HARDKOREBJ
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in the pusuit of love nice guys like me finish dead last.well i guess i just have to face the facts.well i get dumped on a lot.
nice guys do finish last in pursuit of love?
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tmuyo
hitokiri battousai
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dude, i was dumped by 8gf's, i left my 9th one for my 10th and now i'm engaged to the 10th. try that one.....
nice guys do finish last but nice guys also tend to make themselves martyrs...i know, i used to be one, still am. i help people even when it puts m,e at a severe disadvantage and i always will...but i've also got to realize that i have a fiancee, and that eventually, i'm going to have a family to support, so i can't keep following this behavior.
just don't make yourself a martyr and you'll do just fine.
nice guys do finish last but nice guys also tend to make themselves martyrs...i know, i used to be one, still am. i help people even when it puts m,e at a severe disadvantage and i always will...but i've also got to realize that i have a fiancee, and that eventually, i'm going to have a family to support, so i can't keep following this behavior.
just don't make yourself a martyr and you'll do just fine.
Laurel
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No, but guys who sit around and whine 'cause they're alone do.
You have to play to win, young man!
No one's attracted to bummers. Now put a smile on your face, turn that bad attitude around, and get back in the game for crissake! If you don't succeed, try again! And again! Anything worth having is worth fighting for.
Go! Fight! Win!
Yay Team!!!
You have to play to win, young man!
No one's attracted to bummers. Now put a smile on your face, turn that bad attitude around, and get back in the game for crissake! If you don't succeed, try again! And again! Anything worth having is worth fighting for.
Go! Fight! Win!
Yay Team!!!
Savage Kitten
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Angel said:
I think people (men and women) are walked on because they allow themselves to be walked on. Stay nice, get a backbone, and get ya a girl that deserves you!
PacificBlue
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ok...I'll bite...
Could it be your approach??? All I've seen is you responding to thread after thread on the personal pages appearing somewhat desperate to have sex. How about just talking to a woman? Getting to know her? Taking things slow? I don't think you want a relationship...I think you just want easy sex.
Could it be your approach??? All I've seen is you responding to thread after thread on the personal pages appearing somewhat desperate to have sex. How about just talking to a woman? Getting to know her? Taking things slow? I don't think you want a relationship...I think you just want easy sex.
LadyDarkFire
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Ok, Nice Guys are usually, in my opinion, too much of the big brother. When a guy is a genuine friend, but will also show attraction and not act like he is responsible for me, then I am happy to get involved with him. Plus, if a guy is too good of a friend, there is the worry that it will mess up the friendship.
Angel
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Savage Kitten said:
I think people (men and women) are walked on because they allow themselves to be walked on. Stay nice, get a backbone, and get ya a girl that deserves you!
Well that was really said more for Iwah's sake.
Having been the "Nice Girl" for so long, I know how it feels. You can't change how you are shy, whatever - but you CAN Change your outlook and your attitudes. It works.
floridaguy64
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That old saying..................
That nice guys always finish last is no longer relevent in today's social environment. Men that lack a measure of intestinal fortitude tend to tread through life along those lines though.
You don't have to be pushy to have a backbone........ Kindness, being courtious, honesty and forthcomingness are not signs of weakness. Actually, the guys that you seem to think are coming out ahead of you tend to more often than not, lack some if not all of these basic human qualities.
If you are looking for a lasting relationship.............be yourself, never be pushy (the fairer sex hates pushy people, Hell........ so do I), be kind, courtious, and most of all................BE HONEST! There is someone for everyone, be patient as well............Love tends to show itself in some of the darndest ways.
BTW.................contrary to popular belief, sex is not the main ingredient to a relationship!
That nice guys always finish last is no longer relevent in today's social environment. Men that lack a measure of intestinal fortitude tend to tread through life along those lines though.
You don't have to be pushy to have a backbone........ Kindness, being courtious, honesty and forthcomingness are not signs of weakness. Actually, the guys that you seem to think are coming out ahead of you tend to more often than not, lack some if not all of these basic human qualities.
If you are looking for a lasting relationship.............be yourself, never be pushy (the fairer sex hates pushy people, Hell........ so do I), be kind, courtious, and most of all................BE HONEST! There is someone for everyone, be patient as well............Love tends to show itself in some of the darndest ways.
BTW.................contrary to popular belief, sex is not the main ingredient to a relationship!
livin_simple
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Re: That old saying..................
So true floridayguy.....so true.
Have been doing a lot of thinking along these lines myself to figure out what I really desire in a partner. Sex is a most essential ingredient, but if that appears to be her primary focus in life, then I don't think she and I would be heading down the same path in our future direction. I have so much more to offer and I want so much more from my partner
Hey HardKore, if PacificBlue is correct about where you've been investing your energy.....
Do you really want a girlfriend that is advertising for sex on the internet??
Do you really want a girlfriend who - through her words or actions - is putting herself forward for a potential one-night stand??
Do you really want a girlfriend who's focus on sex is so comprehensive she might say 'never say never' if an exciting sexual opportunity arises - even in the context of a marriage commitment??
floridaguy64 said:
So true floridayguy.....so true.
Have been doing a lot of thinking along these lines myself to figure out what I really desire in a partner. Sex is a most essential ingredient, but if that appears to be her primary focus in life, then I don't think she and I would be heading down the same path in our future direction. I have so much more to offer and I want so much more from my partner
Hey HardKore, if PacificBlue is correct about where you've been investing your energy.....
Do you really want a girlfriend that is advertising for sex on the internet??
Do you really want a girlfriend who - through her words or actions - is putting herself forward for a potential one-night stand??
Do you really want a girlfriend who's focus on sex is so comprehensive she might say 'never say never' if an exciting sexual opportunity arises - even in the context of a marriage commitment??
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It is so true nice guys do finish last. I had a good female friend tell me once "we all want a nice guy but were attracted to assholes becouse we think we can change them into nice guys after we tire of the bad boy image." So i became an asshole and had p---y overflowing the less you seem to care the more you get. now I'm not saying to become an asshole but it worked for me.
LadyDarkFire said:
This is the line I get, either before or after the, "You're such a nice/sweet guy, but..." I don't care anymore. Something will come along, till then, I can deal with being single, its been mostly what I've known for the past 5 years anyway, besides, my company isn't too bad, and its that much nicer when someone does come along for awhile.
