understood all to well. Maybe its time to stop being a floor mat and let someone else feel what its like to be stepped on and hurt.

 

[APhil]

Fight fire with fire.

When I found out that my GF was screwing one of my friends, I got both of them back by screwing his GF.

 

[MrKinkMaster]

Part of me tells me I love her so much and just want her happy. The other part of me tells me to make her hurt and hurt where I know that I will make her suffer more than any other can possibly do to her.

 

[mistressastra]

No regrets

Trying to get back at someone only ends of causing more pain and generally speaking, the other person doesn't feel the pain you expected them to, especially if they don't love you anymore.

The best thing to do is let it and her go. Find happiness for yourself. With someone else! Why keep giving her the power to hurt you? Take that power away from her now by walking and not looking back.

 

[sch00lteacher]

Listen to mistressastra, excellent post.

You need to walk away. Today. This person will never change. They will continue to hurt you and use you when there is no one else to play with.

Chalk it up to an experience you have had. A lesson you have learned. That is what life is all about anyhow.

The pain you feel leaving will be less that the pain you will have if you stay. I stayed, too long. I was hurt, very badly. One day I wised up and walked. Thank God I did, I met my wife.