After reading sheath's post in the "approaching a friend for sex" thread I started thinking about the importance of the nonverbal aspects of communicating between men and women. Sadly I believe, hell I know; that this is something that I'm not very good at. Maybe I'm mildly autistic or something, because this is something that has always caused me problems. I've read some books on this before and have tried working to improve both my projection and reception of body language and nonverbal clues. But I still suck at it. Help?
Nonverbal Clues
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midwestyankee
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janissary said:
Body language is learned much like any other language: through experience. It might help to enlist a friend to tutor you, preferably a friend of the same gender you hope to be able to read better.
Good luck.
CelticFrog
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Do you have a friend who is brutally honest with you, no matter what? Who will tell you that you're wearing polka dots with plaid? I have no idea where that sentence came from. Point is, do you have someone who is totally open and communicative verbally with you? Then that someone can help you discern at the very least what sort of nonverbal communication YOU are projecting. That's a good start.
Sheath can shed great light on this too...
ohhhhhhhh Sheeeeeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaath!!!
Ang
Sheath can shed great light on this too...
ohhhhhhhh Sheeeeeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaath!!!
Ang
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other than the basics like if they are sitting in a protective manner, like arms and legs crossed over there body, spend an entire concert pressed up against me, look open and relaxed or lean so close to my face I could lick them I can be pretty bad about body language in my personal life. I often don't realize men are interested until they try and kiss me.
These things are also culture. I prefer people to tell me what they want.
I don't think this has anything to do with mild autism or in my case sensitory overload
If I want to make a move on someone I ask, can I touch you, hug you whatever or I say I just want to hug you and usually if that is what they want they either do it or look amused and say good ahead.
In my public life I am very good at reading other people especially during negotations.
I think I tend to look at everyone as people first and don't consider their sexuality until I know them and I believe that is what you are referring to, sexual body language.
I think reading eyes or smell is easier than bodies.
These things are also culture. I prefer people to tell me what they want.
I don't think this has anything to do with mild autism or in my case sensitory overload
If I want to make a move on someone I ask, can I touch you, hug you whatever or I say I just want to hug you and usually if that is what they want they either do it or look amused and say good ahead.
In my public life I am very good at reading other people especially during negotations.
I think I tend to look at everyone as people first and don't consider their sexuality until I know them and I believe that is what you are referring to, sexual body language.
I think reading eyes or smell is easier than bodies.
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I think it's all in the eyes.
A person who is attracted and interested in you looks right in your eyes and gazes at you, in general, very often. Not with a "I'm so horny I want to jump you right here right now" eye pattern, but with "Wow. You're really cool I think I could talk with you and look at your beautiful/handsome face for hours."
Think about our past crushes or the first date with someone where there was alot of chemistry. Your eyes light up, like they have their own little grin. And you never want to look away...
Eye contact is everything.
Best wishes!
Sincerely,
NaiveOne
