Newbie or not Newbie

[iann666]

that is the question????
When does a newbie stop being a newbie??
Is it the number of posts?
Number of threads started?
Length of time as a member?
Or something else

Being a member of the GB Forum is similar to driving a car, we all had to start as a learner. A fact that a few of founder or
x billion post members seem to have forgotten. Although I understand their frustration that threads are duplicated from time to time and we don't all get the true meaning of posts when references to much earlier threads are involved, I do feel that a little patience and even help proves more effective than a verbal tirade of how pissed off they are. So come on you respected
adepts give us time and I feel sure that the majority of us will
reach your expectations.
Saying that I have found the majority to be helpful,kind and considerate to the shortcomings of us newbies.
Thanks for listening
Ian

 

[EnchantedBeauty]

For *some* reason yesterday I was actually asking myself this yesterday. I thought ok I dont know these people so dont come down hard on yourself. I do admit I read a post yesterday and I thought sheesh after that why even bother coming back. Is this how people really feel towards new people? When does one newbie become non-newbie anymore? When do newbies become people too? *sigh* I find myself even wondering if I should even post anymore. Maybe my opinion doesnt matter to anyone but myself but I thought I could at least post it here and get it off my shoulders. *shrugs* I guess I was wrong.

 

[lillend]

Hmmmmm....kinda strange, but I do not consider you to be a newbie, I guess it is just that I'm so much newer. I'm not sure it even matters if you are a "newbie" or not. Though I am happy that I lost my "virginity' yesterday, see....it says I'm "experienced' now .

 

[EnchantedBeauty]

Hmmmmm....kinda strange, but I do not consider you to be a newbie, I guess it is just that I'm so much newer. I'm not sure it even matters if you are a "newbie" or not. Though I am happy that I lost my "virginity' yesterday, see....it says I'm "experienced' now .

lillend, it just seems that you have to have posted thousands of posts before someone will consider you a non-newbie. Congrats on being deflowered!!!

 

[Renegade]

For me, registration date is what determines a newbie. Everyone has their own way of deciding when they stop being a newbie, but that's what does it for me. But then, there are those who stop considering themselves a newbie after posting for a month. Personaly, during my first few months at Lit, I didn't stop considering myself to be a newbie till after four or five months of posting. I'm sure many would disagree with waiting that long to stop considering themselves to be a newbie.

 

[EnchantedBeauty]

Oh I still consider myself a newbie...I just registered this month but have been around alot longer. My problem with being labeled a newbie is that all the *old* timers...no offense...dont seem to want to post back to a newbie. Or they seem to think that a newbie has no business posting in some areas. Thats the impression I got and if I am wrong then forgive me.

 

[iann666]

For *some* reason yesterday I was actually asking myself this yesterday. I thought ok I dont know these people so dont come down hard on yourself. I do admit I read a post yesterday and I thought sheesh after that why even bother coming back. Is this how people really feel towards new people? When does one newbie become non-newbie anymore? When do newbies become people too? *sigh* I find myself even wondering if I should even post anymore. Maybe my opinion doesnt matter to anyone but myself but I thought I could at least post it here and get it off my shoulders. *shrugs* I guess I was wrong.

But somehow I don't think you're a quitter keep posting

 

[cymbidia]

Why... why... why... at whom was this aimed?

BECAUSE you're both such newbies, Ian and EB, you don't have a clue how totally rare and uncharacteristic my "tirade" was yesterday. Perhaps if you had listened to what others said in response to my screaming, you might have picked up a clue. Apparently, you just decided to get your feelings all knotted up about it instead. Oh well.

Here's the deal.

1. Everyone has a bad day every now and then - and it comes out here if they're real people, just like it comes out in their everyday life.

2. Everyone here started as a newbie. Everyone here wandered around feeling out of things for awhile. Everyone here - even foaming at the mouth bitches who get off on abusing newbies and seem to possess a whole heap of lamentably godawful qualities, like me - even we understand that being new in a place where everyone seems to get all the in jokes except us - well, it's sorta hard.

3. Everyone here gets tired of people who do not know the background of sensitive issues sticking their bluntly unhelpful and piteously uninformed advice into the thing.

You are done being a newbie when YOU feel like you're no longer a newbie.

There's no magic post total. For instance, Ruby came here and was never a newbie. From her first post, she was a part of the fabric of the place. It has to do with attitude and the ability to just claim a place for yourself. No one is ever gonna wave a magic wand and pronounce you "Not A Newbie!".

Complaining and moaning about the wrongs done to you by ... shhhhhhh... unkind posters who scream FUCK from the rooftops, well, that's just whining, boys and girls. You want to be a whiner, go ahead. You want to have fun and find a place here that you like, go ahead.

Most of the newbies don't last.
Some do.
This isn't a secret club.
Post.
Pick the people you like to post with and make friends with and flirt with.
Post more.
Get irritated by stuff and learn to duck under the shit being slung or scream at it.
Post more.
Pretty soon you, too, will know the background of the stuff that plays itself out so intensely here. Believe it or not, pretty soon you, too, will be asking the rest of us, "Where the fuck did all these newbies come from - Mars?"

When you do, i'm reviving this thread though.
Just thought you might want to know that.

 

[Renegade]

Or they seem to think that a newbie has no business posting in some areas. Thats the impression I got and if I am wrong then forgive me.

Don't worry about that. When I first joined, it was pretty much the same thing with me mostly talking with other newbies. Then, after awhile, some older members who liked my posts started talking with me more and now I have a lot of friends here who registered long before me. Give it time.

 

[juicylips]

Enjoying my newbie status

I like reading the different posts, threads and getting to know the different personalities on the boards.

Everyone here has been extremely kind and gracious to me. I have no complaints.

Cassidy,
happy to be flirting and posting

 

[EnchantedBeauty]

Thanks Renegade for the advice....And btw I like the movies thread as you probably have noticed. Cymbidia just like you said yesterday I am not aiming any of this at *one* person. I didnt even start the thread, I just posted my *opinion* like I have been. Believe me it would take alot more then one person ranting..as you said it...to make me want to leave. I enjoy the time I spend here. And I am also no whiner....If I was a whiner I would have said alot more then these posts. I take things with a grain of salt and move on. I did read your posts yesterday and I do understand everyone has bad days. Just please remember that when I have mine. Or when I am pms'ing

 

[Saturn Return]

Picture yourself at a big party..filled with interesting and very diverse people.

You then find yourself roaming around the room...joining into the various discussions.

What do you do?
How do you conduct yourself?

Do you walk up into the middle of a debate on if Bush is handling things well..and you immediately start talking about how you have a hole in your sock?

Do you listen for a bit waiting for a pause in which to say something informative..that hasn’t been said yet?

Do you start cussing at the guy across from you because he is pro Bush?

Do you pick apart what a woman is wearing or tell her that her lips are too big for your liking?

Do you shout as loud as you can at everybody because you crave attention..even if it's the negative kind?

It’s not brain surgery..

Am I a newbie?

Oh yeah.
I could never know all the dialog that has been exchanged between the many people here..


But like becoming a new friend in any group of established friends…blend in, be yourself, try to say things that others find at least half way interesting..

And play nice in the sandbox.

 

[lillend]

Well....I will most likely be a "newbie" for a long time, but it doesn't really bother me. I am a bit shy and I only post when a topic catches my interest. I tend to be a bit serious when posting, and that makes me come across as a bore, but hey that is how (not meaning the "bore" part . Anyhow, I generally do not "chat" on Discussion boards, that may change though...who knows. I generally only chat on IM and occasionally chat rooms. I tried going in chat here, but did not stay long. Chat here seemed to me to be just a place to go have cyber....and I'm simply not interested. I love discussions though and even if I never feel like I'm a part of this place I still continue to come here. I love to hear what others have to say. There are a lot of very intelligent people here and that is what I come here for....not to feel that I'm part of something.


Oh...thanx EnchantedBeauty.....I never knew I was going to get a chance to lose my virginity a second time .

 

[juicylips]

BTW

Ian,

I think we were both virgins at the same time..September was it?

Looks like we are both really, really experienced now...

Cassidy

 

[iann666]

Re: BTW

Ian,

I think we were both virgins at the same time..September was it?

Looks like we are both really, really experienced now...

Cassidy

And what a pretty virgin you were

 

[Cheyenne]

The world was so much smaller then...

Maybe being a newbie is tougher now than it was 18 months ago. There were far fewer members back then, far fewer threads started every day. Anyone contributing to the board back then I think felt "part of the gang" very quickly.

Personally, I like the board the way it is now. More people, more diversity in threads. I've tried to keep up with opening every thread at least once, and it has only been the last couple weeks where I've had to let that goal go. Facing 3 and 4 pages of threads at night takes time I don't always have! But I still try to get to as many threads as I can. And it doesn't matter to me if they were started by newbies or old timers. The topics are the most important factor.

So, start posting! You won't feel like a newbie for long.

 

[cymbidia]

Saturn, you're the most interesting newbie we've had round here in a long time, imo. In fact, because you understand the dynamics of online communities so well, and because you lurked for so long before beginning to post, i don't even think of you as a newbie at all. I think you're an incredibly interesting addition to the stew we've got going here.

EB, buck up, girl. Post. Play. Be real. You'll feel at home in no time. When you do, well, then you're not a newbie anymore. It's just that easy. There's no magic post total you have to meet, no date from which we count you newbie or not, and no secret vote granting you admission to the hallowed ranks of Not A Newbie Any More; you're not a newbie when you feel you're not. At least that's the way i see it.

Lillend, i've been watching your posts. You have an interesting way of expressing your thoughts. Please know that you don't need to be all flirty and chatty and play sexy word games in order to be at home here. There are *many* of us who've never been to chat, who don't really flirt with anyone, and who have well-reasoned and imapssioned views to present on issues that will never involve two (or more) people giggling at each other. The board is in a flirty, light, who-likes-who sorta headspace right now. It changes. It's a cyclic thing, in a way - kinda organic, almost. When i got here, Lit was sliding into what proved to be (i think) the very worst couple months of all-out war in it's history. It was no fun. I stayed WAY out of all of it and just posted on stuff that had nothing to do with the nuculear holocaust going on around me.

JL, you're definitely an original, too. You can't say that you've ever really felt not at home, can you? From the first, you just assumed a place and flowed with the board and all the personalities here.

I actually like newbies.
I almost always say hello and try to help where and when i can.
I always have.

Y'all caught me on a really bad day yesterday. And if you can't let it go and move past it, then... well... gee... fuck you and the horse you rode in on.

 

[iann666]

Cymbadia

This thread was not directed at you .I have read and enjoyed your previous threads and posts and I am aware that everyone has an off day now and then myself included. As I said earlier I respect the experience gained by yourself and others and your popularity speaks for itself, I just feel that some need to lighten up on the newer members and instead of putting them down help them along as I have been helped.

 

[juicylips]

JL, you're definitely an original, too. You can't say that you've ever really felt not at home, can you? From the first, you just assumed a place and flowed with the board and all the personalities here.

I actually like newbies.
I almost always say hello and try to help where and when i can.
I always have.

.

Love you too, cym....

Cassidy

 

[EnchantedBeauty]

Y'all caught me on a really bad day yesterday. And if you can't let it go and move past it, then... well... gee... fuck you and the horse you rode in on.
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Ok sounds good....Hiya cymbidia I am new here my name is EnchantedBeauty but my friends call me Missy

 

[lillend]

Thanx Cymbia....not sure what is interesting about the way I express my self, but thanx anyways . As a side note....I've yet to be offended by anything that has been said by anyone on this board. It is pretty hard to offend me though.

 

[MysticSwing]

I'm a newbie. I've been a newbie since 9-11-01. I will probably consider myself a newbie for quite some time yet. I try to follow the "Shut up and listen before you open your mouth and insert your foot" rule before I say too much of anything. (Although I can't guarentee that I won't be inserting my foot every now and then. So for that, I appologize in advance, LOL. The best I can do is try. *smile*)

I came to Lit to share my stories... I came to the BB to meet and make new friends. So far I've found great enjoyment in doing both.

So, all I can say is "Nice to meet you all and I hope to get to know you better!"

~~Mystic

 

[iann666]

welcome

welcome MysticSwing and happy posting

 

[MysticSwing]

Re: welcome

welcome MysticSwing and happy posting

Thank you iann, nice to meet you! And many happy postings to you too!

~~Mystic

 

[ToddHwrd]

I suppose???

Well considering the small number of posts that I have, I suppose that would make me a newbie but I don't feel like a newbie. I just spend a lot of time sort of watching all the insanity, mixed in with a lot of humor and some seriousness. I have a blast just reading and watching, when I see something of interest I post to it. If something is bothering me or if I have a quetion or a statement then I post, but I agree with several people that have posted on this topic that it's not how many you post but how you feel when you post. Thanks to everyone for making me feel welcome.

Todd