Newbie here looking for advice...

[CuriousMama]

Some background...

DH and I have been married for almost 3 years He had never had any sexual experience before marriage. I had been with a couple of guys throughout high school and college.

We are conservative and quite frankly...boring.

I'm trying to come up with new ideas to spice up our sex life. He's mentioned a few times that he is interested in a threesome with another woman...but I highly doubt we're going to find any willing participants from our Sunday School class

Where do we begin? I've never even entertained the idea of being with another woman. I'm not against trying if it'd bring my husband pleasure...but I'm afraid I'd be so nervous or feel so awkward.

We don't own any toys, movies, games...nothing. We're boring. And I'm tired of boring. He's also exhausted working 40 hours a week and going to school fulltime, so I do have to cut him some slack.

Oh...I'm 24 weeks pregnant with our second kiddo...so any wild and crazy adventures would have to be preggo safe!

HELP! TIA.

 

[pellso27]

I want to play around with a preggo chick if you are interested

 

[Lalah]

You could always look for and visit the swinger clubs in your area. You'll make some contacts, and sometimes they let single persons in if they are accompanied by a couple.

I don't know if they'd let you in while pregnant, but plenty of people have a pregnant women fetish so the sex part itself shouldn't be a problem.

As for finding some kinks that interest you, just browse the stories here and see what sounds appealing, then come back and ask about that particular activity.

 

[CuriousMama]

So where would I find swinger clubs in Bryan/College Station, Texas? LOL

Going to browse the site now. Thanks for not making fun of the newbie here.

 

[Lalah]

Entering swinger clubs in texas in google gave me a couple of swinger clubs lists. One website even had the option of letting you enter your zipcode so it could tell you exactly how far away from you they are. This may be a way to start looking.

These clubs seem to have phone numbers listed. If you find one nearby you can always call for more info. Or you could also try craiglist or a dating site. There's people tripping all over themselves to take part in a threesome. Heck, you already got a proposal and you haven't even started looking yet.

 

[curious2222]

DH and I have been married for almost 3
years He had never had any sexual experience before marriage. I had been with a couple of guys throughout high school and college.

We are conservative and quite frankly...boring.

...We don't own any toys, movies, games...nothing. We're boring. And I'm tired of boring. He's also exhausted working 40 hours a week and going to school fulltime, so I do have to cut him some slack.

Oh...I'm 24 weeks pregnant with our second kiddo...so any wild and crazy adventures would have to be preggo safe!

HELP! TIA.

It sounds like your DH has been watching porn and thinks it would be way cool to do this. He may be wanting to make up for his lack of experience earlier. Also, working a lot, with a second child on the way, he probably feels overtaken by responsibility and thinks something wild would be exciting.


In all honesty I doubt, given your background, that the swinging idea is something you would find palatable.

Bringing a third person into the bedroom creates consequences you probably have not even considered.

This would be like going from 0-120 mph in about 10 seconds, sexually speaking.

Why not try some toys, read some books about spicing things up, etc., and try that? You can always try to swinging later if that is what the both of you still want.

Just my thought.

 

[CuriousMama]

It sounds like your DH has been watching porn and thinks it would be way cool to do this. He may be wanting to make up for his lack of experience earlier. Also, working a lot, with a second child on the way, he probably feels overtaken by responsibility and thinks something wild would be exciting.

Not that I am naive as to think that if my DH wanted to watch porn, he'd find a way...but the man literally doesn't have time, LOL. We only have 1 tv in the living room and my brother lives with us....makes it kind of hard. Our computer is also in the living room.

Not that I'd mind....but he said that he'd only watch porn with me. Where do I start on the hunt for toys/videos? I desire to keep him sexually satisfied and happy. I don't want the mundaneness to overcome us!

Thank you guys so much for your input. I really appreciate it. Maybe we'll just start off in baby steps

LOL...the idea of another woman trying to maneuver around this basketball that is my stomach makes me laugh!

 

[Lalah]

Literotica has a video on demand service. I haven't tried it but it could be helpful if you're looking for professional porn movies.

 

[ero_dream]

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[Lalah]

Having sex sex with a third person is not so "extreme" as some of you make it sounds like. Especially if it's one time and the other person is hours' drive away and has no contact with you in your daily life.

Just don't pick your best friend and there should be no jealousy issue over the other person. Is he going to drive over half the state every day to go flirt up behind your back?

 

[EndowedTigerman]

Some background...

DH and I have been married for almost 3 years He had never had any sexual experience before marriage. I had been with a couple of guys throughout high school and college.

We are conservative and quite frankly...boring.

I'm trying to come up with new ideas to spice up our sex life. He's mentioned a few times that he is interested in a threesome with another woman...but I highly doubt we're going to find any willing participants from our Sunday School class

Where do we begin? I've never even entertained the idea of being with another woman. I'm not against trying if it'd bring my husband pleasure...but I'm afraid I'd be so nervous or feel so awkward.

We don't own any toys, movies, games...nothing. We're boring. And I'm tired of boring. He's also exhausted working 40 hours a week and going to school fulltime, so I do have to cut him some slack.

Oh...I'm 24 weeks pregnant with our second kiddo...so any wild and crazy adventures would have to be preggo safe!

HELP! TIA.

You could hire an escort... maybe explore other thing you can try first.... threesome might damage your relationship...maybe anal... or bondage...etc.

 

[WestVaCouple]

Try

Try posting an ad on swappernet.com or swinglifestyle.com

 

[bailadora]

In all honesty I doubt, given your background, that the swinging idea is something you would find palatable. Bringing a third person into the bedroom creates consequences you probably have not even considered. This would be like going from 0-120 mph in about 10 seconds, sexually speaking. Why not try some toys, read some books about spicing things up, etc., and try that? You can always try to swinging later if that is what the both of you still want. Just my thought.

Hello, CutieMama of Aggieland, and welcome to Lit. Based on the information you've given thus far, I'd have to say that I agree with Curious that jumping into a threesome right off the bat might be a bit much to begin with. I'm not saying it's something you should rule out entirely if you both have an interest, just that it's not something to be entered into lightly. Do your homework, research the topic (the Blank Manual and these threads are a good place to start), ask questions, consider the possible ramifications (jealousy, std's, privacy, etc) and how you plan to handle them should they arise. Then you and he can make an informed decision on how and if you wish to proceed.

Not that I'd mind....but he said that he'd only watch porn with me. Where do I start on the hunt for toys/videos?

FreddyandEddy.com is a couples friendly website that offers reviews of a variety of toys and porn videos. I've chatted with Alicia - one of the owners and she was very, very helpful. Sweet Ericka - one of HT's regular contributors has recommended babeland.com in the past as a good source of info and if I recall correctly, mentioned that they have an outstanding return policy. If you are looking for good toys on a budget, Sweet E has also mentioned that she's gotten some pretty good deals off of the adult section of ebay.

Regarding the TV in the living room situation - is it small enough that you can move it into your room for an evening? If not - do you have any relatives nearby that would watch your brother and kiddo for an evening or possibly even overnight? Failing that - is your brother old enough that you can have him sleep over at a friend's house for a night or two? With the kiddo sound asleep, this might give you and your husband some time to snuggle on the couch for a little adult entertainment-.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

It does sound like you need time alone where you can get physical while making noises above a whisper. Why not get a sitter for your kid/brother (or have your brother sit for your kid, whatever) and book into a cheap motel for the night? You can watch porn together, try out a couple of toys and just be together as a couple again. Taking time away from the home and the hassles of everyday life would be a very good idea and you wouldn't have to spend too much.

You can always try the old trick of meeting in the nearest bar and pretending you've never seen each other before. Who cares if your pregnant? Make it a date, make it fun and you'll both be in the right frame of mind to experiment.

If you do decide to include a third party I'd strongly advise you to do so somewhere other than your home. Neighbours talk and you don't need a casual acquaintance having your home address as sadly some people can't be trusted.

 

[mncouple4f]

I would say the first place to start is to snuggle up to him some night and whisper in his ear..."have you ever thought about trying _____" and tell him about how you came across something...toys... lingerie... porn.. a story on Lit (go figure)... etc. and you couldn't help but imagine him and you and go into a few details about what came to mind and what turned you on about it. Let him share some of his fantasies and finish off with maybe you should get 'such and such' someday and ask how he'd take advantage of the situation if you did. It's bound to open up some communication between you, will likely immediate lead to an evening of randy sex and open some possibilities for the future. Lining up a threesome isn't all that easy but by talking about it before hand, you figure out exactly what your looking for, maybe it isn't a threesome..... maybe watching another couple fits the bill better, or maybe something as simple as performing a strip tease for him is all it takes to get things started.

 

[SweetErika]

Having sex sex with a third person is not so "extreme" as some of you make it sounds like. Especially if it's one time and the other person is hours' drive away and has no contact with you in your daily life.

Just don't pick your best friend and there should be no jealousy issue over the other person. Is he going to drive over half the state every day to go flirt up behind your back?

How "extreme" it is depends on the people involved. It can certainly cause problems, stress and strain a relationship, sometimes to the point of breaking.

I'd say it's a poor place to start for a couple who just wants some spice and hasn't tried anything safer yet.

I'd also be worried about having sex with others during pregnancy. It seems unwise to risk adding stress, diseases and infections unnecessarily during pregnancy when one could wait a few months or a year and not expose their baby to those potential outcomes.

So, CM, I'd definitely try the lighter stuff suggested before jumping into playing with others. There's a ton of fun to be had even with very little time and money!

 

[koksucr]

I'm new 2

Hi, I'm new to this also. My story is a bit different. I am happily married but we want to spice things up with a 3 some but don't know how to go about it. i only want it to be another female as I'm happy with the man I've already got. Any suggestions out there as to go about it ??

 

[voluptuary_manque]

Another place to try is here. They are very marriage-friendly and the furniture and shapes are all they're cracked up to be. I'd start with the Whirl, especially because of your pregnancy.