SheepinWolvesClothing
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So, like some people have been saying, there are definitely some issues. Now, this is going to be a bit of a convoluted post, so follow along closely.
A prime example of the sort of self important, passive aggressive, verbal diarrhea you are probably being subjected to. Which imparts the sense that, one that acts this way, isn't fit to " Dom " anything higher up on the evolutionary chain than fucking pocket lint or the drool that accumulates on their pillow while they sleep.So, like some people have been saying, there are definitely some issues. Now, this is going to be a bit of a convoluted post, so follow along closely.
" snip "
Nope.
Patronising twat.
Oh bugger off. Telling people something can be complicated isn't patronising. It's trying to let me people ahead of time.
I think his/her profile name was a clue to who this person was - or wasn't...
Before we all gather 'round to impart the wisdom, shouldn't newbies need to post at least twice in a thread?
I'm being (a little) facetious but many times, feels like we spin our collective wheels for a sheep in wolves clothing.
I get this, but the counter would be to consider the lurkers and others who may benefit from the spinning of experienced wheels.
I am so sorry to hear that things have been so rough for you as of late, particularly because you are still finding yourself and how you relate to this shift in lifestyle. In response to your coming on here and bearing yourself to a bunch of strangers, I can only be terribly frank in my reply.
This is toxic and I urge you to seriously consider moving on. I'm aware of how harsh it sounds, but I will back it up by pointing some things out.
" I have attempted on multiple occasions to speak with my Master about this, but he does not wish to talk about it(i.e. he says that I am being too emotional(which may be true; I have some emotional/anxiety problems that make things seem worse than they are) and dismisses the subject, or he gets upset."
This is a clear indication of a severe communication breakdown that needs to be recognized and discussed by both of you before any attempt at resolution can even begin to occur. The fact that you say you have anxiety issues, yet he brushes these aside in favor of laying blame solely at your door, is disturbing. Regardless of what labels are placed on a relationship, it's still something that is built upon mutual trust and understanding, neither of which I am seeing here.
" Due mostly to my own failures to obey some cases, follow through on some promises, be honest, or not provide my Master with desirable results, he has told me that he cannot trust me, does not love me, and has grown tired of me. He has made it clear that I will be replaced if I do not change(he has a vision or goal of wanting a 'harem' of females for himself, which I had been included in at one point, but that has changed due to my incompetence), and, while I do enjoy being verbally put-down in sexual situations, he does it almost daily outside of sessions, which is not arousing at all and very hurtful as I am ridiculously sensitive to his criticism. Despite telling him about it and how I feel, he only says it will continue until I change, which I am trying hard to do so I may win his trust and love back."
This is not dominance, this is mental/emotional abuse and manipulation. Understand, there is a world of difference between " breaking " someone and psychologically crushing them so they fit into whatever Machiavellian, narcissistic, delusional little world they have constructed in their head. The fact that he is aware of not only the strong feelings you hold for him, but also your self admitted issues with emotions, yet chooses to continue doing this crosses the line. Period.
" No matter how I try, though, I end up slipping up by saying something disrespectful or not following through on an order, which causes him to grow furious very quickly, which has been terrifying since I cannot handle conflict well due to the anxiety. The conversation or session(which we have through text roleplay or video chat) ends up eventually with me bowing to him(which I love doing usually, but it feels... different in these situations) or him "sending me away"/ refusing to speak to me.
But my Master is not always like this. I have known him to be considerate, gentlemanly, warm, and encouraging, and he is always trying to help me become a better person. I understand that my inability to be pleasing or satisfactory has caused his patience to wear thin and alter his personality some from how it used to be, and nothing troubles me more than to know I cause him as much stress and drain him emotionally, as he says I do. I am doing my best, but it does not seem like enough."
* sigh * Sending you away or refusing to speak to you because things aren't going his way is not something a Dom would do, that's what a child does. Based on your descriptions, you are more than willing to please and follow commands issued so, at this point, these are his failings, not yours. I'm not saying you are perfect, I wouldn't know one way or the other, but given that you have seemingly put yourself out there as best you can, it's plain as day that the lack of wanting to put forth any real effort on his part speaks to a complete absence of respect for your feelings as a person. You are being invalidated.
Case in point
A prime example of the sort of self important, passive aggressive, verbal diarrhea you are probably being subjected to. Which imparts the sense that, one that acts this way, isn't fit to " Dom " anything higher up on the evolutionary chain than fucking pocket lint or the drool that accumulates on their pillow while they sleep.
Again, if he isn't willing to at least have any real dialogue about this with you, I urge you to seriously reconsider your arrangement. Despite how you have been made to feel, you have worth and don't deserve to be treated like this.
( Also, if your post is " rambling ", I just put the whole of the Internet to sleep )