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Not one of my usual posts..this is what i really want.

Nicely written. Some times you just need to get it out of your head, and if it flows, it's often written well.
I can relate so much to your disappointments with guys met online. It feels like you have been cheated out of something when the conversation is suddenly always about sex, after taking some time to get to know someone.

I hope you find what you are looking for. :)
Good luck.
 
Glad to know I'm not the only one feeling this way. Feeling cheated is a good way to put it.

Thanks for the Maiden and I wish you luck with what you seek here as well :)
 
I am a straight woman, but I just wanted to say I enjoyed your post. It is nice to see people with their wants and desires so well established in collected thoughts :).
 
I know what you mean. I used to only talk to guys when I wanted to cyber, hardly ever talking to the same one twice, and then I started chatting with one who actually remembered what I said, asked me about my day, and was okay discussing things other than sex--sometimes for days or a week or two at a time.

Unfortunately, he has rather spoiled me for other men, at the moment. *laughs* I'm not sure that I could go back to the way that I was, or that I even care to do so.
 
TxBookGirl you are so right. Definitely lots of game playing that is very much unwanted. I'm glad you've found something you're happy with and can only hope I can find the same thing. Thank you for the luck and support :)

Vampwrrr I know how you feel about being spoiled. I'm afraid that's happened to me and caused me to have my standards a bit higher, though I think it's a good thing. Don't want to settle these days, could end up badly :p
 
I don't mind clusterfucks of thought. If you want to talk hit me up. I am always willing to listen.
 
I applaud your honesty and the courage to share what you really desire with the board.

I am disqualified for a number of criteria, but I hope that you find what you seek.

Good luck.
 
I actually feel kind of bad that the majority of responses you've gotten on here are from girls saying they agree with you. I hope you have gotten some solid responses in your PM's.

I can't answer this as I am currently in a relationship and wouldn't be able to devote the necessary time to getting to know you and wouldn't be able to text or talk without it being overly sneaky.

I just wanted to tell you though that even as a guy, I understand where you are coming from. Believe it or not, many girls on here are similar to the guys you describe. Willing to get to know you at first but then after awhile it becomes all about sex every time you talk. As a guy, that actually bothers me because sometimes I enjoy just talking about my day and things that are bothering me and not talking about sex.

I may be in the minority as a male, but it does get under my skin every once in awhile. Anyway, I certainly hope you are able to find the right person!
 
Age-related?

I am also disqualified by your restrictions as I'm 62 and married. Please let me say, though, that you are swimming against the testosterone current when you are looking for a younger man who will not eventually bring any conversational thread back to sex. I can still remember that age and the idea of having a conversation with a cute girl was to move the relationship toward more intimate levels. Maybe I was just a horn-dog but, it's only as I've gotten more mature that I have come to enjoy a more platonic interaction with a woman. You may want to consider allowing older men in. We can be surprisingly sensitive.
 
Hon, what you're looking for is called a relationship. And to be honest, you probably will not find it here. This site is sort of a cesspool.
 
Theres an article in The Atlantic About how the current hook up culture is leading to dissatisfaction for some women..


On the 1 hand the freedom that women enjoy now to be able to be less judged them they might have been in the past for enjoying that sense of being alive and experiencing new people sexually.

On the other (ive found it to be true myself) without the connection added by a genuine level of intimacy the sex itself tends to be a little hollow and leave one not quite satisfied. An Orgasm in and of itself in isolation just doesn't seem to be enough.

I'll see if I can link the article using my smartphone here.

http://m.theatlantic.com/sexes/archive/2012/11/a-plan-to-reboot-dating/264184/

If that doesn't work try this:

http://theatlantic.com/sexes/archive/2012/11/a-plan-to-reboot-dating/264184/
 
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I am a guy who for many reasons knows what you mean...I have a few women that I talk with listen to and watch to get off

however I have always tried to get to know them as people first and continue to get to know them after

I have always been someone who seeks relationships more then just sex so it makes sense to me to get to know the person or people and I find it enhances the over all experience

lonelycollegegirl if you feel like you want to get to know me or you just want to chat about anything send me a PM

I look forward to hearing from you...have a great day
 
As someone who's been there and left Literotica only to return for better or worse, I think this post is better on one of your American sites like "ok cupid" or something (please correct me if my indicative example is way off target).

Having said that, I have been in contact with some splendid women that seem to vibe well with me both conversationally as well as from a sexual standpoint and I am grateful for that.

I realize that you're submissive, but I am not a dominant male. I tend to be rather turned on by assertive (but not dominant) women and therefore, I think I might make for a good conversation partner because I'll not be among those guys that are insistent on getting off as a direct resultant of our conversation. Would you like to give me a try?
 
PopeStar said:
As someone who's been there and left Literotica only to return for better or worse, I think this post is better on one of your American sites like "ok cupid" or something (please correct me if my indicative example is way off target).

Having said that, I have been in contact with some splendid women that seem to vibe well with me both conversationally as well as from a sexual standpoint and I am grateful for that.

I realize that you're submissive, but I am not a dominant male. I tend to be rather turned on by assertive (but not dominant) women and therefore, I think I might make for a good conversation partner because I'll not be among those guys that are insistent on getting off as a direct resultant of our conversation. Would you like to give me a try?
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Minor treadjack...

I've lived all over the United States but not out of this country. I've developed an ear for dialects and regional affectations. More so of course when I can actually hear an accent in person.

Something in your phrasing that I can't quite put my finger on...(you've r no errors that I can see).... leads me to believe that even if it didn't say Denmark next your name I would have discerned that you are not a native (at least not American English) English speaker.

I realize that this is coming out a bit as a left handed compliment because I don't mean to imply that there's anything at all wrong with your phrasing. It comes across to me as being formally correct without being at all stilted.

You sir have a deft touch with language.

Sadly and stereotypically American I am monoliinguistic. I have odd holes in my otherwise reasonably complete public school primary education. Having moved a lot - (for some reason or another different regions teach geography and world history in different grades.) -I managed to dodge both. So what I know of either has been filled in rather hap-hazardly by my voracious reading habits.

Consequently I know very little about Denmark or its people. Much less its primary and tertiary languages. My understanding is that most of Europe uses English as a medium in business. When I flipped over to your profile and saw that you were in advertising that made me wonder about language and advertising in European markets.

On second thought this was a major thread Jack! One of the hazards of browsing and posting while I'm not on my adderall.

Anyway... sorry.... carry on!
 
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TxBookGirl said:
Lonely College Girl, I really think you should take Avid Reader's advice. My FWB is 10 years my senior, and I can really tell the difference in maturity from the men in my life that are my age. You seem very grounded. You may do very well with an older man. Once again, good luck. (If you don't mind sharing, perhaps you could tell use how the search is going?)
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I totally agree with avidreader, which is why I tried not to make the age restriction to low. I'm only 20, so for me going into the 30 range is big. I've tried talking to men older before, and for me it's just strange to be chatting (sexually) with someone who is as old as my father. That's just my feelings, not that there is anything wrong with chatting with older men at all.

I've gotten some really great replies from people, and hopefully it will continue. I love just being able to chat with new people, regardless if they're "the one" I'm searching for in this post. I did want to thank everyone for the positive comments and the support in this. It's definitely a hard thing to do, but I know it can be done.

For clarification .. I wouldn't say I'm looking for a 'relationship.' I'm not looking for someone to commit to me or call me their girlfriend or anything like that. Just because I want something more than casual phone sex and cyber doesn't mean I'm looking for a relationship. Though I wouldn't be opposed to the possibilities.

And lastly, I guess I wasn't clear enough in my post ... please please please do not respond to this with one liners about how hard you can make me cum .. it's truly irrelevant to this thread.

Thank you. And thanks again for all of the great feedback! I never would have thought you listers would be so kind :)
 
Also..

I'm working on answering everyone's PMs so please be patient :) I promise I'm not ignoring you!
 
I missed

My comments were based on the assumption there were times when you wanted to talk about stuff other than sex. Those were the conversations I was suggesting you might more successfully have with an older guy. A thirty-five year old talking to a 20 year old may still have playing on his mind. It is BECAUSE you could be my granddaughter that I was trying to say non-sexual conversations might work better with someone not still on the prowl.
 
avidreader9445 said:
My comments were based on the assumption there were times when you wanted to talk about stuff other than sex. Those were the conversations I was suggesting you might more successfully have with an older guy. A thirty-five year old talking to a 20 year old may still have playing on his mind. It is BECAUSE you could be my granddaughter that I was trying to say non-sexual conversations might work better with someone not still on the prowl.
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Ohh okay I gotcha. I sort of misunderstood. As for what you're saying, I'm always up for a chat with anyone regardless of their age :) Just for this post specifically I want a mix of both, which I can't have with that much of an older guy. Not you specifically, just in general lol. But I'm always up for a chat :) thank you for the advice and clearing up what you meant :)
 
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