Newbie Slave looking for an online Domme

[pablo7856]

Hi, I am an 18 year old male student from the U.S. looking for a female Domme for online play, with the long-term possibility of a real life encounter.

I have very little real life experience (only by myself) and very little online experience in BDSM/Femdom; however, I have a very strong interest which I have been exploring recently through the Internet. I am 5'8, clean cut, and have a moderately athletic build. Some of my particular interests include teasing/orgasm denial, strap-ons/anal play, and mild CBT. I am very flexible though and am willing to compromise, however there are certain limitations that I will not cross. While I have little experience, I feel that I can be trained to be an obedient and fulfilled slave. I am a kind, caring, and gentle person and I feel that I would not only serve well, but I would also be a good friend.

I am looking for a female Domme for online play only as of right now. Age is not an issue, neither is physical appearance to a point. Someone with experience who is willing to teach me would be nice, but learning with someone else who is new to the scene would be equally good as well. Most importantly, I would like someone who knows when to be strict and cruel and knows when to be kind; someone who would respect my serious limits, but also push me beyond certain limits.

If you are at all interested in what I have to offer, or if you have any questions or comments for me, please PM or e-mail me. Thank you for your time.

 

[pablo7856]

anyone interested?

 

[Evil_Geoff]

Hi pablo,

Rather than re-inventing the wheel, I'll re-post a message I shared a while ago with another male submissive who's looking. He hasn't taken any of the advice I offered and he's still looking. Perhaps you'll have better luck. Please understand that this is advice intended to help you find someone, because your personal ad is well thought out and presented. You've done some homework and given it some thought. This speaks well of you.

But honestly, I don't think the Lit personals will do you much good, the folks who use them seem to be mostly interested in cyber-fantasy online play. Women are generally FAR less interested in cyber wanking then men are. Since that's what you are asking for, you've limited your target audience to the few who are interested in cyber play.

Consider also your target audience - Female Dominants. They are the smallest group of kinksters to start with, and when you consider that male submissives are the largest group, you begin to see that the FemDoms have a target rich environment. THEY don't need to go looking for subs, they have too many to sort through already coming to them! So why should a FemDom want to play with YOU? What makes you interesting or special? What qualities or skills do you have to offer that makes you different from the 10,000 other horney, eager, obedient, willing 18 year olds throwing themselves out there for some Domme to pick and use?

Your best bet to get noticed is to start posting regularly in the BDSM Talk and BDSM Cafe forums. Ask intelligent questions, share your thoughts and feellings. Put a signature line in your profile refering back to this personal ad thread so when someone feels an interest they can click and visit. Have a profile that actually tells something about who and what you are. Your profile has NOTHING in it. Nothing at all except your instant messenger addresses.

Think of your profile and personal ad like a resume' for a job. You need to very quickly let someone know your skills, interests and abilities, AND why you are worth calling in for an interview. If _I_ was looking for a new partner or someone to play with, just based on your profile, you would get tossed in the "don't schedule an interview" pile. Why would anyone else give you a second glance either?

pablo, please take this in the spirit it is intended - not as criticism, but as advice to help you find what you are looking for. Horney submissive male teenagers are a BUYERS market. Since you are selling, you need to let the world know why YOU are worth buying.

You also may want to try finding BDSM groups in your area, or at least close enough that you can visit from time to time. Making friends and networking can be very helpful! To find local Munches, email groups, and events in your area, try:

SceneUSA - http://www.darkheart.com/sceneusa.html
Caryl's Page - http://www.drkdesyre.com/
The BDSM Events Page - http://www.thebdsmeventspage.com/ which has links to both organizations AND events.

Good Hunting!